"Why can't I be fulfilled by what I SHOULD be able to?"
-Higher-drive men, Higher-drive women
"Why can't I get aroused by what I SHOULD be able to?"
-Lower-drive women, PI/ED men
I want to invite you to consider what brings you pleasure.
I want you to consider what causes you to ENJOY life.
At Delight Your Marriage we focus a lot of intimacy. (And this episode does too).
God has designed sex to be a way to receive pleasure.
But is it God's only way for you to receive pleasure in this amazing world?
Did Jesus receive pleasure in this world? (Even without sex?)
For higher drive husbands/wives (or those in sexless marriages): You are a wo/man who doesn't receive the pleasure from sex that you crave.
Jesus was tempted in every way that we are, and yet he never sinned. (HOW???)
For lower-drive wives/porn-induced ED/ED men: When you go on a journey of resensitizing your pleasure to everything this amazing world has to offer, you also resensitize yourself to the amazing gift of intimacy your spouse's unique body that God gives you in marriage.
Gaining pleasure in many more things in this life is incredibly important for you to fulfill God's call in the world.
Too many leaders/pastors/preachers have secret (and sometimes horrific) sins because they have no pressure release from the HARD work of ministry.
They do not have ANY pleasure activities except sex (at least that's what they think constitutes a holy life).
It's hard.
Jesus knows it's hard to resist temptation.
But he had MANY ways of receiving pleasure that had nothing to do with sex
He had zero "sinful outside-of-marriage sex" and he had zero "holy inside-of-marriage sex".
I invite you to listen with a curious heart to how God might want to invite you to resensitize yourself to the pleasure in HIS good world (in and out of marital intimacy) so that you can do the will of the Father ...as Jesus did.
Blessings,
Belah
PS - We'd love to help you and your marriage be all that God wants it to be to ultimately support the life and call God wants you to have... go to delightyourmarriage.com/cc for all the information of first steps!
PPS -Recent wife grad: "I wish I could really express just how many celebrations I’ve had through my weeks in this program. Both alone, and in my marriage."
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