With so much going on in the world, I think people are making big changes in their lives.
Given that people are becoming more aware of their own mortality, I think its making them decide to take action.
My encouragement in today's podcast: 256-How to Not Fail at Marriage, comes from a failure at marriage --ehemm --me!
When my first marriage failed I blamed him. When my second marriage was on the rocks, I realized I was the common denominator.
When I transformed myself, I witnessed this man change before my very eyes.
Now, that I work with many men and women from around the world, I wish I understood these truths and the essential Framework a wife and husband needs to not fail at marriage. And in fact thrive.
This episode is for you if your marriage isn't what you think it could be. I'd encourage you, if you know someone in that spot, this may be the perfect opportunity to send them insights that very well may transform their marriage.
None of us know when it's our time and God calls us home.
But right now, God has given us our spouse as the most important human relationship and I hope you honor it as such.
On today's show I cover:
-The 3 things men need to feel fulfilled in marriage
-The 3 things women need to feel fulfilled in marriage
-This Framework is what men and women need to understand to love each other the way the other receives love (hint: it's different for each spouse)
-What I wish I had known about sexual intimacy in my first marriage
-Why we are more respectful to strangers than our own life partner
If you are new to the Delight Your Marriage philosophies, this is a really good introduction. If you've been around for a while "repetition is the mother of learning" so I encourage you to take these insights too!
Find a deeper understanding of the Framework here!
Love & blessings,
PS - I'd love to invite you to send this to a friend if they're facing marriage challenges right now, this could save their marriage.
But the one about "do not covet your neighbor's wife," if taken seriously, guards against the "do not commit adultery" commandment.
Coveting is actually a very important sin for men AND women. We each need to take it very seriously.
It causes your sex life to dwindle if either partner is doing it.
Though men and women covet differently around sex, if given to that temptation, it has a huge impact on the bedroom.
God cares about our hearts. He cares about how we think and how we judge. And when we covet, we are taking our eyes off of what God wants us to focus on and consuming our attention with things that just don't matter as much and maybe they are even egregious sins.Coveting is actually a very important sin for men AND women. We each need to take it very seriously.Also, I talk about the sins of sex addiction and greed in this episode because I think they're very related as well.
When women covet the "neighbor's wife", it's still sin.Maybe we're jealous of another woman's flat stomach or some other standard of beauty we think is better than our own.
It causes us to hide, feel insecure and go away from intimacy with our spouse. Leaving our marriage more exposed to potential destruction.(Also, ladies, I still have to fight against this! That's our fight to win--the fight in our hearts and minds.)
If you want the specific Framework I use when working with my clients to help them love--the way their spouse receives love.
When you discover how your spouse receives love, and fulfill them in that way, they will naturally naturally love you the way YOU receive love (men differently than women)!
So go to delightyourmarriage.com/framework for the free download!
Have you been hurt? Have you been disappointed?
By your spouse. By those you love. By God.
I think the answer has to be yes. Disappointment is part of the human experience.
Jesus was disappointed and hurt by those he loved. But he somehow put his disappointments in a category where it didn't slow down His mission to do God's will.
In this episode, I share how I felt disappointed by my husband and went about things the wrong way.
And I share what I should have done (for your benefit :)
Yes, I'll share how to motivate your spouse to do what you want, but more importantly what to do if they don't. It's a perspective shift that's required if you're going to have a healthy and happy marriage.
But also I share how to have less disappointments and be less hurt by your spouse.
If you've been disappointed by God, I want to speak to that as well.
Especially as this pandemic is taking it's toll on so many in so many different ways, we can easily get disappointed at God. How could he do this? How could He allow this?
How does He not stop this? I want to speak to this.
I aim to comfort you and help you process your disappointments and give you a road map of how to have a much better sense of control when you are seeking to heal things with your spouse.
Love & blessings,