255-Coveting Affects Your Sex

Most people don't use that word anymore. 

But I think "coveting" is still very relevant to our world today.

And is still an egregious sin we need to take seriously for our benefit and God's Kingdom.

When I look at the Ten Commandments, I used to think they weren't all that related to one another... and they didn't have much to do with marriage or sex. 

1- But looking at them again, there's a thread that runs through them very beautifully: contentment with God's will for you. 

2- Sex is even directly indicated.

But the one about "do not covet your neighbor's wife," if taken seriously, guards against the "do not commit adultery" commandment.

Coveting is actually a very important sin for men AND women. We each need to take it very seriously.

It causes your sex life to dwindle if either partner is doing it. 

Though men and women covet differently around sex, if given to that temptation, it has a huge impact on the bedroom. 

God cares about our hearts. He cares about how we think and how we judge. And when we covet, we are taking our eyes off of what God wants us to focus on and consuming our attention with things that just don't matter as much and maybe they are even egregious sins.

 

Coveting is actually a very important sin for men AND women. We each need to take it very seriously.

 

Also, I talk about the sins of sex addiction and greed in this episode because I think they're very related as well.

Coveting and adultery are equal sins. But the former leads to the latter. 

Adultery is an outward sin while coveting is a sin of the heart and it happens first. 

Coveting is where we should be vigilant so the outward sin can't even come close. 

 

When women covet the "neighbor's wife", it's still sin.

 

Maybe we're jealous of another woman's flat stomach or some other standard of beauty we think is better than our own. 

It causes us to hide, feel insecure and go away from intimacy with our spouse. Leaving our marriage more exposed to potential destruction.

 

(Also, ladies, I still have to fight against this! That's our fight to win--the fight in our hearts and minds.)

I have actionable recommendations to help you avoid this temptation for your benefit and to serve God and His people better. I hope you'll listen in.

Wishing you a wonderful week!

Love and blessings, 
Belah

 

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