Today's topic is a topic that I hear a lot about from men and women. 

I'm addressing men because I think there is a lot of misunderstandings about what turns a woman on. I want to give you some practical help. I'm not mincing words here (though I do make up my own--if you're a long-time listener you understand. :)

This may be some of my best guidance for men, and so I hope you listen with a pen and paper. But women may never have been able to articulate their challenges before, and this may give them language for it... 

   - What matters to her in orgasm

   - How to tease

   - How to make her enjoy the experience

   - Why she doesn't now

Men, I believe this could transform your intimacy if you let it.

Blessings,

Belah

PS If you like this, I have a FREE Men's Masterclass coming up Monday, July 19, Tuesday, July 20, & Wednesday, July 21. This is a great effort for me and my whole team (including interactive coursework and an opportunity to win discounts or free coaching with me). Some men have been waiting for this to reopen for months, so register now and add Mon.-Wed., July 19 - 22, to your calendar. (Assume each lesson is about 1 hour -- for the lesson & homework). delightyourmarriage.com/masterclass

Life is messy. 

Things get busy.

Our focus can get on things that just don't matter.

But... 

We get to start over. 

We can take a breath. 

We can reach to see God's perspective. 

What does He think about this situation? 

What matters to Him most in this difficulty? 

I don't think we can see His perspective unless we're well-rested. 

Unless we "come to Me all you who are weary and heavy-laden and I will give you rest.”

It's a discipline to come to Him...to receive His rest. 

It's a discipline to not fill your schedule, mind space, sad moments, loneliness, or even the spots of boredom with things that crowd out our possibility to ponder God's perspective on it. 

Because God has a totally different perspective on our lives than we do. 

We all get off-base. 

Loving our spouses the way they receive love isn't natural. 

We're seeking to do something supernatural when we love our spouses well. 

So if you are noticing you're falling on your face while trying to do that, or you've gotten off track in loving them well...

God wants you to rest, refocus and get back out there -- He is rooting for you. 

All is not lost, He is refining you on the path and in the ways He chooses.

Today's podcast goes into how to rest, how I rest, how I refocus, and how I suggest you "start over" in your marriage and all other areas of your life. 

Blessings,

Belah

PS - If you haven't looked yet, there are really fantastic free resources at delightyourmarriage.com/free!

She wanted nothing to do with touch, much less intimacy.

For years. 

She loved the Lord and it took a journey for Him to bring her to a place where she was ready to receive teaching around the importance of intimacy.

When Dana felt like her marriage was all but broken and then God took her on a journey and helped her to see what was missing in their marriage. 

They hadn't made love (at all) for years.

And when she took the Free Women's Masterclass the Holy Spirit spoke to her and completely transformed her marriage in a week!

And this is her story of transfomration.

From being repelled by his touch to craving intimacy with her hubby!

Blessings,

Belah

PS - If you'd like to take the Free Women's Masterclass that Dana speaks about it's available here for a limited time! delightyourmarriage.com/sc

PPS - If you're a husband who is hoping and praying for your wife to have this kind of transformation, let's see how we can help you.

Fill out a Clarity Call application so you can speak to a DYM Clarity Advisor -- someone who was in your shoes and the Delight Your Marriage programs changed their marriage and life: delightyourmarriage.com/cc