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Sep 29, 2020
Hi there,
 
Not sure if it was for you... but for me it was a whirlwind of a weekend. I put on a church conference on Saturday (in Spanish--eek!) which was scary, but God came through in an awesome way, which was so cool!
 
Also, on Friday I had the chance to interview 3 different graduates from my Masculinity Reclaimed program. Today's podcast is of Charles. 

His story is hard to believe---but one that will surely give you hope. 
 
To be transparent, I have 2 ulterior motives for sharing his story:
 
1- To invite you to my Free & Live Men's Masterclass coming up really soon, sign up here: www.delightyourmarriage.com/menstraining

My prayer is that men's lives are utterly and forever changed just by attending the Free Men's Masterclass Live.
 
And possibly, deciding after that training to enroll in the Masculinity Reclaimed program, which is what Charles went through. 

But my plan on the Free Men's Masterclass is not going to  be a "hide-the-ball" presentation, but to genuinely help your marriage turn around! 


2- To listen to the man who came into marriage and throughout his marriage with sadly, huge measures of infidelity. And yet, God did an incredible work of grace and healing in their marriage---reflected in their intimacy. 

And now, he can scarcely believe what his wife is doing for him in intimacy. (Bucket-list, before-he-dies-type-stuff!) 

Wild, right? I think you won't believe it unless you hear it, here. Plus he drops some serious golden nuggets you can apply immediately to your marriage, that you won't want to miss. God is good!

He gives great advice, and if you listen, he'll share some important keys that turned everything around.​​ 
 
Blessings,
Belah
 
PS Don't forget to sign up for the training now, so you don't forget! www.delightyourmarriage.com/menstraining
 
You'll want to put that on your calendar and clear your weekend to make sure you can attend live! 
Sep 17, 2020
Hi there, 
 
If you're going through hard times, this is particularly applicable because we need a lot of love right now. The right kind of compassion and care from our spouse and those around us. 
 
 

The best way to encourage your spouse is to attract them. I find it clear in the Bible that people have to be attracted towards Jesus by us living like him. Jesus did miracles and was compassionate to people before he ever rebuked them. 

 
Jesus dealt with people differently based on where they were spiritually. When someone was demon possessed he healed them and didn't rebuke them for dabbling in  whatever caused the possession. However, when the rich young ruler who practiced righteousness--and clearly was at a different place spiritually--came and asked about eternal life, Jesus let him know he needed to give all he had to the poor. 
 
Jesus calls us higher, based on where we are right now. And it's unique to each individual. If he spoke to the demon-possessed man like he did the rich young ruler, the demon-possessed man wouldn't have been attracted to him. Instead, he loved that man the way he needed to be loved in that moment. And the man then followed Jesus and became an incredible evangelist of the gospel. 
 
My invitation is to attract your spouse not to force or push them the way you think will help them get to Jesus. 
 
When Jesus said the golden rule "so whatever you wish that others would do to you, do also to them." I think he means love them in what they need right now. In who they are. In the way they receive love. 
 
It was my birthday and I shared with my closest friends that I wouldn't appreciate gifts, but I would love letters and donations to World Vision. If a friend likes to get gifts on their birthday and decided to give me a gift, I wouldn't feel loved. I would feel like they didn't really care about me. 
 
So, I encourage you to love your spouse the way THEY receive love. What do they like? 
 
It's different for men and women. I share what specific differences between men and women in particular. Treat your partner the way they want to be loved. Because you would want them to do that for you, right?
 
 
Love and blessings,
Belah
 
PS I'd love to invite you to join me at a Men's Masterclass at October 9 - 11, 2020 www.delightyourmarriage.com/menstraining
Sep 8, 2020

Hi there!


Hoping your day is going well? There's a lot of difficulty you may be facing right now, and one of the best gifts I can give you is rest. Well, not me but God.


It seems strange to think rest could help you cope with the intense struggle you're dealing with, but you may be quite surprised.


I'd like to share a podcast episode that is dear to my heart and my growth.


Why does rest matter to your life? Well, Jesus by no means hurried through life. He practiced Sabbath. He enjoyed His day to day life. Even children wanted to be around Him.  


If we're stressed we don't spend the time to connect with our partner in a meaningful way, in or out of the bedroom. For women, usually stress kills her libido but can increase her need for emotional connection. For men, it often makes them crave the release sex brings but he has low capacity to be present to her emotions.


How can any of us not stress? There are bills to be paid, kids to raise, food to prepare, chores to accomplish every single day. 


Rest doesn't fit into our lives. 


But I would posit, as followers of Jesus, we can't NOT rest and be aligned with His will. We need rest to ensure we're on track. It's easy to be on the rat race for years and have no perspective to see what does God actually care about in your life. 


If you don't have pause to calm your heart and mind, you can't discern what that is. It's not work, it's rest.


I am looking forward to sharing this with you. Good news: when you're rested, your intimacy in all ways increases.


Love and Blessings,


PS I am inviting you to save the date for the free LIVE Men's Training Oct 9 - 11!


You can sign up here: www.delightyourmarriage.com/menstraining

 

Sep 1, 2020

In this episode, I have a former student who is in his 70s and has been married over 45 years. 

Not only has he and his wife used some of these interventions themselves, he is also very well-versed in the research behind it. 

He nor I am a doctor and this is not meant to be taken as medical advice, but it is worth asking your doctor about these possible solutions.

He also talks about the important health choices their family has made to keep them healthy sexually and vibrant even in their latter years.

For links to the many resources mentioned, go to the show notes page.

 

To understand the Framework that I taught he and his wife when they worked with me, go to www.delightyourmarriage.com/framework 

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