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Delight Your Marriage | Sexual Intimacy, Relationship Advice, & Christianity

Hi, I'm Belah. Along with hundreds of thousands around the world, you will go deep into the real issues, how-tos and joys of sexual intimacy. It's playful, peaceful, purposeful, and really intimately exciting! Discover insights around godly intimacy on how men tick and how women feel! And you'll be amazed to hear the inspiring stories and advice from the expert guests as well! It's scriptural and practical. If you're a man, you'll be drawn because you want to understand your wife, how to invite her in intimacy and even your own God-given sexual desires. If you're a woman you'll understand how to enjoy and love your man through sex. Free gifts for you! If you're a woman wanting to increase your drive, get FREE resources at https://www.delightyourmarriage.com/drive If you're looking to be respected, enjoy fierce intimacy and loving being married again, have a FREE call with Belah ($500 value) https://www.delightyourmarriage.com/call
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Oct 27, 2020

Hi there!

 
I hope things are going well for you. I have an inspirational story to share with you today. It's a story of challenge and ultimately hope and healing. 
 
Alexis and Justin (re-definingnormal.com) grew up in homes that had significant abuses, including sexual and drug abuse. By societal expectations, they wouldn't have gotten through that pain.
 
But God intervened. Both went through the foster care system and by God's grace, amazing things have changed for them. AND they're now founders of organizations that help others who have gone through similar challenges.
 
They've written a book about their story and today, we focus on how Justin helped his wife heal from her trauma by his reliance on the Lord.
 
My encouragement is to listen in and be encouraged and inspired to continue your journey. And I think it will encourage you that people like Justin and Alexis are doing amazing things for people---Jesus' hands in the earth.  
 
Check out all the links we reference here!
 
Blessings,
Belah
 
PS I have some resources for women coming (I know I focused on the men for a while) so I encourage you to get the 6 Tips for Seduction here: delightyourmarriage.com/tips
Oct 20, 2020

I'd like to give you a view of communication that isn't repressing feelings but also isn't open with all of them, at least not all at once. And when you are open slowly, you are in a way that encourages the good rather than discouraging everything.

I think in our fast-paced society nowadays, we feel this inappropriate pressure to share all the feelings we have about a topic (sex is a big one!) with our spouse because we need to get that checked off of our mental burden list. Or we need to finally unload or get it off our chest.

So we pile on all these painful complaints, criticisms, and unacknowledged feelings all at once.

And it causes huge divisions between partners and can take years to heal, if at all.

My encouragement in today's podcast is to think of your relationship not as a 30-minute conversation but as a 90-year conversation. There is no need to address everything right now.

There is a need to be respectful, kind, gentle, grateful, and loving in all your communication with your spouse. When that is your "normal," then there is an opportunity to strategically place encouragements towards a general movement in a direction that is important to you.

"But that could take months, even years." Luckily, you have that. And you are strong enough to shift things slowly but surely in the right direction. The shocking thing is if you are disciplined and you are careful, it may take way less time than you think.

One important piece is you can make yourself happy during that time and happier as you wisely encourage and compliment in the direction you desire. (More on that in the podcast).

This is giving the truth in love. We don't need to rhetorically cut each other because we're lazy or we're "good at fighting." We can be gentle, humble, meek, self-disciplined, and patient with the truth--even in response to our partner's accusations.

This way is harder and requires Jesus' strength and character, but it will actually move you farther faster. The other can set you back for years to come and may undermine the very thing you're trying to improve.

I hope you'll listen to this podcast with an ear for what Jesus wants for your marriage and interactions in it.

Blessings,

Belah

 

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Oct 13, 2020
Hi there, 
 
This podcast is for men (or the women who want to peer inside of hearts of men) it's all about the specific Stages to Sexual Freedom that a husband can employ to transform his marriage---even if he's the only one doing the work.
 
If you're an action-taker once you know the process you're going to start and fix this once and for all, this is the podcast for you.
 
I believe that those who listen will feel empowered to do what God wants them to do in their marriage to truly transform it. 
 
In the second half of the episode I'll be sharing more about the Masculinity Reclaimed: Be respected, enjoy fierce intimacy, and love being married again program.
 
We'll even hear from Vikas who went from a sex-starved frustrated marriage with a young child to a place where she often initiates 3+ times per week and she doesn't' even know he did the program. 
 
To learn more about the program he went through, go to delightyourmarriage.com/mrsp 
 
Blessings,
Belah
 
 
Enrollment is open now but won't be open for long. Find out all the details here: www.delightyourmarriage.com/mrsp
 
 
 
Oct 6, 2020
This interview is with a man who had suffered in intimacy in his marriage for 14 years. 
She had intense anxiety (I've been there!) and it made intimacy very difficult for both of them. Sex would happen maybe 1x a month, but it was never something they could talk about. And masturbation was something he turned to alleviate the loneliness. 

Now they make love 3x per week--and she initiates 90% of the time! That is a manifestation of both of their courage and healing for both of them.

What happened?

Well, it all started with Steve the rooster. This is a good story. So...

Step #1 - Buy a rooster
Step #2 - Invite your mom over
Step #3 - Just kidding... :P 

But, there are fantastic keys in his story and the process they went through to get to the other side.
 
One important note I share at the end:

If you are a husband and you want your marriage transformed like Captain's be sure you... 

...don't accidentally undermine your wife's confidence.

That is exactly the topic I'll be speaking to on this weekend's Men's Masterclass. 

If you're not already, sign up for LIVE, FREE Men's Masterclass on Friday, Saturday, and Sunday!


Looking forward to speaking with you soon!

Love, 
Belah

PS Don't forget to sign up for the LIVE, FREE Men's Masterclass, sign up here with me THIS weekend!
 
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