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Now displaying: January, 2022

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Jan 28, 2022
Do you ever feel humbled by your mistakes?

Do you ever feel flat-out humiliated? 

 

Oh my, do I fall into that sometimes! 

I think the enemy feels glad about that -- and then the shame he heaps upon us while we're recognizing the mistake (and maybe the enormity of it.)

 

And that's when God's truth (as Kyle, DYM Mentor, reminded me of yesterday) is so helpful.

"Therefore, there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus" Romans 8:1

 

See, when we go out of our comfort zone and try to do God's work, we're going to trip. And that's normal. 

One reason I hope and pray that you have seen me trip is so that you can have more courage to get out there and do something that God has called you to do also. 

It takes courage, and we're going to trip. I'll raise my hand to that.

We're going to mess up. 

But the nice thing is God is present and He is helping us to get up and get better over and over again.

Note: Perfection isn't even a real possibility anyway -- who gets to decide what "perfect" even is? Who are we trying to impress, really? Which of the billions of humans' opinions are you going to listen to? And what if their opinion changes? 

But if you say, "I'm going to do my best. I'm going to do something bold". You're gonna mess up sometimes. And it's good! 

 

It feels terrible though. But that means you're still living. Just like a plant, if you're growing it means you're living. 

We have to own it and clean up the mess we made, but thank God you're not perfect and you're still growing. 

 

Also, the great thing about God, is that He may reveal your imperfections to those who admire you, for the reason that they need to see you as "not God".

They need to see God as God and you as a humble, imperfect servant who is just trying their best to make Him proud. 

 

So... 

 

Bravo to you. You're out there! You're doing it! 

We're not perfect. We're making a mess, but we're cleaning it up and trying to move forward a bit wiser and more compassionate next time. 

 

(Also, if you want to see someone "making a mess in public" check out our website right now: delightyourmarriage.com

We're in the middle of a refresh. And it's definitely in the "getting there" mode. 

Why didn't we put an "under construction" sign up and reveal once it's perfect? Well, then I would be taking away a lot of ways I serve you, plus how interesting is it to walk into someone's workshop and see what they're tinkering with as it happens? So, you're welcome to see how we're tinkering :)  

 

Wishing you a fantastic rest of your day, may this episode bless you and give you courage! 

 

Blessings,

Belah

 

PS -- If you'd like your marriage to go from ok even good to wonderful -- we'd love to help! delightyourmarriage.com/cc

 

Jan 21, 2022

This is a resource to invite your wife to Delight Your Marriage, and to me, Belah Rose. 

 

I would love for you, husband, to listen first and see if you might use this as a warm introduction to my material. 

 

It's so easy to see words on a page and be repelled by it, but it's far better for us to get to know each other on a personal level and I'm hoping that's what this episode allows for. 

 

(For those who have already gone through MR1 -- or are the recent graduating class -- I especially made this for you!)

 

If you've done the work on yourself, I think it makes sense to pray and ask God for His timing and see if this might be a tool that He can use for a brief and positive introduction to the work. 

The work that is transforming families and marriages around the world -- by God's grace! 

Blessings,

Belah

PS -- If you'd like your marriage to have the passion (even if you're really great friends right now), then you need to chat with one of our Clarity Advisors.

Allow them to hear your story and see if a program could truly make the change you're seeking. delightyourmarriage.com/cc

Jan 14, 2022

I think we often forget about the power of words. Especially if the "party" we're talking about isn't present. 

But what about the "party" that is present? 

 

Here's a true saying: "those who talk to you about others, will talk to others about you".

And when your spouse hears you judge another person, they may feel glad that you consider them a confidant. 

But the problem is, they also get to hear what kind of person you are. 

They understand if you judge others, you're going to judge them the same way. 

And judging outside of the bedroom means judging inside of the bedroom.

A judging mindset doesn't stop when you get in the sheets -- and your spouse knows it.

And specifically, women, can't feel safe and free if she knows she's sharing a mattress with a meany. 

 

Then, Jesus has some pretty scary things to say about our words:

"But I tell you that everyone will have to give account on the day of judgment for every empty word they have spoken."

Yikes! 

 

Who needs to go delete a few social media posts (or dozens?), amazon reviews, apologize to our spouse/kids/family/friends/acquaintances/coworkers, and repent bitterly for the silly nonsense we say!?

Gossip. Slander. Criticism. 

Lord have mercy.

 

This episode is a message to encourage all of us to watch our tongue. 

Or... keyboards.

(Regardless of how many followers someone has... you may be reading/listening to plain-old gossip.

And it's on each of us to look away from the "juicy slander" and recognize it for what it is and recognize that the speaker will have to give an account for it.)

 

This episode is a message is to remember the power of the tongue.

In James, he says A FOREST FIRE is ignited through it.

I want to challenge our cultural norm to say.... all sorts of immature things :) I can only say that with a knowing through experience expression. 

 

Thank you, dear listener...

...for always wanting to grow. 

...for always trying to do better. 

...for always wanting to make God proud of you. 

Bravo -- and good on ya!

 

Have a great weekend. 

 

Love and Blessings,

Belah

 

PS -- You need help in your marriage? You know where to find us! delightyourmarriage.com/cc

We'll get on a call with you and see how we can support you to transform your marriage to peace, playful, and passion <3

 

 

Jan 7, 2022
Jfyi, I recorded all of this episode (except for the very last portion) about 11 weeks ago, so for those currently in DYM programs -- take it personally -- but not because I recorded it thinking of you specifically :) 
 
What is masculinity? 

What our society says it is?

Powerful, rich, authority, direct, right, muscular, able and willing to kill, tough, deep, deep voice, no emotion, immovable, winner in every arena, sexually desired, admired by all...

Do you feel you have to always have the last word or you're considered weak?

Do you feel you have to fight to preserve your "manhood"?

Do you feel you have to have sex in a certain way/frequency/variety/engagement/enthusiasm from her, for you to feel like a man?

Do you feel your wife has to treat you with respect for you to feel like you're masculine?
 
I get how it is confusing based on the poor role modeling we get in our SERIOUSLY backward society.
 


The problem is... 

A mature woman scarcely gives a crumb about the aforementioned descriptions. 

And lucky you... you married a mature woman who grew from the early days of your relationship where a lot of those things mattered.

And now she wants a man who... well, I'll tell you.
 
There's an actual, clear example of true masculinity. 

The manliest of men.

The best example of manhood. 

The only one we must compare ourselves to and rise higher because of.

It's impossible to overstate the importance of us looking at Jesus as the role model of masculinity.
 

Jesus.
The one who was ridiculed, spit on, false accused, humiliated, laughed at, disrespected, endured suffering when he could have killed them all with a simple word...

That is the true man. 

That is our true masculinity. 

And that is what it means to be potent. 
 
When you live, love, and lead like Jesus, that is the man your wife is longing for.
 
Blessings, 
Belah
 
PS - If you're ready... but you don't know how to do this practically. 

That's why we've created and perfected the program Masculinity Reclaimed... God has used it to restore and revive MANY a sexless and lonely marriage. 

We'd love to help you, starting with a simple risky step of getting on a call with a Clarity Advisor who themselves have gone through a DYM program and God change THEIR marriages as a result. 

Would love to join you in this delightyourmarriage.com/cc

Be a real man, (LOL ;) we'd love to take that next step with you.

 

Jan 4, 2022

Do you have your goals for 2022?

Do you have your goals for Q1 of 2022?

I don't just mean business/work goals. I mean goals that help align your life with God's will.

Do you have a system for discerning God's will?

Well, in this episode I give you my system for discerning God's will and writing goals accordingly.


It's thorough, comprehensive, "begins with the end in mind", and keeps an eye to meeting Jesus central.

Too often people fail to consider the big picture so the small picture seems like it doesn't matter. Well, I want to give you a serious kick in the motivation and "you can do it!" through this episode.

Because -- through Christ -- you following God's will, can be super practical and doable! Here's my system.


The beginning of January is when everyone is excited about goals, so I suggest you use that momentum to set your own goals for the next 3 months (Not year, 3 months -- you'll hear why).

Now is the best time to discern and commit to those goals.

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Also, if marriage is on that list...we can help!

Go to delightyourmarriage.com/cc to schedule a free Clarity Call (similar to a consultation) where a Clarity Advisor speaks with you about your situation and evaluates how we can help.

Our 3-month programs cost about what you would pay a marriage therapist if you did weekly sessions for 3 months. We have seen couple after couple experiencing huge benefits in their marriages! (Have you checked out our amazing testimonials????)

Ever considered how much that you paid to get married? (Average cost of a wedding in the US is $28,000 nowadays!) Maybe yours was far less than that, but may I ask how much have you invested since then...to make it a lifelong, intimate & happy marriage? Which touches EVERY area of your life?

2022 may be the year to get help on that vow you made however many years ago!

Sign up for a free Clarity Call at delightyourmarriage.com/cc to find out how we can help you.

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No matter what your goals are in 2022...I want you to be intentional about discerning and setting them.

From all of us at DYM -- We love you and love being a part of your lives in the last year and are so grateful we get to be a part in 2022!!!

Listen in to today's podcast: 320-How I Discern God's Will -- Your 2022 Goals

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Blessings,

Belah


PS - A recent wife graduate wrote, "I have so enjoyed working with Belah. She has opened my mind and eyes to so many needs and desires of my husband that I honestly was ignorant of.

I am so grateful for the way we have grown closer in our relationship both sexually and emotionally.

Even though we are in a busy, tiring stage of life with 4 kids - 5 and under, I still find myself craving intimate sex and alone time with my husband."

Sign up for a free Clarity Call at delightyourmarriage.com/cc to find out how we can help you.

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