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Delight Your Marriage | Sexual Intimacy, Relationship Advice, & Christianity

Hi, I'm Belah. Along with thousands around the world, you will go deep into the real issues, joys, and how-tos of sexual intimacy. It's playful, peaceful, purposeful, and really intimately exciting! Discover insights around godly intimacy on how men tick and how women feel! And you'll be amazed to hear the inspiring stories of transformations and advice from the expert guests as well! It's scriptural and practical. If you're a man, you'll be drawn because you want to understand your wife, how to invite her in intimacy, and even your own God-given sexual desires. If you're a woman you'll understand how to enjoy your own pleasure and love your man through sex. Free gifts for you! If you're a woman wanting to increase your drive, understand her libido blocks, or other great FREE resources at https://www.delightyourmarriage.com/free If you're looking to see how to transform your marriage apply for a Clarity Call ($300 value) here: https://www.delightyourmarriage.com/cc
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May 2, 2017

Though our culture says you can "do it all". The truth is life is about trade offs.

We have limits in this life, and in order to ensure those which are off most priority are accomplished, we have to say no to the good to say yes to the best. 

Today's topic goes into this in depth. Why does it matter to your marriage?

Physical intimacy, emotional intimacy and spiritual intimacy all need to take priority while most others need to take a back seat or no seat at all.

How do you decide that? Lets chat together.

And I also share how I believe God is teaching me these vital lessons and how it affects DYM.

Resources: 

Essentialism: The Disciplined Pursuit of Less

Apr 25, 2017

Hi there! Belah here. Today, I have with me Juana Mikels of choosinghim.com.

Juana shares in Part I the very difficult beginning to her marriage. But she shares in this episode that things still require her to rely on God.

She says she depends on God's grace in her husband to be the leader of her family.

Listen in as she shares insights around what keeps her trusting God and allowing Him to use her even while feeling faithless...God is faithful.

delightyourmarriage.com/143

Apr 18, 2017

Hi there! Belah here. Today, I have with me Juana Mikels of choosinghim.com.

Juana is a wife and mother of 4; her youngest daughter was born blind.

She shares about her marriage that almost fell apart. Neither were believers when they married.

It's an incredible story of how they were separated for a long time and what God did to bring them back together.

Juana encourages us to honor and cherish the man He has given us.

 

See all the show notes here: delightyourmarriage.com/142

Apr 11, 2017

Hi there! Belah here and it's just me this time. I talk about the taboo topic of Oral Sex.

Yes, we need to start talking about this. And answering questions, like is it: bad? wrong? gross?

And what does it mean to your marriage. And more importantly what does it mean to your husband.

Listen in to hear why I think it is dirty and the change that needs to be made.

You'll probably be surprised at my responses about it.

Check out Delight Your Husband: The Christian wife's manual to passion, confidence and oral sex here, and here's just one of the reviews: 

Is your marriage falling apart? Read this book. It will save your marriage. This is my first amazon review. This book is a must to read if your marriage is falling apart. Investing less than $20 can save your marriage and even lift it to another level. I was a sexually very conservative and passive person. I never seduced my husband before.

He was always the one who initiated our intimacy. After my child was born, I intentionally avoided any sexual relationship with him because I was exhausted all the time. I think that was the point when our relationship became shaky.

After a few refusals, he did not even try to touch me anymore. I think my refusal hurt him deeply as a man as well as a human being. We did not talk to each other much. We just talked when we absolutely needed to, primarily about our kid.

I often felt that we were raising our child together but that is it. I felt so lonely, and so did my husband. I felt a huge distance between us. I decided to do something before it is too late or before I decided on a divorce. Fortunately, I came across Belah’s book. Honestly, I needed a lot of courage to initiate intimacy and sexual activity with my husband, but I knew it was my last resort. I took a few of the practical tips the author described in the book.

My husband was pleasantly surprised that I was attempting to seduce him. He seemed to be very happy and treated me differently. He often said, “Delight me.”

That is his way of saying that he wants to have sex with me. Slowly, our relationship has healed. Sex is definitely a love language between a married couple. Read this book if you feel a distance from your partner. 

Apr 4, 2017

Ever feel like your sex is taken for granted? Ever feel like your sexual desires are not even acknowledged, much less honored?

Today I'm talking about how to approach this and understand where you can take responsibility for receiving sexual respect. And understand how to also respect your husband's sexuality.

 

delightyourmarriage.com/140

Mar 28, 2017

Part 2: Be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to become angry.

But what about when we do get angry, when we do speak and when we don't listen?

Well, lets talk about how to do this better. We can all find healthier ways to process afterwards or avoid from the beginning.

Beth is sharing with us on the second half of her Journey interview how they learned to fight well and what steps and tools they use to make sure their conflicts draw them closer rather than tear them apart.

 

delightyourmarriage.com/139

Mar 21, 2017

Part I: If you've felt insecure about yourself, you know the icky feeling that hangs around and corrodes you from the inside.

In marriage it's lethal, because you and your spouse are trying to put up a facade and it just brings distance. It robs you both of the connectedness you're meant to share.

Today's guest shares how she started out very insecure in her marriage.

Conflict would scare her and she felt that if she were honest with him, he'd reject her. 

Their marriage had a rocky journey and she credits God for bringing them through, otherwise she said they'd probably be divorced.

And now they're about to celebrate their 30 year anniversary! Hear how they made it through, and what she's learned.

 

delightyourmarriage.com/138

Mar 14, 2017

What You'll Discover:

  • How to surrender to pleasure and feel that entirely
  • Learn to feel you deserve to orgasm
    • Does it make you feel too sexual?
    • Do you feel selfish?
    • Do you feel sex is just for him?
  • How to have a "Discovery Session" with your husband
  • Give yourself permission to learn
  • What daily practices you can do that will help in the moment
  • What ideas you can try in the bedroom to get there

delightyourmarriage.com/137

Mar 7, 2017

Peace is a vital element to the life God wants for us. If you have strife in your marriage, I have been there and I pray this will give you hope and tools to get it turned around. These are the keys I've learned that have made my marriage so much more peaceful than I ever would have imagined. 

delightyourmarriage.com/136

 

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Belah's book---Delight Your Husband: A Christian wife's manual to passion, confidence and oral sex---may be the tool God would use to bring light and joy to your marriage bed. 

If you're at a place of desire for change in intimacy in your marriage--men or women--consider signing up for a free Clarity Call ($500 value!) where you and Belah will dive deep into what's going on in your marriage and help you uncover what is blocking amazing intimacy! From couples that hadn't made love in years to couples who were in an affair--God has brought passion, healing and fun to these marriages!

She's currently offering this 40min Clarity Call opportunity to podcast listeners for free! Schedule here.

Feb 28, 2017

Part 2: What she thought was just a simple surgery from a chest injury turned into a year of serving and fear and all semblance of control being taken.

The threat of her husband’s death and his needing constant help shaped her in ways she didn’t expect.

Julie Dibble has walked a hard road in the most difficult challenge of her marriage.

But she remembers a quote “A great work requires a great and careful training”.

God she believes has trained her through this. But it’s not over and she’s still fighting to be surrendered to God’s plan over her own, every day.

Listen in to find inspiration and hope in the journey ahead.

 

Discover the show notes and many more resources at delightyourmarriage.com/135

Feb 21, 2017

What she thought was just a simple surgery from a chest injury turned into a year of serving and fear and all semblance of control being taken.

The threat of her husband's death and his needing constant help shaped her in ways she didn't expect.

Julie Dibble has walked a hard road in the most difficult challenge of her marriage.

But she remembers a quote "A great work requires a great and careful training".

 

God she believes has trained her through this. But it's not over and she's still fighting to be surrendered to God's plan over her own, every day.

 

Listen in to find inspiration and hope in the journey ahead.

delightyourmarriage.com/134

Feb 14, 2017

If you've ever felt like you were the only one not experiencing the ecstasies of sex, you are not alone.

I've been there and at least 1/4 of women don't experience orgasm. BUT they can.

And today we're talking about how and tips to get you there.

It is probably a process but there's a lot of information that will help you get there on this show. Listen in.

delightyourmarriage.com/133

Feb 7, 2017
  • Why is amazing intimacy so important?
  • Why should your sex-life be amazing?
  • How do you make your sex life as exciting as it's displayed in our culture?
  • The biggest barrier for women to amazing intimacy
  • Why your attitude matters
  • What your attitude means to your him
  • Actions to take to become sexually free
  • Why it matters to God for you to have an amazing sex life

delightyourmarriage.com/132 for the shownotes

Jan 31, 2017

She and her husband teach a class to help husbands understand how to love their wife better.

Here's her practical advice for men in the bedroom. Ruth Buezis helps men understand women's hearts and their bodies and how those interact.

Generally men are expected to be experts in the sex department, but there's so much misinformation and inappropriate stereotypes.

She says that men really do want to know what to do.

She compares the specific equipment of men's bodies with the female genitalia and shares the parallels in sensation and how to use them.

 

See all the show notes at delightyourmarriage.com/131

Jan 24, 2017

Lynn shares in this second half of her interview, about how she healed from the porn addiction of her husband.

She says you can forgive an addict too quickly and she tells us what forgiveness really is.

She talks about how God walked her through the most challenging time in her life and what changed in her as a result.

They survived to 25 years of marriage and it has now become sweet.

She also shares sexual intimacy tips that will help any wife...so listen in!

 

Check out delightyourmarriage.com/130 for all the shownotes!

Jan 17, 2017

A wife who knew something wasn’t right, but she denied that it could be happening in her marriage.

For years, she didn’t acknowledge what she had found out. But what was bottled was actually eroding her sense of sense of self and eventually she felt like she was drowning.

This is the story of a woman who had a healing process to go through after uncovering her husband’s addiction.

Its not an easy journey and one that happens far too often. I’m grateful Lynn Cherry shares her story and I think it will bring you encouragement today.

Learn more about Lynn at lynnmariecherry.com

What You Will Discover

  • Why I was given the “gift of anger”
    • Because Lynn’s anger was the catalyst of her change
  • When “recovery” felt like it was just scraping a gaping wound
  • How her husband thought his porn addiction was just affecting him (not her)
  • How there were times she wasn’t sure her marriage would survive this
  • The 3 pieces of advice she gives women in her situation

Tweetables

  • I felt the tangible presence of lust and then the presence of shame.
  • They were the gift of life, they gave me my purpose.
  • Knowing the truth is the first step to freedom
  • Even when you feel you can’t trust your husband, you can trust God.
Jan 10, 2017

This is the 3rd installment of our Orgasm Series (click to check out the rest).

For far too many women, orgasm is not a source of pleasure and joy it should be.

Today's show is talking candidly about how to orgasm, what it takes to orgasm, what can disrupt your orgasm and what you should focus on to orgasm.

My guest Keelie Reason gives a great amount of insight and help and you don't want to miss it, listen in!

Find all the shownotes at delightyourmarriage.com/128

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