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Delight Your Marriage | Relationship Advice, Christianity, & Sexual Intimacy

Hi, I'm Belah. Discover with me the secrets to an incredible marriage and physical intimacy in it! Join in as I interview inspiring and amazing wives and intimacy experts who share stories of their difficulties, joys, relationship advice and secrets to a lasting marriage. I ask each guest to share advice about sexual intimacy as well! Listen in to find out how long-time wives have kept the fun, peace and passion alive!
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Now displaying: May, 2019

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May 31, 2019

"Wow... now you've got me crying."

 

"Thank you for all your insight... You have totally changed my approach and I am shocked at how poorly I have approached my wife"

 

"Your program has been a life-changer for me and my wife!"

 

"Belah, Thank you for offering this webinar and your efforts to help marriages grow stronger!"

 

"My wife decided to join me tonight (because I asked her and didn't tell her) and she said it was so helpful for her. Thank you!!!!"

 

SO...

I was wrong... I thought only husbands should attend. Now I think it'd be a great event for both of you! It sparked great convos in some couples... so I encourage you to attend together!

 

I'm hosting The 7 Blocks to Her Libido: Remove these for generous intimacy in your marriage on Sunday, June 2, 7:30pmEST! 

 

From others who attended my webinar in the past---even years later they let me know that THAT webinar was THE catalyst that changed their marriages around!

 

 

SOME OTHER RESULTS of this webinar:

After the webinar, a wife received a special sexual treat, that made her feel so loved that she started crying tears of joy.


After the webinar, another man spoke to his wife about feeling like things really could turn around for the two of them (mind you, these two were already talking about what divorce would look like practically for their child).


After the webinar, another man started implementing and his wife already started making some sexual advances which had NOT been their norm at all!

 

"It was absolutely wonderful...Would you mind if I attended your webinar again?" YES :)

 

Hope to have you on the webinar!! Sign up at www.delightyourmarriage.com/7blocks

May 23, 2019

Sexless + Controlling = miserable husband

Sex-Full + Controlling = miserable husband

Sexless + Non Controlling = miserable husband

 

Sadly, sexless or controlling or both are the biggest problems I see. And this is what I hear from husbands that are desperate for change. I want to help you!

 

JFYI My husband said this is one of the best podcasts ever---he has only said that 1 other time (!) so I hope this is one that is helpful for you.

 

I talk about foundational truths about men and women that I don't hear people shouting from the rooftops---but they should be! Learn how to strategically change what is going on in your marriage!

 

Sadly, sexless or controlling or both are the biggest problems I see. And this is what I hear from husbands that I work with. I want to help you!

 

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Come on my free webinar TOMORROW, Friday, May 24, 2019 at 7:30pm EST:

The 7 Blocks to Her Libido: Remove these for generous intimacy in your marriage

Sign up www.delightyourmarriage.com/7blocks

 

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I used to be a CONTROLLING wife. And there was a ton of tension. He was miserable and so was I. I didn't like who my husband was. He didn't like me either. 

 

When I changed, my husband's joy, the best parts of who he is returned and improved! He's now the most amazing man I've ever met. Seriously. And I'm happier than I could ever have imagined.

 

What can you do as a husband? A LOT! Here are 3 keys that you can change things in your relationship!

 

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Here are the resources I chat about:

 

Discover her strengths: www.delightyourmarriage.com/strengths

 

Free webinar: 

The 7 Blocks to Her Libido: Remove these for generous intimacy in your marriage

Sign up www.delightyourmarriage.com/7blocks

May 16, 2019

Yep... MY husband said this! Like last week.

 

What did he mean? Maybe you're a wife that has insecurities like me? After a wonderfully intimate evening, I came clean about something I had been struggling with for a while. He was able to give ear to my heart and hear that I was feeling pain that I wasn't even aware I was hiding from him.

 

Various husbands have expressed confusion as to why a wife wouldn't want him looking at others while at the SAME TIME she's hiding her curves he LONGS to see!

 

As a wife, I get it and I stumble in this way too. If I am not vigilant I can fall just like the enemy wants us all to. I think it's sin because we're separating ourselves from God and what He wants us to do... (Quite literally) our husbands. :)

 

Maybe you're a husband who doesn't "get it". I have some important insights for you too!

 

Further... I'm EXTREMELY excited to invite you on a LIVE Webinar with me coming up! 

 

On Fri, May 24 & Sun, June 2, 7:30pm EST

I'll be hosting a LIVE FREE WEBINAR: 

WHAT'S BLOCKING HER LIBIDO? The 7 Mistakes you might be making!

 

Sign up: www.delightyourmarriage.com/7blocks

May 3, 2019

Do you want unity in your marriage? Do you want her to feel safe to be utterly vulnerable and literally naked before you? Then it is NOT helpful for her to know your past sex life. 

You probably have forgotten plenty of your past, but once you've told her it will stay with her for years--even decades.

Whatever sexual sin you've had before (or even the porn you've done while) is sin. It's your job as a man to discipline your mind, and your actions to be faithful to her. But if you're making her your "accountability partner" it's like saying: "honey, I'm trying not to look at other women, imagine them naked and pretend having sex with them". That will hurt her. Get your act together sir, get to a church, get vulnerable with someone--don't do this in isolation but don't load your dirty laundry on her. Because this will make it HARDER for her to make love (and of course that's what would actually HELP you avoid the temptations anyway).

So, whether you think you're just "being honest" you do not need to be unwise with your words. Words start forest fires. I speak to women daily about how unloved and ugly they feel because their husband struggles with porn. Women have constant insecurities all around sex. Your job as a man? Gratitude for EVERYTHING she is and does around sex. Tell her and show her how extremely grateful and gratifying her sexuality is to you.

And recognize you don't and shouldn't be a victim to your sexual cravings. And I am working with men to change these dynamics in their marriages and have already had incredible results:

-Women are now initiating "I can't remember the last time".

-"We made love 2 times this week and it was 'making love' not just duty sex".

-A man separated from his wife shared that they've now had several sexual encounters.

 

SO! If you want to know next steps with me, if you're a man, I'm opening my Clarity Calls now to you. You can book one here: www.dym.as.me This is a $500 value and I'm not sure how much longer I'll be doing these, so I encourage you to book very soon.

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