You may have an inkling, but I bet you'll be surprised by my guest Sharon Jaynes (sharonjaynes.com) and the interesting topics we dig into to help others understand in what ways the Song of Solomon was speaking about intimacy between husband and wife.
(Hint hint, they're not talking about the farmer's market). :)
delightyourmarriage.com/present - for wives the 8 secrets to stay present in intimacy
delightyourmarriage.com/7blocks - for husbands to understand the 7 reasons she is blocked from having a higher drive
Why did she heal?
What motivated a woman who was a size 0, undernourished, had been abused horribly to decide it was worth the challenge to heal?
How did she heal and now have a thriving intimate life with her husband?
Catherine gives us insight, hope and practical tools for you. You too can be healed, by God's grace.
Whether you were abused or your spouse, this will be helpful to understand the process and know that complete healing and restoration is possible for you!
Catherine is incredibly inspiring and has used her story to bring light and safety to so many through her organization Stop Trafficking Us (stoptraffickingus.org) which helps people out of being trafficked.
If this resonates with you and you'd like some additional tips on how to stay present during intimacy, I'd love to also give you a free resource: "8 Secrets to Stay Present during Intimacy".
You can get it here: delightyourmarriage.com/present
Today's interview is a story of resilience and hope.
Catherine goes into her story lightly because her full story is extremely difficult to take in.
HOWEVER, there is hope. Catherine is a living example that God can heal you.
1 in 4 women AND 1 in 6 men have suffered some form of sexual trauma. So, the healing needs to happen for SO many of us.
What can you do as a wife or husband to heal?
What can you do to help your spouse heal?
What are the underlying causes for pain for the person who is trying to help their spouse heal?
There's a lot of great insights even for practical and fun ways to heal... yeah it doesn't have to be another exercise in pain to heal.
God can help even when the mood is light!
To find out more about Catherine Wilson's work, visit: https://www.stoptraffickingus.org/
If thoughts are inhibiting you in the bedroom and you're a wife, I'd like to get my 8 Secrets to Staying Present in Intimacy for FREE, you can go to this link!
Part 2 is coming out next week, I hope you'll come back for that on Thursday!
So this is one of those topics that even when we're talking about intimacy we don't talk about.
But because I have the honor of speaking to women and men about some of the stuff they have never told ANYBODY, this comes up.
I want to share this episode because I want to help you. I don't want you to feel alone and icky and like you're sinning. Maybe you're not OR what are the specific Biblical boundaries?
Maybe there are small tweaks you can make to your thought-life that will align them with God's will. Maybe there are wees growing in the garden of your mind and they need to be pulled up and we'll talk about that.
But you may be surprised by some of my thoughts even around homosexuality. It starts in the mind and what we focus on grows. Just because someone has same-sex attraction doesn't make them gay. I want to clear about that because that's an insecurity a lot of people have.
I believe we all have proclivities, it's what we do with those proclivities that matter. Some of us are more violent, some of us easily lie and some of us have other proclivities we need to keep in check. What you focus on grows. So if you're focusing on the ways God wants you to be attracted and turned on by your spouse, I think you might be quite surprised by the way God will redirect your thoughts, feelings and even stimulation just by directing your fantasy-life.
I am SO excited to invite you to my 3-part FREE Online Seminar, people had amazing things to say about it!
There's only a couple of days left to go and get the replay!
"Belah, your webinar was absolutely amazing, we both enjoyed it and can't wait for the other 2! You have such an incredible insight on the male - female relationship that we haven't seen from any other relationship expert!
Your content was spot on and was such an awesome introduction. Where were you 25 years ago!!!!!!!" - Husband
"Thank you so much, Belah, for the distilling a lifetime of wisdom and teaching about God's plan for marital happiness, family harmony and personal fulfillment into one webinar!!!" -Wife of 32 years
"Belah , your webinar was absolutely amazing , we both enjoyed it and cant wait for the other 2!
You have such an incredible insight on the male -female relationship that we haven't seen from any other relationship expert !
Your content was spot on and was such an awesome introduction . Where were you 25 years ago !!!!!!! Lol"
You and your spouse are cordially invited to this free and LIVE online marriage seminar coming up THIS Wed, Fri & Mon!
This is a 3-part Seminar for couples to watch together I give some secret sauce of those I train in my coaching programs and I want to give it to you free!
this short podcast episode here, I share the story & read the testimonial of a man who had a sexless marriage for a few years and his hope was almost gone it pained him even to “flirt” with the idea that there may be a reason to have hope... well thanking God, things have CHANGED!
Go to www.delightyourmarriage.com/renew to sign up for the online seminar and invite other friends who might benefit!
This seminar is a very low-key introduction to the foundations of DYM principles, this is a very easily digestible opportunity to share DYM with friends and your spouse
If you’re there live, you’ll get in on some free content that won’t be on the replay (as a thank you for going through all the extra effort of being there live!)
As a wife who was bewildered by his desire and feeling grossed out by it, I get it!
But more than that... my hangups included, it's dirty, wrong, sinful, perverted, from the pornos, etc etc etc.
But he kept caring about this. And he wasn't the only one.
And now I hear from husbands all the time about how important this is to them.
And these guys aren't jerks, pigs, or abusers.
They're God-honoring gentlemen, who love their wives, they're good fathers and they want to enjoy their lives and their marriage and LOVE HER THE WAY SHE FEELS LOVED TOO!
On this episode I have some practical (VERY ehemmm practical) tips for you. This can be something for you guys in your marriage even if you've been married many years!
If you're tempted to ask your wife to listen to this... consider for a bit. Will it make her feel forced?
Instead, I want to invite you to my live, free webinar series coming up!
This is an awesome opportunity to get your wife introduced to my work.
It'll have intimacy sprinkled in but it won't be as focused (and possibly alarming to someone not really on board with my concepts).
But you'll want to attend the webinar too because it'll have golden nuggets for you two! What can YOU do to encourage your wife in this?
The other free resource I mentioned is The 7 Blocks to Her Libido resource!
Looking forward to having you at the Webinar Series. (Also, if you are seeing this in the future, you can go to the same link and gain some kind of helpful material!)
Oh man! You're going to get a lot out of this one. Larry Shushansky (from https://www.independentenough.com/) has 40 years of experience as a psychotherapist. We dig into what conflict is, why it happens and how to deal with it. But also that it is GOOD for your marriage.
However, MOST couples do conflict WRONG---thus it's BAD for theirs. Don't let yours be in this category!
He has been featured on: Psychology Today, Fast Company, Chicago Tribune, The Huffington Post to name a few... and it shows!
Some things may SURPRISE you.
Oh, and Larry and I have a conflict about something. I think you'll be really interested to hear! Neither of us backed down and he says we did it right.
Also, I mentioned that I'd like to invite you and your spouse to attend my Live and Free webinar series:
New Year, ReNewed Connection: Deeper, Loving Relationship & TRUE Intimacy! Sign up here: www.delightyourmarriage.com/renew2020
This is for couples (or people to watch on their own) and a ending segment JUST for wives. If you're looking for an easy segue-way to invite your wife to be interested in my work THIS IS IT.
Or if you have friends that need this work but you don't know how to talk to them about DYM because you know... sex. I get it!
This is a easy to digest and hints of truths about intimacy but nothing as strong and explicit as I have on my podcast or other material. Its a super easy intro as well as extremely helpful relationship tools.
Looking forward to having you!