Delight Your Marriage | Relationship Advice, Christianity, & Sexual Intimacy

Hi, I'm Belah. Discover with me the secrets to an incredible marriage and intimacy in it! Join in as I interview inspiring and amazing wives and intimacy experts who share stories of their difficulties, joys, relationship advice and secrets to a lasting marriage. I ask each guest to share advice about sexual intimacy as well! Listen in to find out how long-time wives have kept the fun, peace and passion alive!
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Dec 27, 2016

What is the purpose of marriage? Many people think its happiness. Once that purpose is not being fulfilled many marriages fail. Certainly there are times when marriage is wonderfully happy. But, as every married man and woman knows, there are also times where it is just plain difficult.

Today we have the second half of Kim Olachea's interview where she shares the principle things God taught her through her 37-year marriage. She has lived out the notion that God makes us more holy through our marriage, even when we're not necessarily happy.


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Dec 20, 2016

When you got married, you really didn't know who you were marrying. Maybe you knew some things and probably loved them. But as time passes you learned more and more. And as time passes some things change. Illnesses, disorders and disabilities sometimes become reality in marriage. How do you deal with these challenges together? That is our topic today. Our guest, Kim Olachea has weathered and helpful insights that I think will give you encouragement in this area.


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Dec 13, 2016

Today's broadcast is our second in the Orgasm Series and it's a goodie! We all have preconceived notions around what female orgasm should be. It may be time to get better and more correct understandings of how it really happens for women. Sandra Glahn interviewed loads of couples and wives to get the data for her book and has great insights to dismantle those lies that may be holding us back from true pleasure in the bedroom.


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Dec 6, 2016

Sometimes life is so hard. Maybe it's your marriage challenges. Maybe it's other things. I'm here to tell you there is still hope. That you are not alone in your situation. God is a God of hope. And the worry, the anxiety, and the gut-wrenching dread are not inevitable, just because you're in the midst of suffering. Today, there is hope. Listen in to hear more.


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Nov 29, 2016

For Penny, life didn't turn out the way she had planned. Well, her marriage anyway. When they got married, she didn't really understand that she was a broken person marrying another broken person. But eventually it became clear to her that the marriage was beyond fixing. She filed for divorce and her husband agreed. Fast-forward 14 years of heartache and God does something she didn't expect. How can a broken marriage heal? How can your marriage heal? That's what we're talking about to today. Listen in.


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Nov 22, 2016

Part II: Bethany had been married and things were going along fine, but she didn’t feel very connected to her husband on a deep level. She planned to go on a weekend retreat and she was surprised to find out all that she learned. She found out that she and her husband communicate differently. For example, she found out that husbands’ preferred method of communication is sex, while that is not wives’ first preferred method of communication. This and other generally true understandings gave her the insights she needed to bring her intimacy to a greater level in all areas of her relationship.


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Nov 15, 2016

Bethany had been married and things were going along fine, but she didn't feel very connected to her husband on a deep level. She planned to go on a weekend retreat and she was surprised to find out all that she learned. She found out that she and her husband communicate differently. For example, she found out that husbands' preferred method of communication is sex, while that is not wives' first preferred method of communication. This and other generally true understandings gave her the insights she needed to bring her intimacy to a greater level in all areas of her relationship.


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Nov 8, 2016

This is our first post in the topical series Orgasm. My guest today Julie Sibert from talks about how sexual intimacy is a gift from God and that includes orgasm. He wants us to enjoy this gift. There's plenty we can do to get there. If you're a wife and have never experienced this gift, you'll want to give this a listen and try out Julie's suggestions. 


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Nov 1, 2016

We all go through seasons in passion. Sometimes it feels so easy to make love and sometimes its just not. Today I wanted to talk about those seasons that are hard. Maybe its because of children, stress, or medication but sometimes its hard to make sex a priority in your life. I want you to know how I do it. I'm in a season currently where it's not the easiest thing and I want to encourage you that you can do it too. There's good fruit on the other side, it's worth it. Listen in.


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Oct 11, 2016

When you're laying in ICU and the doctor says this operation may kill you, there's a lot that might go through your mind. What Kimberly Rae realized is that what she wanted most is to love God and the people around her, instead of doing the "important" things that seem so relevant in our overbooked, overloaded lives.

Listen in to hear the hard-fought wisdom of a woman who lives these truths on a daily basis as she fights through life with her illness. She has lots to share on how to strip away the unnecessary and get to the heart of how God wants us to live our lives. You'll be inspired to love Jesus and the people in your care more, but in a balanced way. In a way that is more aligned with scripture than the do-everything & be-everything saga that I have fallen into myself too many times.

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Oct 4, 2016

We live in a hectic time where energy for the people depending on us can easily get to the bottom of our todo list. Especially our husbands.

But how do you prioritize? How do you make sure when this life is over and done with that you've been who were supposed to be, to the people you were responsible for?


As a wife and mother (of toddlers by the way :) I too feel torn at times. I'm still learning. But there's been a method that has worked for me and I wanted to share that with you. Not that you have to adopt all the strategies that are working for me, but that you might be inspired to create your own.

Here's what I do yearly, monthly, weekly and daily to ensure I'm walking the straight and narrow with God before me. Believe it or not, it's actually given me more rest than ever.

Sep 27, 2016

If you haven't yet heard part I of Mona's story. I'll catch you up. She was terribly betrayed by not only her husband but he had an affair with her best friend. The horror of what she went through penetrated every part of her being.

And then she healed. Somehow, someway Mona has become a wife who says to other despairing couples "there is hope."

Listen in to be transfixed by the story of a woman who walked an incredibly painful road but who has reason to say "you are not alone in your pain, and you can make it too".

Sep 20, 2016

When Mona was approached by her husband, she couldn't believe her ears. His unfaithfulness was a complete surprise. If you had asked her if her marriage could heal from this affair in the beginning she wouldn't have believed it. But God surprised her with healing that she and her husband now help other couples heal from their brokenness as well. 

A powerful story that led to healing she didn't think was possible. Now she and her husband give hope to other couples walking through journey to healing. 

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Sep 13, 2016

I have been a wife that thought sex was mostly for the man. And I had to go through a process to change that. Chris' story is a lot like mine in that respect. Today she dives deep into why wives can get in this rut and the season she went through to get out. 


What You'll Discover:

  • The journey from a reluctant wife to someone who is released in passion
  • Belah's thought process that make you go from
    • a-not wanting to make love tonight, to
    • b-being turned on and ready to go
  •  The stages Chris went through to become a wife who enjoys sex for her own enjoyment
  • Considering what you want your marriage to be like eventually, the advice she would give herself if she could.
Sep 6, 2016

What You Will Discover:

  • How seduction can be so fun and exciting in your marriage-bed.
  • The specific steps of seduction and how you can apply it to your intimacy.
  • What seduction what means to him (compared to being in the dark with the lights off).
  • Why intimacy can feel so much better when you're having an active role. 
  • How to have confidence in the bedroom.


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Aug 30, 2016

Parenting our kids around sexual realities can feel overwhelming (and scary, if you’re anything like me!)

Well, I hope today’s conversation with Luke Gilkerson, an expert on the topic, will allow you to breathe a sigh of relief as we learn the fundamentals of raising sexually healthy kids.

God gives a lot of insight for us to follow through the Bible and Luke shares with us research that has proven these understandings.

If you know young people or are a parent, this episode is not to be missed. You can play a vital, life-saving role in their lives, listen to find out how.


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Aug 23, 2016

How does a wife move from stressed, dissatisfied, & doing too much for him, to a woman who actually enjoys love making

I talk to expert, Laura Doyle, who is leading a movement of women who started with her own strife-filled marriage. Now she's enjoying a life filled with joy and peace. 

Well, Laura says we’re looking at this whole thing wrong. What if it was easy? What if it started outside the bedroom and what if we enjoyed our whole life more? What if it honored God more? What if we enjoyed sex, as a result?

Surprising and potentially life-changing insights are in this episode you won't want to miss. 


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Aug 16, 2016

A show I wish I had listened to YEARS ago!

We all have ideas of what we'd like our husbands to do. But for many of us we have a very faulty tactic.

Instead of feeling cared for, romanced and cherished, we feel resentful, angry, and alone.

This is my story. How I started in marriage, what changed and what has happened. Now, who my husband has become is quite incredible. 


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Aug 15, 2016

Here's what our family went through and we'd so appreciate your care and grace as we walk this out.

But I'll do my best to continue to get DYM to you on Tuesdays!

Jul 26, 2016

PII: We're one flesh but clearly we’re different people. How does that work? The Bible tells us “therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh,” Gen 2:24. How do we do that practically?

We’re listening in to the second half of my interview with Ruth about what it means to let our husband journey alongside us. And be united at the same time.


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“JII” = Journey Interview, Part II


Ever wondered how to encourage him to lead? I continue this conversation next week. Check out my story “How To Get Him To Do What You Want” to hear my rocky journeythat has led to a lot of contentment and even (surprisingly the romance and connection I had hoped).

Jul 19, 2016

How often do you look in the mirror and judge what is reflecting back at you? How many times have you said something negative about your body? ...this week?


Or when was the last time you thanked God for designing "His temple” exactly as it is?


In today’s episode, we walk through someone else’s shoes to understand how it could be different. And why God wants it to be different.


Ruth Buezis has a heart for God and sex in marriage. She believes that trusting our beauty and worth matters to our Creator. And the way we feel about ourselves in sex matters to the rest of our lives. She didn’t always feel this way, not even close. Listen in for hope and healing.


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“JI” = Journey Interview, Part I

Jul 12, 2016

Sometimes even with our best efforts, because of our society it can derail our thought-life. Today’s guests know that all too well. Mordechai and Ilana have 4 children and are observant Jews, in fact Hasidic Jews.


Usually my guests are Christian, but I felt they had such helpful insight for us, that I had to have them on. It’s also incredibly encouraging to hear about the culture in which Jesus came and the background from which Paul wrote his letters.


You might not agree with all that is said and you might not want to include every idea into your lifestyle. But, I deeply believe this conversation will edify you and help you to love God and His gift of Jesus SO much more.

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Jul 5, 2016

Though I’m mostly talking about purifying your mind regarding sexual thoughts, this is what I would prescribe anyone battling challenging thoughts. I think we don’t talk about purifying our mind enough, especially in regards to sex. I think it may be because of embarrassment or because we think it’s not necessary to address it head on.

Well, this episode, I do. I address exactly what I wish someone had sat me down and explained to me when I struggling so severely with my sexual thoughts. I give you the why, the how and the science behind changing your thought-life towards what God desires.

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