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Delight Your Marriage | Relationship Advice, Christianity, & Sexual Intimacy

Hi, I'm Belah. Discover with me the secrets to an incredible marriage and intimacy in it! Join in as I interview inspiring and amazing wives and intimacy experts who share stories of their difficulties, joys, relationship advice and secrets to a lasting marriage. I ask each guest to share advice about sexual intimacy as well! Listen in to find out how long-time wives have kept the fun, peace and passion alive!
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Sep 19, 2017

"I almost divorced my best friend."

Her husband didn't want to spend time with her. He was apathetic towards her. He would rather watch television than even make love to her. Now he can't keep his eyes and hands off her :) Dancing in the kitchen, less stress and glorious compliments are just side benefits.

This began a marriage-changing transformation for me; this interview was the catalyst. 

Laura Doyle, best selling author, speaker and coach. The book I love the most: The Surrendered Wife (though I'd prefer to call it "How to Stop Stressing and Start Enjoying")

(If you've listened for a while you'll know I posted this interview over a year ago, but we all need a refresher, so I thought you wouldn't mind if I posted it again!)

Sep 12, 2017

This is Part 2 of my advice for men who want their wives to enjoy sex more. Though you may feel so hurt that your wife doesn't desire and/or meet your intimacy with joy the way you crave, there is a lot going on for her too.

 

"Hurt people hurt people". In this podcast, I hope to shed light on things both of you may be going through. And not even realize that you (men) are undermining the very intimacy you seek to encourage.

I hope to help you understand the ways a wife desires to be loved in life and how that directly relates to her experience intimately with you.

Specifically discussed:
-Why she thinks you only want her for sex (and what you can do to change that)
-How you can communicate a man's need for sex in a way that will reach her (rather than repel her)
-Specific things you can do in physical intimacy that will allow her to enjoy intimacy to much greater degree, thus desiring it more

For wives, I want you to know...

My goal for your physical intimacy is that it would get to a level and place to would support your life, but NOT be the focus of it. I want you to be able to relax into the joy of amazing intimacy so it would fuel the pursuits of God's heart. There is much more than sex, it shouldn't be the focus; if you're married, it should support the focus.

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Sep 5, 2017

You may want more sex. You may want her to want you more. You may want her to care more about your drive. Maybe all of the above and a whole lot more...

Well, the biggest barrier women face is insecurity. An insecure wife can't take off her clothes, can't seduce, can't enjoy physical intimacy. But isn't that her problem? Isn't that something she needs to go do, with the guidance of her husband? NO! Please stop pushing/teaching/correcting/criticizing... your wife on sexual things. 

It is not helping it is hurting---your cause AND your wife. So today's episode is all about getting you dear husband, to understand 1) your wife's mind 2) her biggest barrier to love making 3) what you can do about it

Why did I have to make this episode? I hear far more from husbands than I do from wives. And it's time I gave these hurting husbands some help. Its not that they don't care about their wives and which is why they treat them this way. Not in the least. It's that they don't feel loved by their wives through sex and they don't know what to do about it. Here's some guidance that I believe will turn things around in your marriage. 

This is part 1 in a 2 part series. Second part coming out next week. 

If this has blessed you, please share with a friend and leave a review on itunes---here's how (it helps spread the show further).

 

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Aug 1, 2017

Hi there! I had planned to have a break with the DYM podcast until August, but now that its here... I need another month!

I hope you do too! To rest & reflect. Be inspired to do both and 1 practice I do weekly to make sure both happen. Its my favorite time.

So I'll be back with you in September on the first Tues!

 

May 2, 2017

Though our culture says you can "do it all". The truth is life is about trade offs. We have limits in this life, and in order to ensure those which are off most priority are accomplished, we have to say no to the good to say yes to the best. 

Today's topic goes into this in depth. Why does it matter to your marriage? Physical intimacy, emotional intimacy and spiritual intimacy all need to take priority while most others need to take a back seat or no seat at all. How do you decide that? Lets chat together.

And I also share how I believe God is teaching me these vital lessons and how it affects DYM.

Apr 25, 2017

Hi there! Belah here. Today, I have with me Juana Mikels of choosinghim.com. Juana shares in Part I the very difficult beginning to her marriage. But she shares in this episode that things still require her to rely on God. She says she depends on God's grace in her husband to be the leader of her family. Listen in as she shares insights around what keeps her trusting God and allowing Him to use her even while feeling faithless...God is faithful.

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Apr 18, 2017

Hi there! Belah here. Today, I have with me Juana Mikels of choosinghim.com. Juana is a wife and mother of 4; her youngest daughter was born blind. She shares about her marriage that almost fell apart. Neither were believers when they married. It's an incredible story of how they were separated for a long time and what God did to bring them back together. Juana encourages us to honor and cherish the man He has given us.

 

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Apr 11, 2017

Hi there! Belah here and it's just me this time. I talk about the taboo topic of Oral Sex. Yes, we need to start talking about this. And answering questions, like is it: bad? wrong? gross? And what does it mean to your marriage. And more importantly what does it mean to your husband. Listen in to hear why I think it is dirty and the change that needs to be made. You'll probably be surprised at my responses about it.

Check out delightyourmarriage.com/14 to sign up for the webinar happening where I get very specific! (Only open to wives!)

Apr 4, 2017

Ever feel like your sex is taken for granted? Ever feel like your sexual desires are not even acknowledged, much less honored?

Today I'm talking about how to approach this and understand where you can take responsibility for receiving sexual respect. And understand how to also respect your husband's sexuality.

 

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Mar 28, 2017

Part II: Be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to become angry. But what about when we do get angry, when we do speak and when we don't listen? Well, lets talk about how to do this better. We can all find healthier ways to process afterwards or avoid from the beginning.

Beth is sharing with us on the second half of her Journey interview how they learned to fight well and what steps and tools they use to make sure their conflicts draw them closer rather than tear them apart.

 

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Mar 21, 2017

Part I: If you've felt insecure about yourself, you know the icky feeling that hangs around and corrodes you from the inside. In marriage its lethal, because you and your spouse are trying to put up a facade and it just brings distance. It robs you both of the connectedness you're meant to share.

Today's guest shares how she started out very insecure in her marriage. Conflict would scare her and she felt that if she were honest with him, he'd reject her. Their marriage had a rocky journey and she credits God for bringing them through, otherwise she said they'd probably be divorced. And now they're about to celebrate their 30 year anniversary! Hear how they made it through, and what she's learned.

 

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Mar 14, 2017

What You'll Discover:

  • How to surrender to pleasure and feel that entirely
  • Learn to feel you deserve to orgasm
    • Does it make you feel too sexual?
    • Do you feel selfish?
    • Do you feel sex is just for him?
  • How to have a "Discovery Session" with your husband
  • Give yourself permission to learn
  • What daily practices you can do that will help in the moment
  • What ideas you can try in the bedroom to get there

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