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Delight Your Marriage | Sexual Intimacy, Relationship Advice, & Christianity

Hi, I'm Belah. Along with hundreds of thousands around the world, you will go deep into the real issues, how-tos and joys of sexual intimacy. It's playful, peaceful, purposeful, and really intimately exciting! Discover insights around godly intimacy on how men tick and how women feel! And you'll be amazed to hear the inspiring stories and advice from the expert guests as well! It's scriptural and practical. If you're a man, you'll be drawn because you want to understand your wife, how to invite her in intimacy and even your own God-given sexual desires. If you're a woman you'll understand how to enjoy and love your man through sex. Free gifts for you! If you're a woman wanting to increase your drive, get FREE resources at https://www.delightyourmarriage.com/drive If you're looking to be respected, enjoy fierce intimacy and loving being married again, have a FREE call with Belah ($500 value) https://www.delightyourmarriage.com/call
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Aug 27, 2019
First and foremost, I'm so glad you're planning for sex. Many people let this HIGH priority slip away from their marriage. And they wonder why their marriage turns into a disaster.
 
I am GRATEFUL if you are one who puts it on your calendar--it means you DO prioritize it!
 
So, I'm now encouraging you to go the next step and make it sexy. So often I hear from husbands that they make love the exact same way every single time they make love. And "it's even on the calendar!"
 
Well, 1st- the good news is you're making love (!!) and 2nd- ladies, we can plan sex (just not let him in on it!) ;) Listen in for inspiring ideas on how and why to spice things up and how you can plan sex without making him feel like a To Do List item! Aka...plan it sexily!
 

How EXACTLY do other people even plan for sex? Planning for sex can look different for many people:

  • You can plan for sex in other physical aspects

(If you're too full from dinner, you might be too sleepy for sex!)

 

  • You can plan for sex emotionally 

(are you emotionally prepared to plan sex?)

 

But planning for sex with a "grin and bear it" mindset isn't good. It would be awesome if you planned sex with a heart filled with joy and excitement. So how do you plan sex with THAT kind of mindset?

 

Well, here's a story.

 

My husband surprised me with something special on our anniversary: a sunset cruise. 

 

He made sure that the house was clean, the kids had a babysitter, he had flowers everywhere. Well he got the idea from SOMEONE ELSE. Was I mad that he got the idea from someone else? Of course not.

 

That's the same with you planning sex. Don't feel like you're not being truthful or being a phony when you plan sex. The important thing is the experience you'll both be having, not HOW you got there. 

 

How open should you be to your husband when it comes to planning sex? It depends on where you are in your marriage, emotionally speaking. 

 

He craves you more when you feel good about having sex. But making love is also about you; your own joy and fulfillment. 

 

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Belah's book---Delight Your Husband: A Christian wife's manual to passion, confidence and oral sex---may be the tool God would use to bring light and joy to your marriage bed. 

If you're at a place of desire for change in intimacy in your marriage--men or women--consider signing up for a free Clarity Call ($500 value!) where you and Belah will dive deep into what's going on in your marriage and help you uncover what is blocking amazing intimacy! From couples that hadn't made love in years to couples who were in an affair--God has brought passion, healing and fun to these marriages!

She's currently offering this 40min Clarity Call opportunity to podcast listeners for free! Schedule here.

 

Aug 19, 2019
  • What does it mean and WHY would you actually do it?
  • What if it’s COMPLETELY outside of your personality?
  • What to actually do? (Steamy examples!)

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Before we dive in…

I run a men's course called Masculinity Reclaimed: Be respected, enjoy fierce intimacy and love being married again.

 

It's a program which helps you understand how to be an amazing husband so your wife wants to do this kind of stuff. It dramatically transforms  marriages. 

 

I work with men in this program and interview their wives who started out rating their intimacy as a 3 out of 10 and then they move to a 7 out of 10 or from a 5 out of 10 to a 9 out of 10! 

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ALL-DAY seduction is: 

  • not normal for me
  • I don't wake up thinking I want to be someone who likes playful touching throughout the day

I thought it was sinful. “Why think about sex the whole day???” was my question.

Well, now I’ve changed my tune. Here’s why…

 

The reason I do this work:

  • I love families
  • I love what children have when it's a safe, loving family
  • The desire for intercourse isn't the motivation. It's the answer to "how do we make the world safer"? 
  • We make better children who have parents who love each other so well that they're able to live a trauma-free life

 

God wants children to be raised up in the right, safe, kind environment. And sex is vital to that because that's how your husband receives love. 

 

Why do great men of God fall to sexual sin? The sexual sin is great...

  • 35% of internet downloads is pornography
  • “Sex” is the #1 search term
  • Pornography increases marital infidelity rate by more than 300%
  • Adultery destroys your soul
  • God made him with a strong desire
    • And God gave him that desire; the average man has about 11 erections a day!

 

So where do we go from here? I’m not saying you’re responsible for his fidelity. But I think you have an opportunity to support him in this really sinful world. 

 

Have a system of seduction throughout the day:

  • Bring up intimacy throughout the day!
  • Touch him! 
  • Give him a kiss through his clothes --- do it any time of the day!
  • Always change in front of him
  • Tell him "I can't wait to do more"

Resources:

  • Late September, I have a women's course called The Delighted Wife: Reclaim Your Sexuality Live In Your Womanly Wisdom  And Witness Him Cherish You

 

  • If you want to find out if this is the right step for you, go to www.dym.as.me so we can speak 1:1 to discuss your situation. No matter what it’s a $500 value but free to podcast listeners and you’ll get amazing free value and clarity so sign up as soon as you can!

 

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Belah's book---Delight Your Husband: A Christian wife's manual to passion, confidence and oral sex---may be the tool God would use to bring light and joy to your marriage bed. 

If you're at a place of desire for change in intimacy in your marriage--men or women--consider signing up for a free Clarity Call ($500 value!) where you and Belah will dive deep into what's going on in your marriage and help you uncover what is blocking amazing intimacy! From couples that hadn't made love in years to couples who were in an affair--God has brought passion, healing and fun to these marriages!

She's currently offering this 40min Clarity Call opportunity to podcast listeners for free! Schedule here.

Aug 19, 2019

Good Morning---

I wanted to say a prayer for you. And let you know that whatever situation you're facing He is with you. He is right there beside you. 

He says:

28 “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. 29 Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. 30 For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.” Matt 11:28-30 (NIV)

 

God is with you in this situation. Jesus loves you and wants to take your burdens. Love you and praying for you. 

 

Love, 

Belah

Aug 15, 2019

Do you wish YOU were into sex more?

 

A lot of things are not mentioned in the Bible:

  • Electricity
  • Vehicles
  • Importance of exercise
  • Internet

So much of our daily life is not spoken about in the Bible! And yet we have no problem doing it, every day. In fact, we’d say it was good, though not mentioned in the Bible. 

 

So, why don’t we have the same view of sex? 

 

Art isn’t mentioned in the Bible but some like painting, some like sculpture, others like charcoal. As with art, if your spouse would like more variety, that's okay! If your spouse would like more frequent intimacy, that’s okay!

 

God can help you with all of this. He can help you physically crave sex. He can help you want to meet your husband’s particular desire for that particular style of “art”. God cares about being a part of your life --- and your sex life! In a marriage, a man and a woman are free to want to make love with one another. 

 

Resources:

If you're interested about the women's program to be truly free in the areas of VARIETY, CRAVING SEX and grow in your knowledge of all the HOW-TO’s this coming September, you can go to www.dym.as.me to schedule a call to see if it's a good fit for you!

 

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Belah's book---Delight Your Husband: A Christian wife's manual to passion, confidence and oral sex---may be the tool God would use to bring light and joy to your marriage bed. 

If you're at a place of desire for change in intimacy in your marriage--men or women--consider signing up for a free Clarity Call ($500 value!) where you and Belah will dive deep into what's going on in your marriage and help you uncover what is blocking amazing intimacy! From couples that hadn't made love in years to couples who were in an affair--God has brought passion, healing and fun to these marriages!

She's currently offering this 40min Clarity Call opportunity to podcast listeners for free! Schedule here.

 

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