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Hi, I'm Belah. Discover with me the secrets to an incredible marriage and physical intimacy in it! Join in as I interview inspiring and amazing wives and intimacy experts who share stories of their difficulties, joys, relationship advice and secrets to a lasting marriage. I ask each guest to share advice about sexual intimacy as well! Listen in to find out how long-time wives have kept the fun, peace and passion alive!
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Feb 14, 2019

I get so many emails from husbands. I want to send a message to their wives...the wife I used to be. I was a wife who saw sex as

  • Dirty
  • Wrong
  • Ungodly
  • Scary
  • He was sinning for wanting it
  • Too much work
  • I didn't like it / it hurt / I didn't know what to do
  • I don't have time
  • I don't have energy
  • What's in it for me?
  • He's way too interested in sex

And so I avoided it and got resentful that the things I was doing wasn't appreciated. He kept asking me to learn more... and I got angrier.

Well God has changed my heart on this. I have discovered that God made my husband's member, and I am his wife. It is my privilege to be a part of intimacy with him. I am his only means of receiving this vital fulfillment righteously.

I believe this podcast will bring you closer to God. If you're anything like I was, I wish I had known this even before I got married. If I could only understand what sex meant to him. If I could only understand God's purposes for it.

I pray this would be something husbands can give to their wives (when she's ready---listen and practice these 3 episodes: Encourage Your Wife’s Sexuality (How A Husband Can Help His Wife Be More Into Sex) 156156/157157 first).

 

Podcasts I mention:

Praying for you and your marriage,

Belah

Feb 6, 2019

Are you having the WRONG type of sex?

  • Why your wife doesn't LOVE intimacy
  • Why sex feels carnal
  • Why sex feels like it's just for HIM
  • Why sex isn't fulfilling (EVEN if you orgasm)
  • I argue that there is a very legitimate reason... You guys haven't made feminine sex....ever
    • Have you ever even been exposed to what feminine sex is?
    • Let me give you a description and then the tools on how to get started!

 

  • Resources referenced: 
    • Miss Representation documentary
      • If you want to know more about our sexualized culture and how men have defined those you can check this own
      • My very serious warning is there's a ton of very negative visuals--sexually-explicit music videos, movies with very provocative clothing... but they have really educational good content
      • What I would suggest is turning it on your phone and then turning your phone over so you can hear the content without being exposed to the crude and sinful visuals...or just trust that somehow I gleaned what would be helpful for you!
    • A great TED talk which explains how our movies are lacking female influence, thus the feminine values and sexual desires: The Data Behind Hollywood's Sexism

 

  • FREE (Potentially Life-Changing) Opportunity
    • I am doing a limited amount of FREE Clarity Calls to help wives go deep and truly understand and get clear on what is prohibiting them from getting to the intimacy and marriage God wants for them.
    • The catch? IF I think I can help you (and I don't think I can help every woman I speak with) I may invite you to be one of the few women I coach this month.
    • But if not, you'll definitely get a ton of value from the call, so get on my calendar soon -- right I believe my next Clarity Call is available in 3 weeks from now... so get on the calendar as soon as you can so your marriage can blossom as God wants it to!! www.dym.as.me
Jan 29, 2019

So... my husband listens to every podcast before I post them. He often gives me notes on what I need to take out or change. I have been podcasting since Feb 2015 (!!) and by God's grace have been awarded one of the Top 30 Relationship podcasts on the web!!

My husband ended up listening and having an entire page FULL of notes.

POSITIVE notes! (One negative note--not that it was wrong but that it might be a bit too explicit. I countered "I just don't want wives to be confused with what I'm really talking about". He said well, it's ABSOLUTELY true..." so, I left it it in!)

In my almost 200 episodes (!!) my husbands said this is one of the best--maybe THE BEST. 

 

So! I encourage you to listen with an open heart and get ready for some (maybe uncomfortable) truth bombs!

 

Here is the site I mention where I have collated a sampling of SOME of the emails I get from husbands WISHING (and some even are crying) because they want so badly for their wives to work with me! Seriously...read it... delightyourmarriage.com/husbands

 

AND if you want to jump in and schedule a FREE Clarity Call where we unpack what's going on in your marriage, in your intimacy, the baggage and start to shed light on how to move it in the right direction, I am offering FREE 40+ min Clarity Calls. You can sign up here: www.dym.as.me

I don't know how long I'll be able to do these for free as it's a giant time commitment--but I love being able to help women. And if I think I can help, you're ready, committed and coachable and that I have the specialization to help your SPECIFIC situation I may invite you to be one of the few clients I take on this month. (I truly don't take on or even invite everyone who wants to work with me). But either way, you get a ton of clarity and direction towards next steps! So, sign up as soon as you can for a FREE Clarity Call with me, Belah!  www.dym.as.me

Jan 17, 2019

How could suffering ever be a gift? Why would focusing on suffering be a wise thing?

A lot of times the women I coach don't take the time to look at the pain and suffering they're experiencing.

But when they do that, they are distracting themselves away from its lessons--the wisdom God wants to teach us through it. And even through our AWARENESS of it.

On this episode, I talk about the 13 Gifts of Sufferings and I talk specifically about some of my own sufferings that have given me great gifts and it was because I was aware of them in the moments that God used it profoundly in my life.

 

Jump on a call with me personally to unearth what you're going through and use the suffering to provoke action! Check to see if I have some time on my calendar at www.dym.as.me It's a 40min call for free with me directly!

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Testimonial: of a husband of 20+ years:

I just wanted to say a few things, like...Thank you!

Thank you for the time you spent with her, and for your generosity, it is much appreciated. I don't know what the two of you discussed, I haven't asked and she hasn't told. But I haven't seen such a fast change in [her] in, well....ever.

It's like she is a different woman. Actually, she is behaving more like the woman I thought I married or wish I had married... The changes I have seen in her are profound...

Again, I don't know what you coached her to do, and I don't know if she is doing it all or only doing half. But I do see a changed woman in my life. So again I say "Thank You!"

 

Check to see if I have some time on my calendar at www.dym.as.me I'd love to speak with you directly for free! 

Jan 10, 2019

Can things really change? "It's been 5, 10, 25 years, how could this ever be different?"

Suffering in marriage makes your whole life suffer---kids, job, ministry, peace, walking in the fruits of the spirit, sexual fulfillment, chastity in thoughts, satisfaction in marriage, covetous thoughts of other marriages, sin in many places, not starting the ministries God has called you to and would thus not touch the many people God wants you too!!

 

It's 2019, packed in this message is lots of hope, and practical steps to make changes in you that will greatly impact your marriage!

 

Here is a testimonial I just received by a wife who has been married 10+ years:

"Before working with Belah, my marriage had been to the brink of divorce and separation. My husband and I had continual anger and resentment toward one another. I knew the importance of sex to a man, and felt pressure to be 'enough'. But I felt like I never was. 
 
I reached out to Belah, for her to help me be who he needed. Belah listened to my heart, and saw the missing piece- boundaries. Turns out, he needed ME all along. 
 
Through Belah's coaching, she helped me with:  Healthy boundaries. Loving and respecting myself. Realizing, and honoring what "I" enjoy and desire about sex and intimacy. She gave me wisdom and words to say. Teaching me what a healthy relationship looks like in all areas. 
 
The amazing benefits I am enjoying now: LOVE; true love like never before. My husband and I look forward to being around each other, and have such an appreciation and respect for one another.  I am cherished and honored, he is respected and lifted up as my man. I am more "me" than ever before, and loving exactly who I am and am becoming.
 
Through working with Belah, my marriage is saved and thriving, and I am forever changed and grateful."
 
To God be all the glory.
 
I want to help you get clarity on what is really going on in your marriage and I have limited space to talk with some women one on one to uncover what is really going on in their marriages for transformation! If you're serious about wanting this difference in your marriage, sign up at www.dym.as.me as soon as you can, as space will fill up quickly!
 
www.dym.as.me
 
 
 
Love,
Belah
Jan 1, 2019

WHAT SHOULD YOUR LIFE BE ABOUT AT THE BEGINNING OF 2019?

I used to try to cram all of my goals into the beginning of the year. And I would scramble for a few weeks potentially months—at best and then drop all of them by April.

 

I’ve learned something very valuable that I wanted to share today. I want to talk to you about exactly how I set my priorities throughout every year. It frees me up to focus, relax and listen to God’s voice.

 

This year I’m really excited and there’s a lot of really good things! And I want that for you as well. If you want to move your marriage to a place of peace and passion and joy and purpose, I would love to jump on a FREE breakthrough call where you can discover solutions immediately.

 

Sign up here: https://dym.as.me/ God bless you in 2019!

 

(If you’re not in my FREE private Facebook group where we discuss intimacy and marriage and purpose in life and I walk with God join here!… Wives only! :-) ) www.facebook.com/groups/delightym/

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