Though our culture says you can "do it all". The truth is life is about trade offs.
We have limits in this life, and in order to ensure those which are off most priority are accomplished, we have to say no to the good to say yes to the best.
Today's topic goes into this in depth. Why does it matter to your marriage?
Physical intimacy, emotional intimacy and spiritual intimacy all need to take priority while most others need to take a back seat or no seat at all.
How do you decide that? Lets chat together.
And I also share how I believe God is teaching me these vital lessons and how it affects DYM.
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Hi there! Belah here. Today, I have with me Juana Mikels of choosinghim.com.
Juana shares in Part I the very difficult beginning to her marriage. But she shares in this episode that things still require her to rely on God.
She says she depends on God's grace in her husband to be the leader of her family.
Listen in as she shares insights around what keeps her trusting God and allowing Him to use her even while feeling faithless...God is faithful.
Hi there! Belah here. Today, I have with me Juana Mikels of choosinghim.com.
Juana is a wife and mother of 4; her youngest daughter was born blind.
She shares about her marriage that almost fell apart. Neither were believers when they married.
It's an incredible story of how they were separated for a long time and what God did to bring them back together.
Juana encourages us to honor and cherish the man He has given us.
See all the show notes here: delightyourmarriage.com/142
Hi there! Belah here and it's just me this time. I talk about the taboo topic of Oral Sex.
Yes, we need to start talking about this. And answering questions, like is it: bad? wrong? gross?
And what does it mean to your marriage. And more importantly what does it mean to your husband.
Listen in to hear why I think it is dirty and the change that needs to be made.
You'll probably be surprised at my responses about it.
Check out Delight Your Husband: The Christian wife's manual to passion, confidence and oral sex here, and here's just one of the reviews:
Is your marriage falling apart? Read this book. It will save your marriage. This is my first amazon review. This book is a must to read if your marriage is falling apart. Investing less than $20 can save your marriage and even lift it to another level. I was a sexually very conservative and passive person. I never seduced my husband before.
He was always the one who initiated our intimacy. After my child was born, I intentionally avoided any sexual relationship with him because I was exhausted all the time. I think that was the point when our relationship became shaky.
After a few refusals, he did not even try to touch me anymore. I think my refusal hurt him deeply as a man as well as a human being. We did not talk to each other much. We just talked when we absolutely needed to, primarily about our kid.
I often felt that we were raising our child together but that is it. I felt so lonely, and so did my husband. I felt a huge distance between us. I decided to do something before it is too late or before I decided on a divorce. Fortunately, I came across Belah’s book. Honestly, I needed a lot of courage to initiate intimacy and sexual activity with my husband, but I knew it was my last resort. I took a few of the practical tips the author described in the book.
My husband was pleasantly surprised that I was attempting to seduce him. He seemed to be very happy and treated me differently. He often said, “Delight me.”
That is his way of saying that he wants to have sex with me. Slowly, our relationship has healed. Sex is definitely a love language between a married couple. Read this book if you feel a distance from your partner.
Ever feel like your sex is taken for granted? Ever feel like your sexual desires are not even acknowledged, much less honored?
Today I'm talking about how to approach this and understand where you can take responsibility for receiving sexual respect. And understand how to also respect your husband's sexuality.
Part 2: Be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to become angry.
But what about when we do get angry, when we do speak and when we don't listen?
Well, lets talk about how to do this better. We can all find healthier ways to process afterwards or avoid from the beginning.
Beth is sharing with us on the second half of her Journey interview how they learned to fight well and what steps and tools they use to make sure their conflicts draw them closer rather than tear them apart.
Part I: If you've felt insecure about yourself, you know the icky feeling that hangs around and corrodes you from the inside.
In marriage it's lethal, because you and your spouse are trying to put up a facade and it just brings distance. It robs you both of the connectedness you're meant to share.
Today's guest shares how she started out very insecure in her marriage.
Conflict would scare her and she felt that if she were honest with him, he'd reject her.
Their marriage had a rocky journey and she credits God for bringing them through, otherwise she said they'd probably be divorced.
And now they're about to celebrate their 30 year anniversary! Hear how they made it through, and what she's learned.
What You'll Discover:
Peace is a vital element to the life God wants for us. If you have strife in your marriage, I have been there and I pray this will give you hope and tools to get it turned around. These are the keys I've learned that have made my marriage so much more peaceful than I ever would have imagined.
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Belah's book---Delight Your Husband: A Christian wife's manual to passion, confidence and oral sex---may be the tool God would use to bring light and joy to your marriage bed.
If you're at a place of desire for change in intimacy in your marriage--men or women--consider signing up for a free Clarity Call ($500 value!) where you and Belah will dive deep into what's going on in your marriage and help you uncover what is blocking amazing intimacy! From couples that hadn't made love in years to couples who were in an affair--God has brought passion, healing and fun to these marriages!
She's currently offering this 40min Clarity Call opportunity to podcast listeners for free! Schedule here.
Part 2: What she thought was just a simple surgery from a chest injury turned into a year of serving and fear and all semblance of control being taken.
The threat of her husband’s death and his needing constant help shaped her in ways she didn’t expect.
Julie Dibble has walked a hard road in the most difficult challenge of her marriage.
But she remembers a quote “A great work requires a great and careful training”.
God she believes has trained her through this. But it’s not over and she’s still fighting to be surrendered to God’s plan over her own, every day.
Listen in to find inspiration and hope in the journey ahead.
Discover the show notes and many more resources at delightyourmarriage.com/135
What she thought was just a simple surgery from a chest injury turned into a year of serving and fear and all semblance of control being taken.
The threat of her husband's death and his needing constant help shaped her in ways she didn't expect.
Julie Dibble has walked a hard road in the most difficult challenge of her marriage.
But she remembers a quote "A great work requires a great and careful training".
God she believes has trained her through this. But it's not over and she's still fighting to be surrendered to God's plan over her own, every day.
Listen in to find inspiration and hope in the journey ahead.
If you've ever felt like you were the only one not experiencing the ecstasies of sex, you are not alone.
I've been there and at least 1/4 of women don't experience orgasm. BUT they can.
And today we're talking about how and tips to get you there.
It is probably a process but there's a lot of information that will help you get there on this show. Listen in.
delightyourmarriage.com/132 for the shownotes
She and her husband teach a class to help husbands understand how to love their wife better.
Here's her practical advice for men in the bedroom. Ruth Buezis helps men understand women's hearts and their bodies and how those interact.
Generally men are expected to be experts in the sex department, but there's so much misinformation and inappropriate stereotypes.
She says that men really do want to know what to do.
She compares the specific equipment of men's bodies with the female genitalia and shares the parallels in sensation and how to use them.
See all the show notes at delightyourmarriage.com/131
Lynn shares in this second half of her interview, about how she healed from the porn addiction of her husband.
She says you can forgive an addict too quickly and she tells us what forgiveness really is.
She talks about how God walked her through the most challenging time in her life and what changed in her as a result.
They survived to 25 years of marriage and it has now become sweet.
She also shares sexual intimacy tips that will help any wife...so listen in!
Check out delightyourmarriage.com/130 for all the shownotes!
A wife who knew something wasn’t right, but she denied that it could be happening in her marriage.
For years, she didn’t acknowledge what she had found out. But what was bottled was actually eroding her sense of sense of self and eventually she felt like she was drowning.
This is the story of a woman who had a healing process to go through after uncovering her husband’s addiction.
Its not an easy journey and one that happens far too often. I’m grateful Lynn Cherry shares her story and I think it will bring you encouragement today.
Learn more about Lynn at lynnmariecherry.com
What You Will Discover
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This is the 3rd installment of our Orgasm Series (click to check out the rest).
For far too many women, orgasm is not a source of pleasure and joy it should be.
Today's show is talking candidly about how to orgasm, what it takes to orgasm, what can disrupt your orgasm and what you should focus on to orgasm.
My guest Keelie Reason gives a great amount of insight and help and you don't want to miss it, listen in!
Find all the shownotes at delightyourmarriage.com/128
What is the purpose of marriage? Many people think its happiness.
Once that purpose is not being fulfilled many marriages fail. Certainly there are times when marriage is wonderfully happy.
But, as every married man and woman knows, there are also times where it is just plain difficult.
Today we have the second half of Kim Olachea's interview where she shares the principle things God taught her through her 37-year marriage.
Find out more about Kim at proverbwise.com
She has lived out the notion that God makes us more holy through our marriage, even when we're not necessarily happy.
Find out all the shownotes at delightyourmarriage.com/127
When you got married, you really didn't know who you were marrying. Maybe you knew some things and probably loved them.
But as time passes you learned more and more. And as time passes some things change.
Illnesses, disorders and disabilities sometimes become reality in marriage.
How do you deal with these challenges together? That is our topic today.
Our guest, Kim Olachea has weathered and helpful insights that I think will give you encouragement in this area.
Find out more about Kim at proverbwise.com
Get all the shownotes at delightyourmarriage.com/126
Today's broadcast is our second in the Orgasm Series and it's a goodie!
We all have preconceived notions around what female orgasm should be.
It may be time to get better and more correct understandings of how it really happens for women.
Sandra Glahn interviewed loads of couples and wives to get the data for her book and has great insights to dismantle those lies that may be holding us back from true pleasure in the bedroom.
Get all the shownotes at delightyourmarriage.com/125
Sometimes life is so hard. Maybe it's your marriage challenges. Maybe it's other things. I'm here to tell you there is still hope. That you are not alone in your situation. God is a God of hope. And the worry, the anxiety, and the gut-wrenching dread are not inevitable, just because you're in the midst of suffering. Today, there is hope. Listen in to hear more.
See all the show notes here: delightyourmarriage.com/124
For Penny, life didn't turn out the way she had planned. Well, her marriage anyway.
When they got married, she didn't really understand that she was a broken person marrying another broken person.
But eventually it became clear to her that the marriage was beyond fixing.
She filed for divorce and her husband agreed. Fast-forward 14 years of heartache and God does something she didn't expect. How can a broken marriage heal?
How can your marriage heal? That's what we're talking about to today. Listen in.
Check out delightyourmarriage.com/123 for the show notes!
Bethany had been married and things were going along fine, but she didn’t feel very connected to her husband on a deep level.
She planned to go on a weekend retreat and she was surprised to find out all that she learned.
She found out that she and her husband communicate differently.
For example, she found out that husbands’ preferred method of communication is sex, while that is not wives’ first preferred method of communication.
This and other generally true understandings gave her the insights she needed to bring her intimacy to a greater level in all areas of her relationship.
See all the show notes here: delightyourmarriage.com/122
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Bethany had been married and things were going along fine, but she didn't feel very connected to her husband on a deep level.
She planned to go on a weekend retreat and she was surprised to find out all that she learned.
She found out that she and her husband communicate differently.
For example, she found out that husbands' preferred method of communication is sex, while that is not wives' first preferred method of communication.
This and other generally true understandings gave her the insights she needed to bring her intimacy to a greater level in all areas of her relationship.
Find all the show notes at delightyourmarriage.com/121