Last week was part 1, and today I'm excited to bring you the last few items to rekindle the romance, intimacy, connection that may have been lost over the years.
Today, I am giving insights on sex, including responsive vs. spontaneous drive and libido. Which I think will help men and women - high or low drive.
Seriously, if you know someone struggling in marriage -- these are the episodes to send them.
It's definitely high-level but if they'd follow it -- oh, my -- they'd be in a better place!
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So this is a catch-all type of episode that seeks to give you high-level insights where you can almost immediately gain traction in rekindling romance, passion, and connection your marriage -- or just take it to the next level.
So, if you've been looking for something...anything that could help -- here you go!
If you have a friend who is on the rocks with their spouse, send them this episode (and the one coming out next week).
If they follow it, I believe they'll witness God's dramatic transformation.
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JUST in time for the holidays!
Please listen to this before you have a blow-up with the people most important to you. I'll give you a lot of tools that you can implement immediately.
(Warning: All of the scriptures below and in the episode are personalized to your spouse, but if you know you'll be seeing a certain someone who triggers you, put their name in there, too!)
When I look at scriptures like...
“Do nothing towards [your spouse] out of selfish ambition or strife but value [your spouse] above yourself.”
“Care not of your interests but care about the interests of [your spouse].”
That's kind of a knock in the face needed to stop always thinking about ourselves, isn't it?
And don't most of our marital fights start because that's the only one we're thinking about?
I just wonder if we'd be proud of ourselves if a transcript of the last fight was read from the pulpit on Sunday.
But...you may be thinking about when your spouse comes at you with...
-Totally, self-centered criticisms...
-Immature and discouraging complaints...
What are you supposed to do?
That's what I'm going to help you see in today's conversation.
Here's the summary if you can't listen in right now...
1 - Have a daily prayer time for your spouse & a daily time in the Word so your heart and mind are shaped by God's leadership.
[Enter negativity from spouse]
2 - Wait.
3 - Could there be something you don't understand that is why they are reacting that way?
4 - Compassionately circle back after emotions have calmed and listen to understand, not to respond.
5 - [Several other things I include in the podcast]
6 - Witness God do amazing things.
In this episode, I also teach you how to personalize the Bible so it helps you with your marriage.
And how to get started loving this book (even if it feels like a chore now).
Suffice it to say that God cares about what comes out of our mouths. Here's another motivating scripture...
Prov 12:18 -- “Your reckless words pierce [your spouse] like swords.”
Let's let that word picture motivate us to hold our tongue!
Start at home, because that's your most important human assignment. The person you can harm or heal the most.
The final part of Prov. 12:18 “...your tongue -- if you are wise -- brings healing to [your spouse].”
Isn't that what we want, everyone around us to be healed? Is us "being right" more important than their healing?
When this habit is strong with our spouse, it impacts our habits with our kids, our extended family, our friends, our work, our light in the world...
I pray that this encourages you to be the peacemaker in your home - as that is what God, through His Word, asks of you.
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You have too much riding on this.
There is too much to lose or gain.
Don't give up.
My goal today is to encourage you. You're doing a really good job. Just by tuning in, you're winning.
You're seeking to love your spouse well, even when it doesn't look like it matters.
You're seeking to do God's will in the midst of your circumstances.
My husband is on the show today because he's the best encourager that I know. And I want you to hear from him how much he wants you to know, you're on the right path, you're doing the right thing, and I am proud of you.
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Sometimes we look at our blowups and wonder -- how did we even get here?
How did a wrong turn, an unpaid bill, an unwashed dish, or a burnt potholder... turn into World War III?
What happened here?
And why is this kind of nonsense tearing our family apart at its foundations?
It's because you're not really fighting about a potholder.
You're fighting about all the unmet expectations from the years and years of pain you've experienced. And so is your spouse.
How do you get out of this cycle?
And more important: what does Jesus require of you in this cycle?
What does is matter in eternity whether or not you succumb to these kinds of blow ups?
Well, my goal is to give you a bit of fear of the Lord to decide you are going to be a real follower of Jesus and the blow ups aren't gonna fly.
I hope you'll listen in with an open heart and a desire to grow and be edified. And ultimately a desire to grow closer to God's will for you.
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