Are you getting close to marriage and the looming thought of a healthy sex life gives anxiety?
I invite you to listen in to these two women who were virgins when they got engaged (one is now married) and hear how they processed through the anxiety.
And now on the other side of the program, they have a confidence and a relaxed sense around something that used to be very difficult to even think about.
Maybe you or someone you know needs insights around marriage and intimacy before they start this journey.
I hope this conversation blesses and encourages you!
PS -- If you want to see how we can serve you in your particular situation, sign up for a Clarity Call at delightyourmarriage.com/cc
PPS - A woman in the Delighted Wife program shared this recently:
This programme is Christ-centred, led by an amazing loving, wise, compassionate, trustworthy team.
They have all 'been there' in marriage challenges themselves so speak with humility and empathy. There's lots of laughter too which is so good.
This programme is about sex but so much more. If a person engages and does the work it will be deeply transformational. This may not be in the way they expect...
I wish I had this programme just before and in the early years of our marriage.
Enrollment for the program closes tonight, Masculinity Reclaimed delightyourmarriage.com/minvite
Today's podcast episode...
If perverted masculinity is overly aggressive or on the other side, overly passive... what is it actually SUPPOSED to look like?
What is a strong man?
What is a true man of God?
What is the masculinity God desires of you?
That's the topic Kyle and I discuss today.
Lots of really fresh ideas, insights, frameworks, and also very, very old ways of viewing the nature of how God designed men.
Kyle is super -- you're going to love his insights and heart after the Lord.
Gosh, I'm excited for you to hear what it's all about!
If you've been praying about our 3-month program, Masculinity Reclaimed...
the program CLOSES TONIGHT, if you'd like to join, now is your time...
Wow -- God is so good.
Men are joining the 3-month program Masculinity Reclaimed because they're ready to become the men that God has called them to be (and as it turns out... that is very attractive to their wives... the results are intimate, as you'll hear.)
I want you to listen to these transformation stories (several shortened stories that haven't been on the podcast before, so you can hear what God is doing!)
If you're ready to take the leap and say I am going to risk the money and invest the time and effort for the next 3 months to see the results that God is clearly doing in others' lives and marriages
I invite you to check out all the details and register here. delightyourmarriage.com/minvite
Prayers of hope for you,
Belah & Delight Your Marriage team
PS -- If you are moved at all by these transformations, I encourage you to check out the details here. delightyourmarriage.com/minvite
Is Jesus the Lord of your life in EVERY area?
Are you trusting God in everything except your marriage?
Are you saying, "Yes, I will follow," but then when Jesus says to sacrifice for your spouse, that's where you draw the line to do it your own way?
Is your emotional intimacy with your spouse in God's hands?
Is your spiritual intimacy with your spouse in God's hands?
Is your physical intimacy with your spouse in God's hands?
Or, have you decided (like I too often do, sadly) "God, in this area, I can do it my way"?
God is really interested in your marriage.
Your spouse is the closest relationship to you.
Whom you can influence the most -- and they influence you the most.
So... if you decide to do marriage your own way, that's a big deal.
I was recently reminded that when I don't TRUST God, I suffer... often, unnecessarily.
When I don't trust God, and I try to do it my own way...the work that God was in the middle of doing -- behind the scenes -- I can ROYALLY mess up!
The lesson I invite you to learn from my fumble is: TRUST God in your situation.
TRUST God in the way He set up marriage and your role (husband and wife) and witness God move in your
He has a way. If you're suffering doing it His way, there is a reward on this side (or the other side) of eternity.
But, as I was reminded of, we may suffer because we are doing it OUR way. And I encourage you to make sure you're doing it His way.
IMPORTANT: Make sure you ARE doing your marriage and intimacy God's way, so you and your wife don't unnecessarily suffer.
(That's the biggest sadness I see with men I work with, they didn't have to suffer, they just didn't know...)
This is where I (shamelessly) plug our FREE Masculinity Reclaimed: Foundations course! (Because I know it can help you!)
We are in the middle of it, but there's just enough time for you to catch up - if you sign up now. It won't be available much longer -- delightyourmarriage.com/menstraining
(Also, if you already know you're going to join the 3-month Masculinity Reclaimed Program, we officially open enrollment Saturday, September 17 -- if you join the first day you get an extra Kick Start training -- where I'd love to spend time walking you through how to "win" MR and get yourself set up for amazing success -- by God's grace. You can join right away here: Masculinity Reclaimed Coaching Program)
If you don't need help in your marriage -- will you pray for this free training -- that the men who need hope would sign on and witness God's transformation for many? And most importantly, that each man would draw closer to Jesus.
Thank you for your prayers.
May God help you to TRUST Him in your specific situation. He continues to teach me, and I hope that encourages you!
Love & Blessings,
PS -- The free men's training is going away soon. Sign up, and catch up here: delightyourmarriage.com/menstraining
**Masculinity Reclaimed: Foundations course is starting Monday, September 12, 2022 -- it's on-demand training but will only be available for about a week, so register now: delightyourmarriage.com/menstraining**
I've been posting a lot of resources for men, so this one is for the ladies (and the curious men :)
I used to be very confused on what my husband needed from me. A lot of women that I have worked with feel like it comes down to a clean house, hot meals and happy kids.
And when that's not enough for him, it feels very unfair. That she is doing ALL of this and he's still grumpy and unsatisfied.
She may even have intimacy as a part of their lives, but he still doesn't seem to care.
What is missing?
Well, it took a while, but by God's grace through trial and error, learning from mentors, books and courses... now I'm at a spot where I can give you the keys I wish I had!
And I made it into a handy acronym so it's easy to remember:
Super simple. But, not easy.
See that's God kindness. I've noticed, that in order to love our spouse well, we wives have to deny ourselves and choose to love our God-given assignment (our husband).
And that choice, every day, makes us more like Him.
He's not like us, he's not designed like us. God made your husband unique and special.
And it's my privilege to let you hear from my husband and what he recommends to us.
Also, for the curious gents who plan to listen -- he's got some GREAT advice for you too!
I hope this blesses you!
PS -- Women if you want to go further in this, we have a community of women who support and love each other on this journey to heal their marriage, honor God, and love well. If you're interested to find out if this is right for you, sign up for a Clarity Call and a kind, empathetic Clarity Advisor will listen to your story and be able to give you guidance on your next steps. delightyourmarriage.com/cc
PPS -- For the men who want direction for your next steps, join the free Masculinity Reclaimed: Foundations course, which is starting on Monday, September 12, 2022.
It's an on-demand training but has lots of interactive bells and whistles. It'll only be available for about a week, so register now! delightyourmarriage.com/menstraining
(My boys make an audio appearance on today's episode).
I thought it was appropriate because Robert and I both got choked up towards the end of this interview -- you'll hear why.
Robert has more kids than me. Not 2, 3, 4 or 5... He has 7.
Robert also has about 7 times more energy than I do. Which is why I'd like him to write a book. (Please, Robert, we all need it.)
His wife was actually the one who invited him to Delight Your Marriage. And felt sure he would learn what he needed for her.
And... I have got to hand it to her :) I think she was right!
But I also have to hand it to Robert, because he totally humbled himself, did the work.
Changed himself -- and God did beautiful things in their marriage!
I can't wait for you to listen in to their story!
If you're a husband -- he gives tons of ideas and thoughts about what you can do to change things.
He started his journey with the free training, that we're offering just around the corner -- September 12, 2022. You'll need to be signed up -- you can do so here.
Love and Blessings,
PS -- You might tear up too.
PPS -- Gents, grab a tissue while you sign up for the free training!
Or if you're a lady or a gent, and you want to get on a call 1:1 to see how we can help you, you can sign up for a Clarity Call here.