You have an Assignment (1 Cor 7:17). A plan a purpose God laid out for you to do.
A set group of people He wants you to impact.
Jesus didn't assign you to everyone.
He even had limits on himself.
Jesus himself limited his prayers: "I am not praying for the world, but for those whom you have given me" John 17:9
But if we think that we're supposed to be doing everything, we'll miss who He is really assigning us to. Thus, His perfect plan doesn't go forward.
This impacts your sex life, and is impacted by your sex life. Whether you're a woman or a man this has impact.
I think this allows us to all take a breath and say, "Lord help me to know who you have given me.
Help me to be content with who you have given me. Help me to truly serve, love and impact only those you have given me".
And if all of us did that... then the world would look a lot different, I think.
I share how I'm doing that in my life, with my family and in my current launch of the renewed Masculinity Reclaimed program right now.
I share how men I've worked with (who I believe God put in my assignment) have been able to stop "burning with passion" even though they're married and get on with what God wants them doing. Because after my program they are more Christ-centered men.
One--maybe surprising--thing I share in this episode is how I wish my ex-husband took the Masculinity Reclaimed course. It's basically written for a man who thinks like that to help him become a man who thinks like my current husband...a man by his behavior and heart motivates me to want to make love to him. (I'll tell you it works!)
I hope this encourages you to deeply reflect on your Assignment and the role sex plays in it. And I pray that will help direct your steps.
Enrollment for the Masculinity Reclaimed program is open now, but is closing very soon, so I hope you register now. Delightyourmarriage.com/mrsp
This is probably THE question I hear in one way or another over and over again.
Lights off, sheets up and "vanilla" sex is the refrain that is very frequent.
Why is she like this?
How can this change?
What about specific things she's squeamish about like "intimate photos of us", anal sex, and mirrors?
If you'd like more insight on anal sex: delightyourmarriage.com/sod
All that is covered in our conversation! Especially for men, but helpful for women!
In the Masculinity Reclaimed: Be respected, enjoy fierce intimacy and love being married again!
You'll learn how to strategically transform your marriage so she WANTS to enjoy sex with many new positions, visuals and variety...
...a 92% success rate!
We are launching very soon (and won't be opening up the doors til next year!) so go to delightyourmarriage.com/menstraining to get all the details!
To my beloved listener,
I want to encourage your heart in trying to understand what’s happening and why.
I know you’re doing hard work to figure out what your role is and should be in all of this.
And I commend that so much. <3
Also, as you’re going through so much right now, I hope you rest.
I invite you to practice self-care especially right now.
I hope you’ll read, write by hand, & meditate on Matthew 7:12-24 & Galatians 5:19-24
(Further reading: Further resources: I recommend this interview you listen to and interview with Brene Brown and Ibram X. Kendi and a message from Bishop TD Jakes.)
By Gods grace... We’re going to get through this.
PS If you're signed up for the Men's Training: from her "duty" to her desire, delightyourmarriage.com/menstraining it will be released Saturday and the rest next week!
If you're not signed up, be sure to soon (it'll only be available for a limited time!)