Playfulness doesn't seem important now that life is so busy and stressful, but it's actually central to a good marriage and a PASSIONATE marriage.
When you think about what your relationship was at first, it probably was full of laughter.
Right? The value of playfulness-
Laughter makes you smarter Makes you more creative Improves your immune systems
The JOY of the Lord is our strength Rejoice... is a constant refrain in the Bible even in the WORST circumstances, we are invited to rejoice in the Lord.
There is power in joy.
Sex can be awkward, uncomfortable, and embarrassing just to name a few.
And if there's a playful culture in your marriage, it causes laughter.
If there's not, it causes distance because you both are trying to look better than you feel.
For both parties, they're insecure around sex, so if your marriage is more playful...
You're not trying to be perfect in front of the other. You're not trying to compete with the other.
You're not trying to change the other. You're staying present and looking at the joyful parts of life together.
I think this episode will not only convince you WHY but also HOW to make your marriage, playful, safe and passionate.
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As a husband, maybe you're wondering where the passionate nights went from your first months or years.
Your wife may be wondering where the romantic DAYS went.
But, maybe you're stuck at home and it feels like you're not able to do any kind of romance given the circumstances.
I hear you... I will add that I live in NYC, in a 1 bedroom apartment with two sons (age 5 & 6) during quarantine. Which means we've probably left our physical apartment 5 times in the last 7 weeks...
...and I'm here to tell you, you can DEFINITELY have a Wild Romance even during this season. (You'll understand more on this show).
I want to gift (for FREE) two valuable resources from a $297 course that I have only offered to my current students...
Because it's almost Mother's Day & I think you need to understand the template on How To Be Romantic while at home...
And this will help you forever understand what your wife wants when she says she wants to be "wooed".
There's a catch.
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So, what I’ve noticed is that all of us are insecure. For some of us it’s more obvious than others.
It shows up in life, and it shows up in the bedroom.
I want to talk to you about what men are insecure about around intimacy and I want to talk about what women are insecure about around intimacy.
We have the opportunity to help our spouse feel more secure.
But how do we help our spouse when we ourselves are struggling with fear of judgment, rejection and body image (to name a few)?
Well, I think we need to understand where that fear is coming from.
And that’s what we explore together on today’s show.
Do you feel worthy?
Do you treat your spouse like they are worthy?
How can you help your spouse not be so insecure...
-around professional things,
-around the ways that they are in the world?
Hint: it’s different for men and women.
(To understand more about this framework, and get a free PDF download go to delightyourmarriage.com/framework )
So, on today’s show I want to tell you about what I think will be helpful for you to love your spouse in a way that will make them
-take down their guards,
-be less perfect (yep perfection is a mask for insecurity)
-be more vulnerable,
-be more messy & real,
-be more kind & loving,
-be less awkward,
-be more open, and
-be more secure.
And you too.