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Delight Your Marriage

Hi, I'm Belah. Along with thousands around the world, you will go deep into the real issues, joys, and how-tos of physical intimacy. It's playful, peaceful, purposeful, and really intimately exciting! Discover insights around godly intimacy on how men tick and how women feel! And you'll be amazed to hear the inspiring stories of transformations and advice from the expert guests as well! It's scriptural and practical. If you're a man, you'll be drawn because you want to understand your wife, how to invite her in intimacy, and even your own God-given sexual desires. If you're a woman you'll understand how to enjoy your own pleasure and love your man through sex. Free gifts for you! https://www.delightyourmarriage.com/free If you're looking to see how to transform your marriage apply for a Clarity Call ($300 value) here: https://www.delightyourmarriage.com/cc
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Nov 20, 2018

 When I work with women, I think the biggest problem is they don’t have boundaries.  And for them to slowly strategically come out of abusive relationships and cause their marriage to thrive instead of the abusive, they have to have boundaries. But it might not look the way you think it will look.

 

I grew up without boundaries myself. And So I never learned that I was responsible for me: my feelings, my thoughts, my choices, my property, my own things, my privacy... So naturally when I got married, I didn’t think I owned these things either.  And I didn’t think my husband did either.  Especially hearing the “two will become one flesh”, to me that meant that I owned him and he owns me. So  we had to be the same.

However that doesn’t work. 

How do you create boundaries in your marriage? How do you make sure those boundaries are respected?

And should we always be “honest” with our husbands? I don’t think so necessarily. 

 

I look forward to our conversation!

DYM is sponsored by my new business Couragess: Christian Women’s Mastermind group. Would love for you to check out my new site and get my free resource: 3 Habits to Grow Your Confidence immediately! www.Couragess.com

Nov 15, 2018

(So sorry, my computer broke so I wasn't able to edit and this is late, but I think the content is all there!)

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I was abused and I was completely unaware at the time. Because he was spiritually gifted I trusted him. But he wasn’t exhibiting the fruits of the spirit. 

If you’re being abused, it’s so hard to see what’s really going on in your marriage because something that’s inherent in abuse is blinders. Today, I talk about my own experience with abuse in my first marriage, and what it took to get the blinders off for me. 

And then not only removing your blinders, but then what is your next step after becoming clear on what’s really going on in your marriage. And then to make wise action towards what I believe can completely transform him. 

This is the beginning of a series of DYM shows on abuse. There’s many different levels, categories and types of abuse towards women in many aspects of life. I want to help a woman who is currently in an abusive situation to think through the really difficult areas to walk the hard strategic road to recovery that I believe is possible.

Please note: I am not a licensed therapist or social worker and I cannot provide that “professional” guidance. But this is what I have learned through my story and the suffering I went through and what I have helped some of my coaching clients out of. 

Regardless of my credentials, we need to be helping women in this extremely common and devastating arena. 


The resource I referenced about getting support around domestic violence and abuse is www.nomore.org 

Nov 15, 2018

Not discussed… but it’s common to be attracted to someone that’s not your spouse.

What do you do about it?

First, figure out where you are in your level of attraction and then decide action steps:

-1-3 (when you see them/talk to them you feel a chemistry)
talk to God, get busy, be an enthusiastic lover with your husband, redirect your thoughts, read the Word, work with your hands

 

-4-7 (find your mind wandering to this person consistently) confide in a mature friend of the same sex–tell them what’s going on and be very honest, avoid spending time with this person, journal about their qualities and affirm that your husbands qualities are better because x, y & z, speak affirmations in faith, draw close to your husband

 

-8-10 (if you’re considering an affair, divorce or in that spot already) seek counsel of a therapist or counselor, use all sexual inspiration and direct it towards your spouse, be as enthusiastic in the bedroom as you’d be with this new person, pray fervently, be very intentional about falling in love with your husband again, write pros and cons list of this decision and include EVERYONE who would be positively and negatively affected in short term and long term—be honest with what you’re dealing with, pretend you’re in the future looking back on your life and determine whether you’d make that same choice if you could do it all over again

 

Remember, what you imagine you see now…it’s all a fantasy. You are with the right person. And God will give you the grace to see that if you trust in him.

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UPDATE: I have had to postpone this virtual class referenced on the podcast. Feel free to sign up here to hear more about when the class is ready to be open.

 

To men:

I have men that reach out to me a lot of direction and support because they wish their wives would be interested in my material. My heart goes out to them and I’d like to give them individual and specific guidance, but I don’t feel comfortable working with men one on one. So, I am developing a Delight Your Wife virtual classroom just for men. This will be a weekly class where I will be live with you discussing a particular topic. You can send me your questions or add to the discussion during the call. These will be recorded and ready for you any time you’d like them in the future as well.

If you sign up in November 2018, you’ll have the lowest subscription fee as the content is still being developed and the virtual classes will just be getting started. Sign up for Delight Your Wife here!

Oct 12, 2018

Excited we're back together after far too long! We have got some fantastic episodes coming your way in this new season of DYM!

 

  • What was the last sex scandal you heard about?
  • What was the last Christian sex scandal?
    • It probably wasn't too long ago. It's really sad. And it happens so much, far too much.
    • Why is this happening? What can we do about this? 
  • On today's show, I talk about why this is so common. I describe the problem and then what you can do in your own marriage. What you can do in your own sphere of influence to guard yourself and others.
  • Why I have told my husband if he sins--goes outside the bounds of our marriage--he will be forgiven. That doesn't mean it isn't going to hurt me, and the marriage and plenty of others, but anything less can destabilize us in the long-run.

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  • You might know me as the author, podcaster and intimacy coach, but I've also helped many women over the years get their goals: writing their books, transforming their marriages, getting a job, starting or leveling-up their business (brick-and-mortar and online). I’ve worked in entrepreneurship, non-profit and for-profit (with Fortune 50 companies).
  • I am hosting a "Goal-set in God's will" webinar Sunday, October 14, 2018, at 8 pm EST and Tuesday, October 16, 12 pm EST.
    • Discover the 3 questions you need to ask AND goal-set with me on this webinar! 
    • You're someone who sets big, hairy, audacious goals, but could they need a bit of tweaking?
    • Let's do something really important and have fun doing it! Sign up for this FREE, live webinar with me!
Jul 3, 2018

Hi all, 

 

DYM is taking a break for the summer but will be back on late August, early September. 

 

Blessings, 

Belah

May 8, 2018

Questions Discussed:

  • Is it helpful to fantasize about others?
  • How to get turned on
  • How to have an orgasm
  • Female erections
  • How to rekindle your attraction
  • How to get turned on even if you don't "like" him right now
  • How you can be turned on by him 
    • What he can do
    • What you can do

 

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I didn’t feel I could give the specificity I’d like to on a public platform like a podcast or website. So, I’m including VERY practical understandings and examples (language, scenarios, actions) you can use immediately in this course! And the biblical foundations as to why you should be able to enjoy!

Check out The Seduction Course: (Christian) Hot Sex, Step A, B, C.

  • The 3 Components of Seduction
  • Freedom in Language & Actions (Why & HOW!)
  • Teasing & Variety for Hot Sex (Specifically)
  • Three Things to Steer Clear of At all Costs
  • All Steamy AND Sacred
May 1, 2018

Well, by now you know that I’m a fan of The Surrendered Wife. It has changed the way I think and I am so grateful.

Well, this time I have some of the more challenging questions about making your desires known, sex, and some more challenging realities like pornography.

Ultimately, its a fantastic conversation which I hope you'll listen in!

Find out more at delightyourmarriage.com

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Ensure that you’re infusing your marriage with exciting physical intimacy:

I’ve released the first 4 parts of a new course I’m really excited about: The Seduction Course: (Christian) Hot Sex, Step A, B, C.

I didn’t feel I could give the specificity I’d like to on a public platform like a podcast or website. So I’m including VERY practical understandings and examples (language, scenarios, actions) you can use immediately in this course! And the biblical foundations as to why you should be able to enjoy!

Right now you can get the course at its lowest cost (it will go up in the following week as the 5th part is released). Check out The Seduction Course now.

  • The 3 Components of of Seduction
  • Freedom in Language & Actions (Why & HOW!)
  • Teasing & Variety for Hot Sex (Specifically)
  • Three Things to Steer Clear of At all Costs
  • How is it Steamy & Sacred
Apr 17, 2018

Part 2: 

Well, by now you know that I’m a fan of The Surrendered Wife. It has changed the way I think and I am so grateful.

Well, this time I have some of the more challenging questions about making your desires known, sex, and some more challenging realities like pornography.

Ultimately, its a fantastic conversation which I hope you'll listen in!

Resources mentioned:

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Ensure that you’re infusing your marriage with exciting physical intimacy:

I’ve released the first 4 parts of a new course I’m really excited about: The Seduction Course: (Christian) Hot Sex, Step A, B, C.

I didn’t feel I could give the specificity I’d like to on a public platform like a podcast or website. So I’m including VERY practical understandings and examples (language, scenarios, actions) you can use immediately in this course! And the biblical foundations as to why you should be able to enjoy!

Right now you can get the course at its lowest cost (it will go up in the following week as the 5th part is released). Check out The Seduction Course now.

  • The 3 Components of of Seduction
  • Freedom in Language & Actions (Why & HOW!)
  • Teasing & Variety for Hot Sex (Specifically)
  • Three Things to Steer Clear of At all Costs
  • How is it Steamy & Sacred
Apr 12, 2018

Well, by now you know that I'm a fan of The Surrendered Wife. It has changed the way I think and I am so grateful. Well, this time I have some of the more challenging questions answered like... 

-What about when you have fundamental differences?

-What about different parenting styles?

-Marriage therapy ever a good idea?

 

-What about when he's nasty but you don't want a huge issue by saying "ouch" and leaving the room?

-When you're vulnerable but he hurts you because you're vulnerable

-How do you share your feelings (that are negative) on big things? (Assuming your surrendering the small things)

-What if your husband has Low self esteem?

Find out more at delightyourmarriage.com

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Ensure that you’re infusing your marriage with exciting physical intimacy:

I’ve released the first 4 parts of a new course I’m really excited about: The Seduction Course: (Christian) Hot Sex, Step A, B, C.

I didn’t feel I could give the specificity I’d like to on a public platform like a podcast or website. So I’m including VERY practical understandings and examples (language, scenarios, actions) you can use immediately in this course! And the biblical foundations as to why you should be able to enjoy!

Right now you can get the course at its lowest cost (it will go up in the following week as the 5th part is released). Check out The Seduction Course now.

  • The 3 Components of of Seduction
  • Freedom in Language & Actions (Why & HOW!)
  • Teasing & Variety for Hot Sex (Specifically)
  • Three Things to Steer Clear of At all Costs
  • How is it Steamy & Sacred
Mar 20, 2018

Discussed in this conversation:

  • Divorce is an option, for Christians and non-Christians.
  • I hope I can convince you of the importance of this truth.
  • If you are not aware that this is possible for your marriage, you may be blindsided by this reality. But if you believe you both are free beings who choose everyday to remain faithful to your vows, I think you can walk more circumspectly and carefully.

 

  • How do you shift the way you view your marriage? Well, what are things about your husband that you rely on? How can you be grateful for the things we rely on?
  • How can you be grateful for the man you have instead of the man you wish he was?
  • As I am a woman who got divorced, I wish wives (and husbands) started marriages believing divorce is an option so they would be more careful. So they felt more responsible and accountable for their choices and there are natural consequences to consistently choosing poor behavior towards to their spouse.
    • 1 Corinthians 10:12 "Therefore let anyone who thinks that he stands take heed lest he fall."
  • So how do you turn around a ship heading towards divorce: Gratefulness. Appreciating and respecting and honoring the tiny glimmers and watering those seeds to grow through encouragement and love.
    • How to have habits of gratefulness to help each other grow in noticing the positive. What you focus on grows.
    • Not to be motivated by fear but motivated by freedom.
  • How to be careful to ensure affairs are not blind spots.

 

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Ensure that you're infusing your marriage with exciting sex:

I’ve released the first 4 parts of a new course I’m really excited about: The Seduction Course: (Christian) Hot Sex, Step A, B, C.

I didn’t feel I could give the specificity I’d like to on a public platform like a podcast or website. So I’m including VERY practical understandings and examples (language, scenarios, actions) you can use immediately in this course!

Right now you can get the course at its lowest cost (it will go up in the following week as the 5th part is released). Check out The Seduction Course now.

  • The 3 Components of of Seduction
  • Freedom in Language & Actions (Why & HOW!)
  • Teasing & Variety for Hot Sex (Specifically)
  • Three Things to Steer Clear of At all Costs
Mar 13, 2018

What is included in this show:

  • Why is amazing intimacy important in marriage?
  • Why the lure of Sex is so great
  • Marital love making is supposed to be intoxicating
  • Should you try to make your sex life exciting?
    • Could God wants our sex life to be exciting
  • What I think is the biggest barrier to amazing intimacy
  • Why the enemy want to destroy the excitement in your sex life
  • The attitude behind something is actually more important than the action themselves

Shift your attitude. Col 3:23 Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord, not for human masters.

Men get turned on by something they see, women get turned when they feel good about themselves. -Joyce Penner

 

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The HOW of making it exciting:

I’ve released the first 3 parts of a new course I’m really excited about: The Seduction Course: (Christian) Hot Sex, Step A, B, C.

I didn’t feel I could give the specificity I’d like to on a public platform like a podcast or website. So I’m including VERY practical understandings and examples (language, scenarios, actions) you can use immediately in this course!

Right now you can get the course at its lowest cost (it will go up in the following week as the 4th part is released). Check out The Seduction Course now.

Mar 6, 2018

What do you want your marriage to look like? Is it at the level of the connection and depth of love that you desire? If not, what does it look like? And the follow up question is what you can do to change it?

We cannot change what we do not notice. I encourage you to take stock of your intimacy which is your husband's fuel of your connection. How often are you making love and how are you making it a priority in your life? It often isn't as easy as it sounds, but I have some tips and encouragement that will help.

When you make love to him, you are loving him the way that he receives love. So, to realize your connection goals, I encourage you to make that a strategy.

If you feel far off from where you want  to be in your marriage, my husband has a prayer for you at the end.

Love you and be encouraged this week!

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Be intentional about the spice of your sex life:

I’ve released the first 3 parts of a new course I’m really excited about: The Seduction Course: (Christian) Hot Sex, Step A, B, C.

I didn’t feel I could give the specificity I’d like to on a public platform like a podcast or website. So I’m including VERY practical understandings and examples (language, scenarios, actions) you can use immediately in this course!

Right now you can get the course at its lowest cost (it will go up in the following week as the 4th part is released). Check out The Seduction Course now.

 

Feb 27, 2018

Sex is Better In Marriage. If it's better, why is there so much divorce and so many unhappy marriages? Its better but it's also harder.

Here's why sex is harder in marriage:

  1. You see the good, the bad & the ugly.
  2. You have to be vulnerable and that's messy & uncomfortable.
  3. You see them in the mundane...when you're brushing your teeth... how can they be sexy to you?
  4. You have to maintain attraction to one person
  5. You have to be intentional about passion, spice & excitement

Why sex is better in marriage:

  1. It's real. Its not a performance where you have to be perfect. It's your real heart and real body. You can let your hair down and be who you are in your sexuality.
  2. It's not going to end. So you don't have to have this fear that if you don't please him, he'll leave. Instead your motivation is to make your forever relationship amazing.
  3. You find out what he likes, and get to practice that and hone your skills on his particularities for years.
  4. No fear of embarrassing yourself. He is the safest person there is. A person who promised to love you through it all and to never leave... feeling silly is something you can do with him.
  5. Sex is spiritual. Its not just a physical experience and you get to explore that in marriage. The peace, joy and love bleeds over from life and into the marriage bed and back out into life.

Be intentional about the spice of your sex life:

I’ve released the first parts of a new course I’m really excited about: The Seduction Course.

I didn’t feel I could give the specificity I’d like to on a public platform like a podcast or website. So I’m including VERY practical understandings and examples you can use immediately in this course! 

Right now you can get the course at its lowest cost (it will go up in the following week as the 3rd part is released). Check out The Seduction Course now.

 

 

Feb 20, 2018

Main Points:

  • The safety and stability of a home is due to the spouses' generosity in the bedroom
  • Making love is God's work.
  • "Yes, God changed me. But he changed me through [our intimacy]." -my husband
  • Gen 2:24 Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. And the man and his wife were both naked and were not ashamed.
    • God was talking about sex.'
  • What a wife needs to make love is a man living out the fruit of the Spirit. 

 

The Seduction Course Part 1 is released today!! Purchase now to have the most discounted price! (It will go up next Tuesday when I release Part 2!)

I am SO excited to share this content with you. I think it will really get you to the place of implementing and doing, practically, those things that will really make you feel powerful. Because you will know that you know how to drive him wild.

Feb 13, 2018

The specific steps to seduce:

  1. Get him to want it
  2. Tease him
  3. Give him a little bit
  4. Pull away
  5. Give him what he wants

Why Seduction is important, helpful tips on what will help you seduce and next steps.

 

The Seduction Course P1 will be released next week! Purchase now to have the most discounted price! (It will go up on Tuesday!)

I am SO excited to share this content with you. I think it will really get you to the place of implementing and doing, practically, those things that will really make you feel powerful. Because you will know that you know how to drive him wild.

Feb 6, 2018

Main points:

-God's might and glory is shown in the uniqueness of creation. And in the tiniest of details of your body. 

-The way you feel about your body affects the way you interact with your spouse and the rest of the world. 

-Children are released in their bodies. Body insecurity is learned (and its unattractive). 

-Our self-perception is tied to so many different things. Time of the month, what we've been eating for the last couple of weeks, what stresses are in our lives etc. And this affects the way we eat and look at ourselves.

-You can honor and listen to your body. But you don't have to feel pressure that you have to get "there" before you can seduce your husband and be released in your body.

-Practical tips on what you can do today to be more released.

 

Check out The Seduction Course presale here for 50% off before it goes live (very soon)!

Jan 30, 2018

How to enjoy sex as a woman. We as women have so much going on. So many commitments and responsibilities. Busy. 

For women its a slow process to transition from life to physical intimacy. (For men, not so much). For us, its slow and it should be. Its an opening. Its a releasing. Its a being invited into her divinely orchestrated womanhood.

 

What does it feel like to be in touch of your body? Why does touch matter? Being in your body. Being attentive to the touch of your body will help you enjoy making love. I explain what I mean and how you can do this practically. 

 

I give you some centering practices that will move you into a centering place where you can receive and be fully with the love making experience.

Letting yourself experience it all. What to do when your mind wanders. What if there is whole other way of experiencing sex than you and your husband have tried--and it is a more spiritual experience that you might have imagined.

Touch outside the body, but what are you feeling on the inside of your Ressa. Not your clitorous, but your inner Ressa. I'll be talking more about experiencing that pleasure on this podcast.

 

Homework:

  • What kind of touches do you want from your husband?
  • Game plan: write out exactly what you want to say.
  • Make love in a slow, intentionally receiving way.
Jan 23, 2018

Embodying your Sexuality P1 & P2, Episode 160 & Episode 161.

"Save sex for marriage". A wise piece of advice. But because I didn't learn anything about it's value, I just assumed it was nasty. 

But I never learned about my Ressa. Why your Ressa needed to be reframed and renamed:  Ressa = Receiving him into your Essence 

(Feel free to keep the name you feel most comfortable with. However, I don't feel comfortable using the words publicly on this show, that to me either evoke negative/pornographic connotations or are medical terms that don't include all the areas and don't capture the radiance of your essence.) 

We as Christian women often don't respect it or honor it as wonderful good. 

A lot of negative and embarrassing things happened while learning how to grow up with a Ressa. You may have a negative view of it just because of the way you grew up.

  • Episode 110 Luke Gilkerson how to raise healthy sexual kids.

 

Is it awkward to consider God coming into the room with your husband and you making love? He's not surprised.

God made it all. He made it to be filled with blood and become sensitive when its touched. 

Embracing the fullness of your Ressa is foundational for you to walk in pleasure in your intimacy. For you to relax and receive him into your essence. Next week builds upon this one, so be sure to do your homework! 

 

176-Body P5: Value Touch

 

Jan 16, 2018

When you're confident in your body you're not being prideful, you're humbly acknowledging His gift of your body.

Your beauty is not a question is a statement.

God knit you together, counted your hairs. He cares about all the incredible intracacies of your body. 

It matters what you do with it. God is all about the spirit and mind and soul. But He also says love the Lord with all your strength. Your body is important to God.

Jesus talked about the body when describing a husband and wife. Sexual immorality is not ok. It matters to God how you use your body.

What you do with your body matters to Him. And the way you think about your body matters to Him. Your body valuable. 

Every time you look at the mirror you're judging your body. You're seeing if you look ok or if you're pretty enough. Stop looking in the mirror. What space of your life, energy, time, desire is taken up by the desire to be the world's standard of beauty? Is that going to matter in eternity? Why are we obsessed with it now? 

I think you'll enjoy the homework ;) Flaunt it girl!

 

Next week: 175-Body4: Honor Your Ressa

Jan 9, 2018

I thought my body was gross. I thought God didn't give me a good one. God changed my perspective. Now that insecurity has become fierce respect for this wonder God has given me. 

Now I'm convinced that we as women are jewels. Our bodies are of the highest value. And we should not put our jewels before swine. Your body should be adored by someone who deserves it. By someone who serves you, respects you and makes you feel worth it. Your husband (though he himself is a work in progress) is the only one who fits the bill.

Tips:

  • Assume the attraction is there. 
  • Practice affirmations. I do this with my clients and this is one of the most effective strategies.
  • Spend time journaling rather than eating. Eating allows us to numb ourselves from the difficulties of life. We stuff ourselves with food so we don't feel. 
  • You are not being cocky by telling yourself you're gorgeous. Your body is God's work of art. He gets the credit. God made you beautiful. When you get compliments, receive it and give the glory to God in your heart. You don't have to let that puff you up in pride, you can give that to God. 
  • It is a discipline to have confidence. And it takes discipline to get there.
  • Write through the hard times, rather than stuff the hard time with food which make the enemy distract you from life and God's voice.

Resources: Women Food and God (Though not a Christian book, amazing principles that we can apply through a godly lense can be gleened.)

 

 

 Next week: 174-Body P3: Flaunt It, Don't Ask For Approval

 

Jan 2, 2018

Welcome to this brand new series all about body. Body image, food issues, body acceptance, comfort in sex... all of it affects how you make love. 

But who made it? Is it yours? Are you responsible for how it looks?

My body image struggles caused me great pain throughout my life. It was my "project." It was my obsession. It was my thing that made me feel OK but also horrible. But as my eating increased, so did my body. And I hated it. I wanted to get liposuction. I prayed God would make me thin. I prayed He'd increase my metabolism. I ordered many ridiculous contraptions that were supposed to make me lose the weight. I binged. I purged.

I share about my eating disorder and what God has brought me out of. Even the times I did lose the weight, did it fix my life? Or were there still things underneath that were still broken?

You can imagine what this all meant about my sex life and connecting to my husband.

If you're anything like me, this is a journey. And in this series where I want to join with you on this struggle. 

I think this is a huge barrier to a fulfilling sexual intimacy in your marriage. But where is God in all of this? What might He want you to know about your body? 

Do the work to actively engage in this series to change.

Homework:

  • What's your food story and your body image?
  • Where are you now?
  • Where do you want to go, what do you want to feel, what do you want sex to be like?
  • And make love to your man this week ("do before you feel")

Next week we continue with Body P2: Know Your Worth, Freedom With Food

Dec 19, 2017

In the long view of your 100 years on earth, what is going to matter in THIS season? 

I had an abrupt and unsettling realization when I had a parent teacher conference a few weeks ago. Though I believe I was discerning God's will and way for my life. I don't believe I was pursuing it in God's timing. 

And that is one of the central themes around today's podcast. What is your season (mine is a quarter inch) in the grand scheme of life? And what matters most right now. 

From there, what do you do with that understanding? How does it become practical and lived out?

Some topics covered:

  • The enemy wants to distract you from what matters in eternity
  • Parenting requires focus, I was allowing other "priorities" take that focus.. which now I realize was foolishness given my season
  • Distractions include Netflix, Youtube, Facebook, Instagram, food (a personal struggle I'll talk more about in the new year)... just to name a few.

 

Check out Delight Your Husband: The Christian wife’s manual for passion and confidence in intimacy

delightyourmarriage.com

 

Dec 12, 2017

Sexual intimacy should be a place of rest. It can even become a "haven for me". 

In this interview, Juli Slattery, of Authentic Intimacy, talks about the spiritual priority of sexual intimacy in marriage and the passion involved in covenant love.

She also discusses which Sexual acts are ok? How do you know if it's a conscience thing or just a comfort thing? 

  • Has God said no to this? 
  • Is this loving and beneficial, is it good for us?
  • Is it only us?

We don't grow in anything unless we push past our comfort. Learn how to become great lovers. How to be able to lose control? Either a fear or a lie.

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Dec 5, 2017

When you think about the women of the Bible who comes to mind?

Ruth, the loyal daughter who served her widowed mother-in-law. Esther, who risked her life to save her people.

The hardworking Proverbs 31 wife. Mary, the teenage girl who's heart was so tender before the Lord that He chose her to be Jesus' mother. 

Yes. The women in the Bible are incredible and should be aspired to.

Did you immediately think of the Song of Solomon? Probably not. Not because she doesn't take up space in the scriptures.

Actually she has more spoken words than any woman in the whole Bible. But we probably haven't heard many sermons about her. (There's plenty of reasons why... a discussion for another time).

I'm joined by intimacy expert Dr. Juli Slattery from Authentic Intimacy. And we discuss the desire and pleasure of the woman (in the Bible) of the Song of Solomon. 

God wanted us to hear and understand that desire. He wanted us to see the holiness in it.

What does this mean to your marriage? How can you apply this in your marriage?

delightyourmarriage.com

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My book---Delight Your Husband: A christian wife's manual to passion and confidence in oral sex---may be the tool God would use to bring light and joy to your marriage bed.

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