Delight Your Marriage

Husbands and wives were designed to be different. You want different things in marriage and intimacy on every level (emotional, spiritual, and physical). Whether you're a wife or a husband, whether you're suffering or pretty good... and you're looking for Bible-based insights and scriptural practical guidance on how to transform your marriage, you've found the right podcast! We have "transformation stories" that will inspire hope that putting into practice these principles, by God's grace, can truly change your intimacy completely. If you're looking to see how to transform your marriage sign up for a free Clarity Call, we can hear your story and work with you to determine if we are confident we can help you:
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Dec 9, 2020

My conversation today is with a wife who had a persistent husband. 


After he worked on himself (!) he highly encouraged her to work with me in a program. At first, she wasn't happy about it and she felt pushed into it.

But through the process of understanding who her husband is... different than who she is, she discovered that God may be asking of her something that she didn't expect. 

For wives: if you feel "pushed," (assuming there's not abuse and your husband is a good man) Diana's encouragement is to come at it with an open mind. "What do you have to lose? ...Your marriage" 

I believe this conversation is one you won't want to miss!


For wives... Right now I have FREE training series for wives: Seductive Confidence, you can get it at

(Be sure to sign up right now so you can have access to the training!)

For husbands: here's some free advice if you'd like to invite your wife to listen to my trainings:

Dec 2, 2020

This is part 2 with my husband where we're talking about what seduction means to men. 


I encourage you to "catch" my husband's heart. That's what's so attractive. That spirit is what encourages me to be generous in the ways my husband desires. 

If you want more insight, on how to introduce your wife to my material, I have a special FREE Advice for Men To Invite Their Wives training. 



If you're a wife and want to get access to a FREE training called Seductive Confidence Masterclass. I am excited to encourage more women to grow in their God-given right to be free, playful, and loving through intimacy!




Nov 24, 2020

Hi there, 


Today is extra special because I have on the most amazing man I've ever met. Ehemm... my husband. :)

If you want to know why I am the way I am (well, regarding the generous things in intimacy), it's because this gentleman loved me really, really well and continues to every day.


It's not necessarily intuitive, but it is God's way.


This conversation will be instructive for wives -- who feel insecure and challenged by seduction -- and husbands -- who want to be pursued with playful and fierceness.


For men - You'll find out that gentleness and compassion are the keys to her heart as well as specifically what to say to her that makes her want to make you happy intimately. 

For women - You'll hear from a really good man, what seduction means to him and why it's important. 


If you'd like to get a free download of some of my favorite seduction tips, you can go to and you'll be signed up for the Free Training on Seductive Confidence coming soon!



Nov 17, 2020
As a wife, this is something I really struggled with.
Why would he want me to do such embarrassing things? Does it remind him of sin? I don't want to be associated with his past.
Also, it's not my personality. 
And in general, I'm not comfortable. 
I had SO many more hang-ups around this. 
But, one thing kept knawing at me. Why is this all over our society?
Specifically seduction. Yes, the act is in certain movies and x-rated things that I don't watch. But seduction is almost unavoidable (even in PG-13 movies). Whether it's a glance, a teasing, and revealing's everywhere and unavoidable.
It's in every culture all around the world. 
Yesterday, I received an email that Delight Your Marriage is ranked as the #1 Podcast in the categories of Sexuality as well as the category of Health & Wellness in several African countries which (is really cool!) means that culture doesn't make a difference.
These philosophies go across cultures and all over the globe.
Why does seduction matter?
This podcast is directed at wives, but if you are a husband I think you'll get a glimpse of what's holding her back. 
Get the Seduction Tips here and a free training on this!
Nov 10, 2020
If you're new to Delight Your Marriage, this is the first episode you should listen to.
Many people come to my resources with a question on how to make their marriage better but they really don't know where to start. 
This is a rundown on the most important philosophical underpinnings of Delight Your Marriage.
This gives the best introduction to the foundational principles that I use with people from all over the world--by God's grace--to transform their marriages and families.
Just a few things included: 
  • What a husband needs and what a wife needs to feel fulfilled in a marriage
  • Why intimacy is so important to a husband and that's reflected in the brain's physiology 
  • Why, I believe, God made men & women's drives so different
  • The underlying reasons emotional and physical intimacy isn't strong in a marriage
  • When people are struggling in their marriage they often get advice which makes it all worse. What's the missing piece? Strategy.
Listen in and go to to find out about all the courses I offer to totally transform your marriage!
There are courses for husbands or wives to receive the love you're craving in your marriage.
Nov 3, 2020
So, today's a pretty important day. And you may listen to this in the future which will be relevant. 
More than ever, our land is divided and we have strong convictions on right and wrong. In Jesus' day political issues based on power, oppression, greed, and con... plagued everyone he interacted with. They were impacted at a personal level.
Jesus' sights were different than those experiencing political suffering. He taught us how to love from our hearts. He brought enemies together to pursue God's kingdom over an earthly kingdom. 
I don't know what is going to happen in this election. I know I voted according to my convictions.
More importantly, I know that if the other side wins, God is still my King. He is bigger than me. His timeline is far bigger than the number of years I am on this earth. 
So, if the next 4 years needs to look different than I hoped, I will not take that out on God.
Because He knows better than I do. Instead, I will pray for those who I might consider enemies right now. I will also live in thanksgiving. It is a command far too often in the Bible for me to ignore.
I encourage you to not let your heart be troubled.
I encourage you to look like Jesus in this time.
Remember when Peter cut off the ear of the soldier coming to take Jesus to kill him (some might say "self-defense")---Jesus rebuked Peter and healed the soldier. 
I don't know what God is up to necessarily, but I trust Him. And I will be faithful to His teachings even now. 
If suffering is going on in your marriage, this exact message applies to you. Having hope, faith, and love--even now. It's a choice. A hard one. But the right one. 
Oct 27, 2020

Hi there!

I hope things are going well for you. I have an inspirational story to share with you today. It's a story of challenge and ultimately hope and healing. 
Alexis and Justin ( grew up in homes that had significant abuses, including sexual and drug abuse. By societal expectations, they wouldn't have gotten through that pain.
But God intervened. Both went through the foster care system and by God's grace, amazing things have changed for them. AND they're now founders of organizations that help others who have gone through similar challenges.
They've written a book about their story and today, we focus on how Justin helped his wife heal from her trauma by his reliance on the Lord.
My encouragement is to listen in and be encouraged and inspired to continue your journey. And I think it will encourage you that people like Justin and Alexis are doing amazing things for people---Jesus' hands in the earth.  
Check out all the links we reference here!
PS I have some resources for women coming (I know I focused on the men for a while) so I encourage you to get the 6 Tips for Seduction here:
Oct 20, 2020

I'd like to give you a view of communication that isn't repressing feelings but also isn't open with all of them, at least not all at once. And when you are open slowly, you are in a way that encourages the good rather than discouraging everything.

I think in our fast-paced society nowadays, we feel this inappropriate pressure to share all the feelings we have about a topic (sex is a big one!) with our spouse because we need to get that checked off of our mental burden list. Or we need to finally unload or get it off our chest.

So we pile on all these painful complaints, criticisms, and unacknowledged feelings all at once.

And it causes huge divisions between partners and can take years to heal, if at all.

My encouragement in today's podcast is to think of your relationship not as a 30-minute conversation but as a 90-year conversation. There is no need to address everything right now.

There is a need to be respectful, kind, gentle, grateful, and loving in all your communication with your spouse. When that is your "normal," then there is an opportunity to strategically place encouragements towards a general movement in a direction that is important to you.

"But that could take months, even years." Luckily, you have that. And you are strong enough to shift things slowly but surely in the right direction. The shocking thing is if you are disciplined and you are careful, it may take way less time than you think.

One important piece is you can make yourself happy during that time and happier as you wisely encourage and compliment in the direction you desire. (More on that in the podcast).

This is giving the truth in love. We don't need to rhetorically cut each other because we're lazy or we're "good at fighting." We can be gentle, humble, meek, self-disciplined, and patient with the truth--even in response to our partner's accusations.

This way is harder and requires Jesus' strength and character, but it will actually move you farther faster. The other can set you back for years to come and may undermine the very thing you're trying to improve.

I hope you'll listen to this podcast with an ear for what Jesus wants for your marriage and interactions in it.




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Oct 13, 2020
Hi there, 
This podcast is for men (or the women who want to peer inside of hearts of men) it's all about the specific Stages to Sexual Freedom that a husband can employ to transform his marriage---even if he's the only one doing the work.
If you're an action-taker once you know the process you're going to start and fix this once and for all, this is the podcast for you.
I believe that those who listen will feel empowered to do what God wants them to do in their marriage to truly transform it. 
In the second half of the episode I'll be sharing more about the Masculinity Reclaimed: Be respected, enjoy fierce intimacy, and love being married again program.
We'll even hear from Vikas who went from a sex-starved frustrated marriage with a young child to a place where she often initiates 3+ times per week and she doesn't' even know he did the program. 
To learn more about the program he went through, go to 
Enrollment is open now but won't be open for long. Find out all the details here:
Oct 6, 2020
This interview is with a man who had suffered in intimacy in his marriage for 14 years. 
She had intense anxiety (I've been there!) and it made intimacy very difficult for both of them. Sex would happen maybe 1x a month, but it was never something they could talk about. And masturbation was something he turned to alleviate the loneliness. 

Now they make love 3x per week--and she initiates 90% of the time! That is a manifestation of both of their courage and healing for both of them.

What happened?

Well, it all started with Steve the rooster. This is a good story. So...

Step #1 - Buy a rooster
Step #2 - Invite your mom over
Step #3 - Just kidding... :P 

But, there are fantastic keys in his story and the process they went through to get to the other side.
One important note I share at the end:

If you are a husband and you want your marriage transformed like Captain's be sure you... 

...don't accidentally undermine your wife's confidence.

That is exactly the topic I'll be speaking to on this weekend's Men's Masterclass. 

If you're not already, sign up for LIVE, FREE Men's Masterclass on Friday, Saturday, and Sunday!

Looking forward to speaking with you soon!


PS Don't forget to sign up for the LIVE, FREE Men's Masterclass, sign up here with me THIS weekend!
Sep 29, 2020
Hi there,
Not sure if it was for you... but for me it was a whirlwind of a weekend. I put on a church conference on Saturday (in Spanish--eek!) which was scary, but God came through in an awesome way, which was so cool!
Also, on Friday I had the chance to interview 3 different graduates from my Masculinity Reclaimed program. Today's podcast is of Charles. 

His story is hard to believe---but one that will surely give you hope. 
To be transparent, I have 2 ulterior motives for sharing his story:
1- To invite you to my Free & Live Men's Masterclass coming up really soon, sign up here:

My prayer is that men's lives are utterly and forever changed just by attending the Free Men's Masterclass Live.
And possibly, deciding after that training to enroll in the Masculinity Reclaimed program, which is what Charles went through. 

But my plan on the Free Men's Masterclass is not going to  be a "hide-the-ball" presentation, but to genuinely help your marriage turn around! 

2- To listen to the man who came into marriage and throughout his marriage with sadly, huge measures of infidelity. And yet, God did an incredible work of grace and healing in their marriage---reflected in their intimacy. 

And now, he can scarcely believe what his wife is doing for him in intimacy. (Bucket-list, before-he-dies-type-stuff!) 

Wild, right? I think you won't believe it unless you hear it, here. Plus he drops some serious golden nuggets you can apply immediately to your marriage, that you won't want to miss. God is good!

He gives great advice, and if you listen, he'll share some important keys that turned everything around.​​ 
PS Don't forget to sign up for the training now, so you don't forget!
You'll want to put that on your calendar and clear your weekend to make sure you can attend live! 
Sep 17, 2020
Hi there, 
If you're going through hard times, this is particularly applicable because we need a lot of love right now. The right kind of compassion and care from our spouse and those around us. 

The best way to encourage your spouse is to attract them. I find it clear in the Bible that people have to be attracted towards Jesus by us living like him. Jesus did miracles and was compassionate to people before he ever rebuked them. 

Jesus dealt with people differently based on where they were spiritually. When someone was demon possessed he healed them and didn't rebuke them for dabbling in  whatever caused the possession. However, when the rich young ruler who practiced righteousness--and clearly was at a different place spiritually--came and asked about eternal life, Jesus let him know he needed to give all he had to the poor. 
Jesus calls us higher, based on where we are right now. And it's unique to each individual. If he spoke to the demon-possessed man like he did the rich young ruler, the demon-possessed man wouldn't have been attracted to him. Instead, he loved that man the way he needed to be loved in that moment. And the man then followed Jesus and became an incredible evangelist of the gospel. 
My invitation is to attract your spouse not to force or push them the way you think will help them get to Jesus. 
When Jesus said the golden rule "so whatever you wish that others would do to you, do also to them." I think he means love them in what they need right now. In who they are. In the way they receive love. 
It was my birthday and I shared with my closest friends that I wouldn't appreciate gifts, but I would love letters and donations to World Vision. If a friend likes to get gifts on their birthday and decided to give me a gift, I wouldn't feel loved. I would feel like they didn't really care about me. 
So, I encourage you to love your spouse the way THEY receive love. What do they like? 
It's different for men and women. I share what specific differences between men and women in particular. Treat your partner the way they want to be loved. Because you would want them to do that for you, right?
Love and blessings,
PS I'd love to invite you to join me at a Men's Masterclass at October 9 - 11, 2020
Sep 8, 2020

Hi there!

Hoping your day is going well? There's a lot of difficulty you may be facing right now, and one of the best gifts I can give you is rest. Well, not me but God.

It seems strange to think rest could help you cope with the intense struggle you're dealing with, but you may be quite surprised.

I'd like to share a podcast episode that is dear to my heart and my growth.

Why does rest matter to your life? Well, Jesus by no means hurried through life. He practiced Sabbath. He enjoyed His day to day life. Even children wanted to be around Him.  

If we're stressed we don't spend the time to connect with our partner in a meaningful way, in or out of the bedroom. For women, usually stress kills her libido but can increase her need for emotional connection. For men, it often makes them crave the release sex brings but he has low capacity to be present to her emotions.

How can any of us not stress? There are bills to be paid, kids to raise, food to prepare, chores to accomplish every single day. 

Rest doesn't fit into our lives. 

But I would posit, as followers of Jesus, we can't NOT rest and be aligned with His will. We need rest to ensure we're on track. It's easy to be on the rat race for years and have no perspective to see what does God actually care about in your life. 

If you don't have pause to calm your heart and mind, you can't discern what that is. It's not work, it's rest.

I am looking forward to sharing this with you. Good news: when you're rested, your intimacy in all ways increases.

Love and Blessings,

PS I am inviting you to save the date for the free LIVE Men's Training Oct 9 - 11!

You can sign up here:


Sep 1, 2020

In this episode, I have a former student who is in his 70s and has been married over 45 years. 

Not only has he and his wife used some of these interventions themselves, he is also very well-versed in the research behind it. 

He nor I am a doctor and this is not meant to be taken as medical advice, but it is worth asking your doctor about these possible solutions.

He also talks about the important health choices their family has made to keep them healthy sexually and vibrant even in their latter years.

For links to the many resources mentioned, go to the show notes page.


To understand the Framework that I taught he and his wife when they worked with me, go to 

Aug 28, 2020
I'm excited to bring you an interview with a former student, Ben.
His upbringing was tense and he tried to stay away from home. His parents' relationship left a lot to be desired. His wife didn't have a man in the home to understand what marriage could look like.
Outwardly their marriage was very successful--but Ben knew that if he wanted his marriage to be passionate he was going to have to change. Which is what he did when he worked with me in my men's coaching program. 
He made drastic changes to himself and it impacted his wife's response to him. 
Both in their 70's is it really possible for them to have passionate intimacy -- physically speaking?
As a doctor of orthodontics, he knows the rigor of academic research. He has done quite a lot in this area and not only has implemented medical interventions but also natural lifestyle remedies that help both he and his postmenopausal wife.   
This is part 1 of our interview where he shares his suggestions for passion even after 45 years of marriage!
Aug 18, 2020

With so much going on in the world, I think people are making big changes in their lives.

Given that people are becoming more aware of their own mortality, I think its making them decide to take action.

My encouragement in today's podcast: 256-How to Not Fail at Marriage, comes from a failure at marriage --ehemm --me!

When my first marriage failed I blamed him. When my second marriage was on the rocks, I realized I was the common denominator.

When I transformed myself, I witnessed this man change before my very eyes.

Now, that I work with many men and women from around the world, I wish I understood these truths and the essential Framework a wife and husband needs to not fail at marriage. And in fact thrive.

This episode is for you if your marriage isn't what you think it could be. I'd encourage you, if you know someone in that spot, this may be the perfect opportunity to send them insights that very well may transform their marriage.

None of us know when it's our time and God calls us home.

But right now, God has given us our spouse as the most important human relationship and I hope you honor it as such.

On today's show I cover:
-The 3 things men need to feel fulfilled in marriage
-The 3 things women need to feel fulfilled in marriage
-This Framework is what men and women need to understand to love each other the way the other receives love (hint: it's different for each spouse)
-What I wish I had known about sexual intimacy in my first marriage
-Why we are more respectful to strangers than our own life partner

If you are new to the Delight Your Marriage philosophies, this is a really good introduction. If you've been around for a while "repetition is the mother of learning" so I encourage you to take these insights too!

Find a deeper understanding of the Framework here!

Love & blessings,

PS - I'd love to invite you to send this to a friend if they're facing marriage challenges right now, this could save their marriage.


Aug 10, 2020
Most people don't use that word anymore. 

But I think "coveting" is still very relevant to our world today.

And is still an egregious sin we need to take seriously for our benefit and God's Kingdom.

When I look at the Ten Commandments, I used to think they weren't all that related to one another... and they didn't have much to do with marriage or sex. 

1- But looking at them again, there's a thread that runs through them very beautifully: contentment with God's will for you. 

2- Sex is even directly indicated.

But the one about "do not covet your neighbor's wife," if taken seriously, guards against the "do not commit adultery" commandment.

Coveting is actually a very important sin for men AND women. We each need to take it very seriously.

It causes your sex life to dwindle if either partner is doing it. 

Though men and women covet differently around sex, if given to that temptation, it has a huge impact on the bedroom. 

God cares about our hearts. He cares about how we think and how we judge. And when we covet, we are taking our eyes off of what God wants us to focus on and consuming our attention with things that just don't matter as much and maybe they are even egregious sins.
Coveting is actually a very important sin for men AND women. We each need to take it very seriously.
Also, I talk about the sins of sex addiction and greed in this episode because I think they're very related as well.

Coveting and adultery are equal sins. But the former leads to the latter. 

Adultery is an outward sin while coveting is a sin of the heart and it happens first. 

Coveting is where we should be vigilant so the outward sin can't even come close. 
When women covet the "neighbor's wife", it's still sin.
Maybe we're jealous of another woman's flat stomach or some other standard of beauty we think is better than our own. 

It causes us to hide, feel insecure and go away from intimacy with our spouse. Leaving our marriage more exposed to potential destruction.
(Also, ladies, I still have to fight against this! That's our fight to win--the fight in our hearts and minds.)

I have actionable recommendations to help you avoid this temptation for your benefit and to serve God and His people better. I hope you'll listen in.

Wishing you a wonderful week!

Love and blessings, 


If you want the specific Framework I use when working with my clients to help them love--the way their spouse receives love.

When you discover how your spouse receives love, and fulfill them in that way, they will naturally naturally love you the way YOU receive love (men differently than women)!

So go to for the free download!  

Aug 4, 2020

Have you been hurt? Have you been disappointed? 

By your spouse. By those you love. By God.


I think the answer has to be yes. Disappointment is part of the human experience.

Jesus was disappointed and hurt by those he loved. But he somehow put his disappointments in a category where it didn't slow down His mission to do God's will.


In this episode, I share how I felt disappointed by my husband and went about things the wrong way.

And I share what I should have done (for your benefit :)


Yes, I'll share how to motivate your spouse to do what you want, but more importantly what to do if they don't. It's a perspective shift that's required if you're going to have a healthy and happy marriage.


But also I share how to have less disappointments and be less hurt by your spouse. 

If you've been disappointed by God, I want to speak to that as well. 


Especially as this pandemic is taking it's toll on so many in so many different ways, we can easily get disappointed at God. How could he do this? How could He allow this?

How does He not stop this? I want to speak to this.


I aim to comfort you and help you process your disappointments and give you a road map of how to have a much better sense of control when you are seeking to heal things with your spouse. 

Love & blessings,


Jul 10, 2020

Hi there,

Hoping you're well? In challenges, my aim is to keep showing up and helping inspire and empower you to have a wonderful marriage and intimacy in it. To that end...

This is Part 2 of my Interview with my husband about his perspectives on fatherhood (and why that makes me so attracted to him!)

Is it his ripped abs and amazing biceps?

​ Well... let's just say he's got a very healthy "dad bod" going on right now. :)

Truth is, the attraction may have started out physical, but became emotional. Because that emotional attraction is there, it flows back into a physical desire for intimacy.

So, if you're concerned that the "Quarantine 15" (aka weight you put on because of being in the house all the time) has left you less attractive to your spouse, I'd say worry more about your character, which will attract her to you.

To answer the question: what makes me so attracted to this man?

His sincerity. Kindness. Genuine care for me and our family... that makes me want to love him in all the spicy ways possible.

Just by tuning in, I think you can "catch" his heart and emulate it.

​​Check out the episode: 253-The Sexiest Dad Alive! Interview with My Husband, Part 2

And as an added bonus: it's more efficient than the hours in the gym... it's about what's inside.


Jul 3, 2020
Like the title? LOL. I know, I know... I'm too much. 

But it was intriguing right? If not... pretend it was something more mature like: "How to Be the Man Your Wife Is Attracted To, Hint: Fatherhood Matters." 

That's what today's podcast is about.

Here's a story that's not in the episode...
Last night, our just-turned-7-year-old insisted that we relax on the couch with our wine while he made us dinner. 

He found a recipe for tacos in his school book and asked daddy to buy the right ingredients, so he could make it!
Then when the 5-year-old finished showering, he taught his younger brother how to scoop the salsa, avocados, beans and lettuce into the shells.
Between the two of them, about 1/8 of the ingredients landed on the floor... 

But golly---we ate dinner and didn't have to make it! You better believe those boys got some serious compliments and encouragement for treating mom and dad to a "feast"! And because of our reaction I'm sure it won't be the last time! 

(You should have seen those boys puff out their chests!)
Am I bragging? Well, maybe. I think there is purpose to it. I'm hopefully casting a vision of what's possible when you have an amazing marriage.

I never saw or heard of such things. EVER. Growing up. So, maybe this is me sharing a vision of what I wish I had had.
Here's what I've learned...

My son treats us that way because he imitates his dad. His dad treats me that way. And (I fail plenty... but..) I sure try to treat my husband that way.

So, today, I invite my husband on to share his insights on fatherhood (and I share why that makes him irresistible to me!) 

In the past when he's come on I've received comments like:

"I listened to a three part series about being peaceful and laid back [Episode 214-Transform to Be Easygoing Part 1 of 3].
As I listened to her husband talk I fell to my knees in tears. I have been teaching men for a long time, and have been thirsting for someone to look up to. Yes, it's Jesus.
But I heard Jesus's character in these two's hearts. It was beautiful hearing Belah laugh at and affirm him.
I loved it when he spoke so highly and with gratitude of her and listened to her sounds in the background.
Their interactions and emotion while speaking is novel in a world where we are so used to sarcasm and selfishness and calloused feelings about our kids and loved ones."

First of all, we are honored and humbled and feel unworthy of such praise. But are grateful that God could use our weak words to draw people to Himself.  

If you listen closely, curiously, carefully... I think you'll understand why I'm so attracted to this man and do all the "sexy stuff" because of who he IS.

God bless!
Jun 17, 2020

You have an Assignment (1 Cor 7:17). A plan a purpose God laid out for you to do.

A set group of people He wants you to impact.

Jesus didn't assign you to everyone. 

He even had limits on himself. 

Jesus himself limited his prayers: "I am not praying for the world, but for those whom you have given me" John 17:9


But  if we think that we're supposed to be doing everything, we'll miss who He is really assigning us to. Thus, His perfect plan doesn't go forward.

This impacts your sex life, and is impacted by your sex life. Whether you're a woman or a man this has impact. 


I think this allows us to all take a breath and say, "Lord help me to know who you have given me.

Help me to be content with who you have given me. Help me to truly serve, love and impact only those you have given me".

And if all of us did that... then the world would look a lot different, I think. 

I share how I'm doing that in my life, with my family and in my current launch of the renewed Masculinity Reclaimed program right now.

I share how men I've worked with (who I believe God put in my assignment) have been able to stop "burning with passion" even though they're married and get on with what God wants them doing. Because after my program they are more Christ-centered men.

One--maybe surprising--thing I share in this episode is how I wish my ex-husband took the Masculinity Reclaimed course. It's basically written for a man who thinks like that to help him become a man who thinks like my current husband...a man by his behavior and heart motivates me to want to make love to him. (I'll tell you it works!) 

I hope this encourages you to deeply reflect on your Assignment and the role sex plays in it. And I pray that will help direct your steps.

Enrollment for the Masculinity Reclaimed program is open now, but is closing very soon, so I hope you register now.

Once enrollment closes, it won't be around again this year.

Jun 10, 2020

This is probably THE question I hear in one way or another over and over again.

Lights off, sheets up and "vanilla" sex is the refrain that is very frequent. 

Why is she like this?

How can this change?

What about specific things she's squeamish about like "intimate photos of us", anal sex, and mirrors?

If you'd like more insight on anal sex:

All that is covered in our conversation! Especially for men, but helpful for women! 


In the Masculinity Reclaimed: Be respected, enjoy fierce intimacy and love being married again!

You'll learn how to strategically transform your marriage so she WANTS to enjoy sex with many new positions, visuals and variety...

...a 92% success rate!

We are launching very soon (and won't be opening up the doors til next year!) so go to to get all the details!

Jun 4, 2020

To my beloved listener,

I want to encourage your heart in trying to understand what’s happening and why.

I know you’re doing hard work to figure out what your role is and should be in all of this.

And I commend that so much. <3

Also, as you’re going through so much right now, I hope you rest.

I invite you to practice self-care especially right now.

I hope you’ll read, write by hand, & meditate on Matthew 7:12-24 & Galatians 5:19-24

(Further reading: Further resources: I recommend this interview you listen to and interview with Brene Brown and Ibram X. Kendi and a message from Bishop TD Jakes.)

By Gods grace... We’re going to get through this.




PS If you're signed up for the Men's Training: from her "duty" to her desire, it will be released Saturday and the rest next week!

If you're not signed up, be sure to soon (it'll only be available for a limited time!)

May 15, 2020

Playfulness doesn't seem important now that life is so busy and stressful, but it's actually central to a good marriage and a PASSIONATE marriage.


When you think about what your relationship was at first, it probably was full of laughter.

Right? The value of playfulness-

Laughter makes you smarter Makes you more creative Improves your immune systems

The JOY of the Lord is our strength Rejoice... is a constant refrain in the Bible even in the WORST circumstances, we are invited to rejoice in the Lord.


There is power in joy.


Sex can be awkward, uncomfortable, and embarrassing just to name a few.


And if there's a playful culture in your marriage, it causes laughter.

If there's not, it causes distance because you both are trying to look better than you feel.


For both parties, they're insecure around sex, so if your marriage is more playful...


You're not trying to be perfect in front of the other. You're not trying to compete with the other.

You're not trying to change the other. You're staying present and looking at the joyful parts of life together.


I think this episode will not only convince you WHY but also HOW to make your marriage, playful, safe and passionate.


Get the Wild Romance At Home video training ($97 value) for FREE by leaving an iTunes Review and sending me a screenshot to belah at If you need more instruction on how at

May 7, 2020

(Note: Free resources offered in this podcast for a review are no longer available.)

As a husband, maybe you're wondering where the passionate nights went from your first months or years. 

Your wife may be wondering where the romantic DAYS went.

But, maybe you're stuck at home and it feels like you're not able to do any kind of romance given the circumstances. 

I hear you... I will add that I live in NYC, in a 1 bedroom apartment with two sons (age 5 & 6) during quarantine. Which means we've probably left our physical apartment 5 times in the last 7 weeks... 

...and I'm here to tell you, you can DEFINITELY have a Wild Romance even during this season. (You'll understand more on this show). 

I want to gift (for FREE) two valuable resources from a $297 course that I have only offered to my current students...

Because it's almost Mother's Day & I think you need to understand the template on How To Be Romantic while at home...

And this will help you forever understand what your wife wants when she says she wants to be "wooed".


There's a catch.


I give you a behind-the-scenes-look at how the business of Delight Your Marriage works. And how the podcast is made and why I think it's God's will for me to rely on people like you.


If you jump through some hoops to post an iTunes Review, you'll get the resource for FREE.


Don't worry, I'll guide you step-by-step on how to "jump through the hoops"--we'll do it together! If you still have questions, I have a specific step-by-step guide, here!


THANK YOU, so much. If you've been a listener for a while, I am SO honored that you would take the time to listen all the way through this episode.

As you know DYM doesn't have ads because I care more about your impact than the revenue that comes in that way. So THIS is how you can make sure the podcast continues.

And if you pray for DYM, please pray that people would listen to this podcast and do the steps so it can grow. The podcast is listened to in 155 countries worldwide and that's because you have spread it--or done what I request in this podcast! So, thank you!


I have included valuable encouragements and insights for you but also an ASK from me.

It means A LOT that you would do this for me and for the spread of this work. 

I love you.



(PS -- We'd still love a 5-star review, however, over 3 years later we no longer offer the free training. Head to and see what is available now!)

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