This interview is with a man who had suffered in intimacy in his marriage for 14 years.
She had intense anxiety (I've been there!) and it made intimacy very difficult for both of them. Sex would happen maybe 1x a month, but it was never something they could talk about. And masturbation was something he turned to alleviate the loneliness.
Now they make love 3x per week--and she initiates 90% of the time! That is a manifestation of both of their courage and healing for both of them.
Well, it all started with Steve the rooster. This is a good story. So...
Step #2 - Invite your mom over
Step #3 - Just kidding... :P
But, there are fantastic keys in his story and the process they went through to get to the other side.