We're all insecure.
Which I think is why God says "do not fear" so often in the Bible.
The only one we are to fear is Him. (Which when we get that right, it puts everything else in perspective and it's a lot easier to not fear everything else.)
We have to take courage in all aspects of our lives in order to do God's will. And when we fear the wrong things we get off track.
Whether it's fearing rejection or meanness from your wife. Or whether it's fearing what he thinks about your body.
When we take courage in one area of our life it permeates to others. When we take courage in our intimacy in our marriage, it permeates to taking courage to do what God wants us to do in other people's lives.
I am really excited to speak to you today about the fears that typically hold men and women back from doing intimacy the way I think God intends: naked and unashamed, aka naked and courageous.
PS - If you need to speak to someone about what a next step might be for you in your walk and journey.
You can apply for a Clarity Call where a member of my team a Clarity Advisor may be able to speak with you and determine how we can help you get to where you're yearning to go.
PPS - I have a ton of free resources for you at delightyourmarriage.com/free
PPSS - Oh! And I was interviewed on this cool youtube channel the other day by a friend from long ago. It's exciting to see where she is and that she shared her platform with me. Check it out here!
If you've ever heard my husband on the podcast, you'll want to hear him now. I was speaking to a mom at the playground and she was remarking at how calm Darrow is. "I think babies love him because they can somehow sense his calmness and presence. It's very unique.” I couldn't agree more.
On today's episode, you'll hear the amazing stories! (I was hoping to go "rapid fire" through a ton of the stories... well, we definitely didn't do that, but I think it's actually a lot better this way.)
If you're a man who is suffering in your marriage, you will find encouragement, validation, and hope---you are not alone. Your marriage can change. It has for many others.
Where these men started from was seriously bleak. But, wow! It is wild to see where they they have gone! Darrow says it's like they were stuck in this deep, deep mud - frustrated, angry, in pain, sad, and ready to give up (you may be able to relate), and now they're on the red carpet - like a dream. No one would ever imagine they were ever in that spot.
Listen in today to hear my husband's advice, suggestions, and plain-old encouragement to you, dear listener.
PS - The free Men's Masterclass is going on right now, but it will be closing soon, so be sure to sign up at delightyourmarriage.com/masterclass.
PPS - If you're ready to enroll in Masculinity Reclaimed for the fall semester, space is limited and we'll close enrollment if we hit a certain size, so be sure to go to delightyourmarriage.com/mr-enroll-fall and sign up asap.
JFYI - Anyone who signs up on the first day of enrollment - Thursday, July 22, 2021 - will receive a free team strategy session with me directly!
I'm so excited to witness God transform your marriage, too!
So, this is such a fun story to share. I believe it will inspire hope, excitement and most importantly faith that God can do this for you too!
I remember speaking with Timothy on our first call together and the sincere pain and loneliness he felt with his wife which was so visceral and real.
He reached out firstly just to thank me for an encouraging podcast that he stumbled upon after a really tough moment between he and his wife and it encouraged him.
My heart went out to him. A big part of him thought the state of his marriage was "just the way it was".
How could a class fix that?
Timothy shares what happened to him when he got the tools and training of Masculinity Reclaimed.
What happened to his marriage when he implemented it.
What changes he made.
Week in and week out he "showed up" and did what I asked -- and what I think you can tell by listening to his story is that he changed.
She didn't know he was doing the program, but she started responding to his change.
He was a "Delight Your Marriage binge-listener" before. (I'm super honored for those of you out there! :)
But it wasn't until he was actually in the Masculinity Reclaimed program where the principles I teach are ordered in the way that his marriage needed with tweaks particular to his situation to heal and then be on a completely different trajectory.
Before he worked so much because he didn't have a reason to be home, before she didn't want to spend time, always on her phone,
And guess who cuddles up to him now?
And guess who initiates much more often?
And asks for new things in intimacy?
And has magically dropped life-long the body image concerns and now gives loads of flirty visuals?
Timothy has witnessed his wife become a very different woman because of the way he has changed!
Now people comment to them about how much fun they have together.
Timothy just graduated from the MR program this Spring, and if you want to be in the Fall Semester of Masculinity Reclaimed, I have a "sample" free Men's Masterclass which you can sign up for here.
The free Men's Masterclass is starting Monday, July 19 - 21.
Enrollment in the Fall Semester of Masculinity Reclaimed opens July 22.
I'm so excited for God's miracles to continue to surprise and encourage us toward faith and glorifying Jesus' work... in more mens' lives, more marriages, and continue the good things only God can do!
(Also, keep in mind, Timothy said: "most of the guys" in the course got his kind of results... just wild.) Listen to hear more.
Love & Blessings,
If you are wondering why she won't initiate or she doesn't have passion when you do...
Here are a few things you may be missing.
Too many men reach out to me and work with me that need this.
If we really believe the Bible, then its instruction will solve the "unsatisfied sexually" dilemma in your marriage too!
Spoiler alert: Being the spiritual leader is a turn-on for your wife! Here's why.
Maybe it didn't matter to her early in your relationship, why would it matter now?
What does being the spiritual leader mean? What would help her to feel like you're filling that role?
And here are practical insights to give grace that will motivate her. I fall prey to the issues all women fall prey to which cause us to lose focus on priorities.
How do you help her in a way that motivates and does not repel or bring distance between you two?
You'll also hear from a missionary in a hard-to-reach country about how his marriage lacked passion and frequency, but he shares what he was getting wrong and how you can get it right.
Also, that missionary went through the free masterclass back 3ish months ago.
It's accepting registrants again so, if you're not yet signed up, the free men's masterclass is coming up next week Monday, July 19 - Wednesday 21! Register asap.
This only happens a couple of times a year, so I encourage your o put it on your calendar and be sure you're registered!
After the free masterclass, you'll have the option to enroll in the full, 3-month Masculinity Reclaimed program, opening July 22.
So sign up for the free masterclass, and you'll get all the details to sign up for the Masculinity Reclaimed program!
The free masterclass starts July 19 at 11am, and the free masterclass trainings will be available for about one week.
Coming up on their 35th wedding anniversary, Kim didn't even want to celebrate.
"I don't like you.... I don't want to be mean, but I don't want to lie either".
And Kim definitely didn't want Russ to listen to my material. Because she didn't want him to think more about sex than he already did.
But, after taking the Free Men's Masterclass, Russ felt God told him to go forward with the paid Masculinity Reclaimed program... without her knowledge.
He felt (at least at first) it'd be better for her not to doubt his changes were sincere and not just to "get sex," plus he admitted his motivations became more sincere as he went through the program.
But now she knows...
And I'm excited for you to hear what happened at their anniversary just several days before this recording.
How their marriage, intimacy, and kids have changed. And what SHE thinks about it all now.
If you're suffering in your marriage with pain, feeling unloved, I think hearing from Kim's perspective what changed in her husband that drew her to him and transformed their marriage, will help you have faith for your own.
This is real life and there's time is still required for trust and healing -- but you can tell they are well on their way and there is an openness that only God could have created. Love and
PS - 1) Announcement: The Free Men's Masterclass: Passionize Your Marital Intimacy (even if you're the only one doing the work) is happening July 19, 20 & 21.
So, I encourage you to get registered and mark your calendar because it's only live for 1 week. Assume each day's lesson requires 1 hour, including homework.
I was speaking to some men yesterday who took the Free Men's Masterclass and they emphatically told me about how valuable it was.
Some men have been signed up for months. If you're registered, mark your calendar to be sure you dedicate the time to go through it.
2) Announcement: For those of you who have been waiting for me to reopen enrollment for the paid program...
The Masculinity Reclaimed: Be respected, enjoy fierce intimacy, and love being married again, enrollment opens on July 22!
The free men's masterclass I mentioned above provides awesome value and insight and if you want to go deeper and see dramatic transformation...
Join the full Masculinity Reclaimed (MR) is enrolling July 22 -- sign up for the masterclass to get all the information.
The MR program will occur July 29 - Oct 28, 2021.
To find out all the details, enroll in the free men's masterclass :)