Delight Your Marriage

Husbands and wives were designed to be different. You want different things in marriage and intimacy on every level (emotional, spiritual, and physical). Whether you're a wife or a husband, whether you're suffering or pretty good... and you're looking for Bible-based insights and scriptural practical guidance on how to transform your marriage, you've found the right podcast! We have "transformation stories" that will inspire hope that putting into practice these principles, by God's grace, can truly change your intimacy completely. If you're looking to see how to transform your marriage sign up for a free Clarity Call, we can hear your story and work with you to determine if we are confident we can help you:
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Jul 8, 2022

Well, first of all, I feel very ill-equipped to answer this question. 


However, I don't think it serves you best for me to pretend that I don't know the limited things that I do believe God has taught me. 


So, with that in mind, I'd like to share the general themes of today's episode


-the horrific humiliation of the cross 

-how that makes us more surrendered followers

-the necessity of solitude

-the reality of our nothingness which we will only perceive should we stay in solitude long enough

-how I wrestle and fight pride and seek humility -- and how I always hope to. 


May this draw you closer to who God wants you to be. 





Invitation: Would you like help in your marriage? We truly do care and so does God! Have you given up hope of change? God can do the impossible!

We invite you to schedule a free Clarity Call with a caring, understanding advisor here at Delight Your Marriage. Click here to schedule.

Here is what one man shared about the Clarity Call experience: “Fear and shame tried to stop me from a clarity call.  I had to humble myself to get the help I needed. The advisor was warm and friendly and could empathize with my situation.”

Invitation: Would you like help in your marriage? We truly do care and so does God! Have you given up hope of change? God can do the impossible! We invite you to schedule a free Clarity Call with a caring, understanding advisor here at Delight Your Marriage. Click here to schedule.


Here is what one man shared about the Clarity Call experience: “Fear and shame tried to stop me from a clarity call.  I had to humble myself to get the help I needed. The advisor was warm and friendly and could empathize with my situation.”

A quote from a course graduate: “Nothing good ever comes easy, so if you are ready to stop trying to get your marriage and your intimacy to a good place and start TRAINING to get your marriage and your intimacy to a good place…this program is for you.”

Jun 30, 2022

When God said, "Let there be light," something amazing happened. 

When I said, "Let there be light," ummm... well... I felt silly and 0 things, amazing or not, happened.


I guess I'm just not God. Which is surprising? 


No, it's not. 

But, the world thinks we get to decide who God is. 

Unfortunately, too many Christians feel that way, too. 


It's tragic. 

God is not us. 

And we don't get to live by feelings. 

We don't get to say, "Today I feel x, so it must be true."


A follower of Jesus -- surrendered -- taking up his/her cross -- dying to his/herself -- is not led by his/her feelings. 

Feelings of right and wrong...

Feelings of attraction or non-attraction (to spouse or many types of others...)

Feelings of desire for sexual intimacy...

Feelings of pleasure in sex... 


Does this mean as a follower of Jesus you have to do things you don't want to do? 






Does it mean that you have to do what the Bible says?






Are there things I don't LIKE that the Bible says?



Am I the one who said "Let there be light," and something happened? 



So, I get to humbly submit to the God and author of ALL and say "You're smarter, You're wiser, Your ways are better, and I'm going to submit my will/feelings/desires to You".

My sexuality included. 


"No one should say God is tempting me...

but each person is tempted when they are dragged away by their own evil desire and enticed. Then, after desire has conceived, it gives birth to sin; and sin, when it is full-grown, gives birth to death...

[God] does not change like shifting shadows. He chose to give us birth through the word of truth."


So, stop asking, "Why am I tempted?" Or, "Why don't I have desire for my spouse?" Or, "Why don't I enjoy sex?"

And instead, embrace the cross of Christ. Deny yourself. And decide this IS God's best for You. 

The surrendered Christian's questions become: "How do I do this Your way?" "How do I have desire for my spouse?" "How do I love MY spouse the way You created them?" "How do I enjoy and find pleasure in the sexual intimacy You designed and ordained and said I should not withhold?"


Yes -- sexual intimacy is a spiritual battle. Do you surrender all to Jesus?

Or are you still self-surrendered? Self-guided? Self-centered?


I pray that this would be as convicting to you as it is to me. May you listen and feel God calling you to greater repentance, depth, love, and worship of Him.




PS -- We'd love to partner with you in this. God doesn't ask us to do any of this alone. We love helping people into joy in sexual intimacy and marriage at every level in every area. Get on a call with a Clarity Advisor to see if you'd be the right fit for us to help you in this vital part of life.

Jun 23, 2022

Clarity is crucial in a marriage because it allows individuals to gain self-awareness, understand their own emotions and behaviors, and without even realizing it, it can help you take responsibility for your part in the relationship dynamics. Maybe you didn't "cause it" but you haven't worked to solve it.

When couples face challenges or conflicts, it's easy to blame each other or external factors without examining what is really going on under the surface of the behaviors. A Clarity Call encourages an individual to look carefully at themselves, their patterns, history, and reflect on their thoughts, feelings, actions, and current situation.

Sign up for a free Clarity Call today!

By engaging in a Clarity Call, individuals can identify their own patterns and unresolved issues that may be impacting the relationship. It helps them recognize their own biases, insecurities, woundedness, and areas for personal growth. Through a Clarity Call, individuals can better understand how their own behaviors and reactions may influence the dynamics within the marriage.

Believe it or not, a Clarity Call can also foster empathy and compassion. When Dana speaks with an individual -- they take the time to understand their own experiences, process them, and become more attuned to their partner's emotions and perspectives.

This increased awareness enables them to approach conflicts with empathy, communicate more effectively, and find solutions that meet both partners' needs.

This is why the individuals on today's call said this: 

  • "After that call, everything that I went through, it was just like, all the pieces of a major puzzle being put together."


  • "You make it very easy. You make it our lives are in chaos and you guys just speak peace right into that situation and calm it down to where we can unload what we need to unload."


  • "It was a great experience something I’ll never forget because it was a great moment that I’ll hold dear to my heart for the rest of my life."

Sign up for a free Clarity Call today!

Jun 17, 2022

I am sharing the episode that has the most downloads at Delight Your Marriage of all time!



PS - Also, I have many free resources and would love to invite you to check them out:

PPS - If you need help with your marriage -- do not hesitate to apply for a free Clarity Call. One of our Clarity Advisors (a former graduate of a DYM course themselves and experienced transformation in their own marriage) will guide you through the process to determine how we can help you. Sign up at

A recent grad wrote,

"I could probably fill a journal with the celebrations I experienced in the program!...

By far, the biggest celebrations have been what God has done in my heart! Our sex life has never been better…

our times of making love are passionate, tender, emotional and spiritual."

Jun 10, 2022

If your marriage is still plagued by your past mistakes -- she brings up what happened 20 years ago... or he brings up how you used to be all the time...


What can you do to heal it?

How can you two move forward and actually build a better marriage? 


I would like you to remember some important scriptures on this topic: 

It is His kindness that leads us to repentance.

He disciplines those He loves. 

Whoever heeds discipline shows the ways to life.


And then this is the one that's super practical: 

"if you are offering your gift at the altar and there remember that your brother or sister has something against you, leave your gift there in front of the altar.

First, go and be reconciled to them; then come and offer your gift."


How do you reconcile? 



How do you make your apologies effective? 

That is what I want to walk through with you on this episode.


I want you to have all of the know-how to get out there and do the scary, excruciating but necessary thing of owning your side and apologizing for it. 

Is it 100% your fault. I bet not.

But, there is always an opportunity for us to own our side and for the purposes of getting right before God -- go and repair with your spouse. 


I hope this helps and gives you the encouragement you need to do the right thing. 



PS -- We'd love to support you in your marriage -- feel free to get on a Clarity Call with a Clarity Advisor to see how we can help transform your ho-hum marriage to one that's warm and inviting! 

A recent grad wrote:

"I’m not exaggerating, I’m keeping it real…this is what I would tell anyone who asked…

I had been praying intensely for my marriage daily for 8 months... I had very limited improvements until starting the program.

The [Clarity] Advisor was warm and friendly and could empathize with my situation.

This program helped me stop doing the things that were undermining my efforts to improve my marriage.

I have spent much more money trying to rekindle my marriage with no results.

This might possibly be the best investment of my life."

We'd love to have you see this kind of transformation!

Jun 3, 2022

When I look back on my life -- when I see what is currently unseen -- when I see Jesus face to face -- when all has been revealed...

I am convinced I will be BLOWN AWAY by the love I never realized He truly had for me. 

In the Bible, it says that God feeds the birds. (Mt 6:26)

He FEEDS the birds. 


I was observing birds yesterday in the park. 

There are tons of them, flitting around, this way and that. 

And yet the God of the universe cares about His creation, so much so, that He Himself feeds the birds! 


He is intimately aware of your life and what you're going through. 

And He is feeding you. He is clothing you. He is giving you far more than just that.

He wants you to realize that in every good AND in every suffering, He remains good. 

There is SO much you (and I) cannot see. 

He allows suffering for His reasons only He can see.

But when you trust this truth that He is the one that gives everything that is right in your life -- it allows you to see the suffering better.

You can endure the suffering with a peace, a joy, and a contentment that is important.

In fact, when you have that peace/joy/contentment during the suffering, you will accomplish at least some of the important purposes He has for that suffering. 


Make no mistake, God cares about your suffering.

God cares about the rejection you feel from your spouse. 

He cares about your loneliness in the one supposedly "safe relationship" - your marriage.

He cares about the lack of intimacy. 

He cares about the lack of warmth. 

He cares when your spouse ignores the cravings of your soul that you were designed to have. 

He cares. 


And IN THIS He is good.


If we only knew how much He truly loved you... 

He would risk you possibly turning away from him due to that suffering because He has bigger purposes. 


Higher than the heavens are above the earth are His ways higher than our ways, are His thoughts higher than our thoughts. 

We do NOT have to understand.

We DO have to trust His goodness. 

That starts with realizing, if the God of the Universe feeds each of these birds, that means he makes each of my breaths happen, each of my blood vessels moves when they are meant to. 

It means He causes my son to smile at me. 

It means He causes my eyes to even see the sunset. 

It means that He not only knit me together in my mother's womb for 9 to 10 months...

But He didn't stop.

He is still in me.

He is still designing, directing, causing all these things to go well in me. 


EVERY good gift is from Him.

Even the ones I don't take time to notice. 


When my arm breaks it should remind me that He was the one that caused it to thrive every other day. 

If we only soaked in the truth of His love, we could more easily trust it during the suffering... He is still good. 

If we only knew His love. 


If we only knew His love. 


If we only knew His love. 


May you know the love of Christ. 

May I know it, too.


Love & Blessings,


May 27, 2022

You're doing it. You want to hear where you might need to grow. You want to see where you might not see yet. That was Meredith's heart and what led to their amazing transformation. 


It is God's kindness to lead us to repentance. 

He loves those He disciples. 

What are Christians...?

Who are Christ-followers...?

What is a Disciple of Jesus?

We're the ones who ask:

"Jesus, what do you want to teach me? What can I learn to be more like you? How can I walk more in your will today? Show me. Teach me. Guide me."


We are all broken and blind to many things.

(I am in that category, for sure!) 

We are all missing some things that others already know -- because God opened their eyes.


If you click this episode, I am proud of you.

You are seeking how you might need to change.

You are seeking what God might want to show you, too, just as He opened Meredith's eyes. 


This is a story of transformation from a woman who chose to see the world as God set it up. 

Not because it's easy. 

Not because it's "natural".

Not because the non-Christians agree with this mindset. 

But, because when the Lord spoke truth to her heart surrounding her marriage, she chose to have an open heart and be moved by His truth. 

May God speak to you through her story. 

She loves God.

She wants to share her story not because it's easy to share.

But, because it's her duty to share what God has done in her, and now, how He can do it in others, too. 


What is her story: 

Through many things, she started her young life away from God and was promiscuous.

So, sex was tainted from the beginning. When she got into marriage, she associated negative things with sex and now she is a repentant Jesus follower.

This sex-thing must not be important to God.

But then, her eyes were opened and God has done incredible things in her, her husband, and their family.   

Now she even has the desire for intimacy. True desire. She's enjoying it and desiring it for herself. 

It wasn't immediate, it was a process.

But you can get there, too.

I love you and I'm rooting for you.





PS - We'd love to join you on this journey. A single podcast episode isn't enough. 

I'd encourage you to take the leap of faith and decide it's time to address this head-on. 

And like Meredith, we'd love to join you on a (proven) journey, where you can come to a place of healing, joy, and even desire for the gift God gave Adam and Eve. 

Let's talk:

When you sign up for a time with a Clarity Advisor - a trained graduate of these very programs - where it's fully confidential and judgment-free, you'll have time to process things you may never have before.

An opportunity for us to see how we can help you in your specific situation. 

We love you.

May 20, 2022

If you have temptations to jealousy, here's what I recommend. 

If you've listened to the transformation stories and become upset, angry, bitter, resentful...

I want to give you some ideas on what to do.

I get that way too.

I have certain triggers that throw me completely off. 

You might as well. 

I want to give you some ideas on how I deal with my triggers. 

And I want you to get really CURIOUS about what you can learn from these triggers to jealousy and how you can end the cycle. 





PS -- We'd love to help you on a Clarity Call, feel free to sign up for a free one here:

We get to see miracles everyday and we'd love to help you.

May 13, 2022

I've been there. 

Angry because he wouldn't change. 

Hurt because he wasn't giving me what I needed.

And God was kind to me. 

He helped me to see that there were places in my heart that needed to be utterly changed. 

This journey to freedom in your marriage is one that should start with the heart. 

If you're a wife, you may see yourself in Emily's story. I know I do. 

If you're a husband, you can see more of how you can serve and love your wife, and also, have hope that God can do miracles in your marriage. 

Looking forward to you being blessed by God's kindness through this testimony of Jesus' transformation.



PS - If you'd like to find out how your marriage can shift in the ways Emily speaks about, I invite you to join a free Clarity Call ($300 value) at

We'd love to serve you and witness God do a miracle in your life as well. Schedule now:

PPS - Last year, Belah was part of the special intimacy expert panel in the 2021 Sex Seminar (a huge success!). Well, she was honored to be invited back for the 2022 Sex Seminar, presenting alongside 22 other professionals in the field. Her topic is THE 8 BARRIERS WOMEN HAVE TO SEX. 

Next week, we'll be sending you a discount code for the entire seminar (which is packed full of value and helpful insights from all sorts of important intimacy topics) and we hope it will be a blessing for your marriage!

May 6, 2022

"I was pretty much done with life...I wouldn't have minded if I passed away. If this is all life has to offer, what's the point?"


A father of 7.

Deep sadness of his inner life. 

Deep pain.



But then... God did an incredible, incredible, incredible thing.


This title doesn't by any means tell the whole story. But I want you to hear the incredible result that God did.

(My other suggested title was "Zero/yr to 5x/wk and She Didn't Know He Did the Program!")

However, the process is what God did in His heart and the fruits showed up in his marriage and intimacy.


And after 10 months of nothing, she started initiating (A LOT) and loving him the way he receives love (in response to his change.)


My favorite part of this story?

That there are seven children growing up in a happy home. A man who no longer hopes for the end, but one who looks forward to what God is doing through and in his life.

That is a good God story.


PS -  If you'd like to have access to the program that Ken took, sign up for a free Clarity Call (a $300 value) to see if your situation would transform like his. We have a trained Clarity Advisor who will help you discern where you are and if DYM can help you.

Whether your marriage is good or desperate. We get to witness the transformation like Ken, but also that those who have good marriages go to great (!!) 

Sign up at

PS - A recent grad wrote:

"My marriage has completely changed.

I would have not guessed that all of this could have happened in such a short amount of time…

and I will forever be grateful for what God is doing in y’all and through y’all!"

Why couldn't this be you?

Sign up for a Clarity Call at
Apr 29, 2022

They're saying a lot of hurtful things.

They're saying it in a mean tone of voice.

Their face has the look of disgust, or worse.


You can feel your temperature rising. 

You can feel your face getting red. 

You can feel your rage welling up from the pit of your belly. 


Is it righteous indignation?

Is it because they need godly correction -- and fast?

Is it that you're just plain tired of being unfairly beaten down?



In the midst of that moment of emotional alarm...

When the atomic bomb is counting down and it feels like everything has to happen right then, or else...

And your "wise brain" - the prefrontal cortex - has gone completely offline and your "childish/immature brain" is the only thing left and can't seem to see anything but red alarm bells everywhere...


Here are 3 tools to dismantle the bomb BEFORE the explosion detonates and destroys and/or damages all that you hold dear

...hurting the people you love the most - those you're assigned by God to protect, respect, love, and cherish.


But just like a professional bomb dismantler (it's probably called that, right?)...

You've got to be trained AND you've got to practice before the bomb is about to go off. 

These are tools to practice. 

These are tools that will make you more like Jesus if you practice them. 

God has given us wonderful ways to respond to situations in the moment and here are 3 that I want you to have.

Looking forward to hearing how this impacts your life! 



PS - We'd love to help you have the marriage you deeply desire and increase how God can use you more effectively if you do have it.

Emotionally, physically, and spiritually fulfilled in God's design. 

Get on a call with one of our Clarity Advisors to let us hear your story and to have the insights to see how we can help you. 

This is a $300 value -- our gift to you for free -- so God can move in you and your marriage. 

It's a brave and important step to get your marriage healed:

Apr 21, 2022

SO much packed in here, but I tried to narrow it down so you have a helpful summary. We go deep in this episode, I really think it'll help you.

Three points are made in this episode:

1 - Your feelings are God given and He wants to do something because of them.

2 - It is healthy and even Jesus-like to express your frustration emotions (without hurting anyone) and grieve through your sad emotions (tears are important).

3 - Regardless of your lot in life, it is your responsibility (not your family of origin, perhaps you didn't have a good role model, maybe you were exposed to porn, or your wife doesn't have wholehearted sex with you every other day...) to correctly follow God with your emotions. 


A lot of men learned to deal with frustration through masturbation and/or pornography. It was a very tactical way to get frustration out of their body. 

However, that stunted the opportunity to get frustration out in a healthy way, so that their brains could develop in the way God wanted it to -- with empathy, gentleness, and kindness. 

So, they came into marriage assuming they'd be able to replace their "frustration valve" of pornography with their wife's body. 

And surprise... they're still frustrated. 

Because that's not Jesus' way. 

They may struggle now with anger, aggression, bitterness, resentment, being judgmental...

Sex addiction, still...

Alcoholism, video game addiction, binge-watching nonsense...

Longing for your past sexual escapades...

Daydreaming about divorce so you could get a new partner...

Other similar things are unhealthy ways of expelling the frustration.

(Things that, if it was printed on the front page of a newspaper, you would be ashamed of.) 


I want you to know -- I am proud of you for even reading this email -- and if you're in any of these loops -- I think God is proud of you for facing it! Bravo!

Listen, this is not just for men, but I hope this will help you process what's going on with you a bit more.


Feelings are good. They're God given. They tell us something. It may be that WE need to process, mature, slow-down, feel grief, etc. so we can feel empathy...

I want you to listen to this episode because I really think it could help you and help all of us pursue Jesus better. 

Love & Blessings,


PS - If you want to dedicate a short season of your life to DO this practically. To live this out for the betterment of your marriage & intimacy but also in service to your kids and ministry -- I'd love to invite you to join a free Clarity Call.

On that call, a Clarity Advisor who is specifically trained in helping you draw out your emotions that may be pent up and looking like anger and self-righteousness instead of frustration and sadness.

People who chose not to move forward with our recommendation because of their current season of life or any other things have emailed afterwards to share how helpful it was for that empathetic and listening ear. 

We'd love to help, schedule a call:

Apr 8, 2022

This is a great sadness to me.

When a wife steps out (even an inch) from her comfort zone and her husband mishandles this vulnerability. 

Whether it's an inch sexually or in any part of their relationship...vulnerability should be appreciated and complimented and encouraged. 

Your response to her discovery of more sexual freedom (big or small) should be, "Oh! How can I love HER more, too?" Not, "Oh, how can I perfect/change/improve her attempts?"

Because the second piece undermines her sexual freedom. That is what saddens me and makes me pray that God will help me do this thing better. 

That's why it grieves me at times that my podcast can be heard by both men and women... because the enemy WANTS your focus to be on yourself. 

The enemy wants you to be focused on whether or not you're getting your "fair share". Or on "how can she love me better". 

But if we can be more like Christ and put the focus on the other "how can I love her better?"

How can her attempts to love me... inspire me to love HER!? That's the heart I believe God wants us to have around this topic.  

This is a part of what our Masculinity Reclaimed program addresses. 

Maybe you have lost all hope that intimacy could be different and you may think you're doing all the right things -- everything I teach you to do, right? But, if it's still not working, you haven't tried the program and that might be the step you're missing. 

Listen to the testimonials please, because you'll hear some stellar men who were doing it "right" and just couldn't get there until they followed the program and got incredible breakthroughs. 

Our whole team will give you 100%, we'd love to have you on the inside!

Schedule a free Clarity Call to get started in our online courses to begin healing your marriage at!

Love, blessings, & prayers,


Apr 3, 2022

I never want to "get over" the miracles we see, daily.

But, you will be blown away by what God continues to do.

It can happen for you.

It can happen for your friend.

It can happen for your acquaintance. 

Families do NOT need to be torn apart.

Husbands do not need to cry in their cars of loneliness due to lack of intimacy.

Kids do not need to grow up fearful and stressed because of the strife in the home.

Ministries don't need to be undermined by leadership infidelity (privately or publicly.)

God can change it all. 

It's not automatic. 

It is a system. 

A strategy.

A... program. 

By God's grace, He uses "Masculinity Reclaimed: Be respected, enjoy fierce intimacy & love being married again" for amazing purposes. 

For His glory. Listen in to understand that the work is heart work but the results are true healing, connection & intimacy.

Could it all be different in just 3 months? Maybe! For these gents -- it was! Join us: 



PS - This cohort closes Monday, April 4, 2022

Join us: 

Apr 1, 2022

(Enrollment is open for Masculinity Reclaimed program -- check it out here -- closes April 4, 2022)


Skeptical. Yep, that's Bill :)  (Ehemm, *was* Bill).

I don't blame him. He had been through it. His first marriage didn't work out. 

He came to peace with being single for the rest of his life, until his (now) wife came along. 

Things were good for a while. Until they weren't. And then that lasted 20 years. 

Bill went through these two major heartbreaks... there's only so much heartbreak we can go through til we don't want to have hope that it could change. 

Why would it. How could it. It's been like this for so long. 

Well, though skeptical, he thought he would try the program just for the betterment of himself. 

And he worked hard -- ups and downs -- because it's real life. But after a year of continuing what he learned -- he's here to say that it can change. 


God brought him closer to Himself than he had been for many years.

And God utterly transformed their marriage.

Truly amazing. 

If you've gone through heartbreak in your marriage. I want you to have hope. It can change. It can. It can. 

You may be skeptical like Bill because of your pain and history. It's ok. But listen and see if God has a reason you should still have hope.

Enrollment into the same program he took: Masculinity Reclaimed: Be respected, enjoy fierce intimacy & enjoy marriage again! is open now (but closes on April 4 at midnight EST). 

Our whole team of graduates would love to serve you and help you to witness God's transformation just like Bill! All for His glory. 

Join us!

Prayers & Blessings,


Mar 26, 2022

Click here to sign up for the all-new Masculinity Reclaimed: Foundations course! THIS Monday, March 28, 2022!


How many broken, sad, dramatic stories have you heard this week, this month, this year? Where hearts are broken and families torn apart? Maybe you're even in a similar situation.

This is why I want to share as many of these transformations as possible. Here's where Steve began...

"I felt like I was looking down a long dark tunnel and there was no light at the end. Divorce wasn't an option. But I was feeling hopeless it could ever be different."

Sadly, this is not the first time I've heard a husband describe his marriage that way. He is committed to Jesus. He loves his family. He wants his kids to grow up in a Godly home, with joy and laughter. And he wants them to see what a wonderful marriage can look like.

But instead, his wife is cold. Stand off-ish. Sex is just a scheduled thing that happens because it's on the (very bottom of) her checklist. A lot of frustration and tension was in their home.

One thing you'll find out about Steve is he's not one to sit idly by letting the marriage disintegrate. This is why when he was searching for podcasts on intimacy, he stumbled on DYM and became an avid listener.  

Well, I am happy to say that after 3 months of, only him doing the work, in fact, she didn't know! He said she had no interest in changing, working on the relationship or certainly not discussing sex... but God has done some awesome things!

I want you to listen today because it's when we hear stories that God puts hope in us to a greater degree (I think) than just direct teaching. It's really through stories that we hear someone's heart and we hear what God has done in them and in their marriages.

If you're struggling... I want you to resist the temptation towards jealousy. And instead rejoice that God is still changing hearts, lives, and marriages! (Even if only 1 does the work!) Steve can give you great evidence that it's worth it even on this side of heaven.

Love & Blessings,

PS - We'd love to have you join the FREE men's course Masculinity Reclaimed: Foundations!! Available for a very short time and will be released starting  Monday, March 28th!

Click here to register for the FREE all-new Masculinity Reclaimed: Foundations course!

A recent grad of the full MR Program wrote:

"DYM has changed me and my marriage, I hope it will be a forever change, but that will depend on me continuing to be the man God has asked me to be.

My wife is responding to me in ways that she has never responded, her love and affection are at all time highs and our intimacy is at a place I have always hoped it would be. I have more energy, focus, and life to give the people around me."
Mar 16, 2022

Duty sex…this is such a huge challenge for SO many couples - on both sides of the aisle!


Husbands and wives, how does our personal approach to sexual intimacy affect our spouse? 


Does sexual intimacy within our marriage lead us toward one another or away from one another?


And if it often or sometimes leads us away from each other, is that our Creator’s intention? How do we fix this? Can it be fixed?


The fact of the matter is, the answers to these questions can be hard to come by! There just isn’t a lot of guidance out there for couples who want a God-honoring sexual relationship in their marriage! 


If sexual intimacy is a gift from our Creator - and we know that ALL of His gifts are good - then why is this area of our lives so often filled with hurt and pain?


Does it really matter whose fault it is? Playing the blame game doesn’t fix the problem, does it. Can one spouse change the dynamics in our marriages? YES - a thousand times, YES!! We’ve seen it! We’ve experienced it!


Here at Delight Your Marriage, God has blessed Belah with a lot of really good advice and encouragement for couples in this specific arena. Yes! There are principles that we can learn and apply to help us grow in our relationships - not just in the area of sexual intimacy, but in the overall connection within our marriage. This is what Delight Your Marriage is all about!


Okay, now this is THE bonus piece of information here that we hope you don’t miss because it can be cliche or common to our ears: THE key of loving others well is to be filled up with Jesus’ love and to lean into loving Him well! He IS love! As we grow in His love, the fruit of the Spirit becomes more abundant in OUR lives! I Cor. 14:1 “Pursue love…”


Would you pause right there and snatch that and think on it for a bit? I’m dead serious! 


You know, we’re similar to a tree. Have you seen a branch on a tree that is partly broken off? What does the branch generally look like? A lot of times the leaves are shriveling up, right? The health of the branch is directly correlated to how well the branch is connected to the trunk of the tree. 


Are we feeling shriveled up? Are we feeling unfruitful? Are we struggling to experience the abundant life that Jesus has offered to us? …That's a good gauge that we need to check our attachment to The Vine. 


Do you need some guidance, accountability, and encouragement to grow in these areas? We want to help you! 

We’re SO excited to announce we are offering a FREE men’s course - it will only be available for a very short time! We offer this only a few times/year. March 28th is when the first lesson will be released. Sign up here if you want to join us!

Mar 11, 2022
I promise I didn't put them up to this...

But I was nervous about what they'd say, so I asked if they'd let me hear it before it went live. 

Golly... made me blush and eyes water. It meant a lot to me. 

But more than that, I hope you feel like you've been invited into our DYM family virtual living room and know that we love you and we care about you. 

This DYM Team is truly amazing. I am honored and blessed to be a part of others doing this amazing work. 

I just came back from sabbatical this week, and things are better than when I left :)

So, God is working through these wonderful individuals and I'm so glad you finally get to meet: Dana, Darcy, Kevin, Vikas, Kyle, and Ali!

I believe that you'll be encouraged to hear more of their stories and their work.

May it comfort you! (If it can happen for them, it can happen for you! Don't lose heart!)

Love & Blessings,


PS -- if you'd like to witness your marriage transform as these team members have (all of them saw dramatic changes in their marriages due to the DYM programs) then get on a call with one of our Clarity Advisors to see how we can help you:

Mar 7, 2022

Have you lost hope of your marriage EVER changing? You're not alone! Many who come to Delight Your Marriage (DYM) have all but given up on their marriages. Some who come here, are separated and/or on the verge of divorce.

Many others, have good marriages but want an even better one!

In regard to the specific challenges that Minister Matt and his wife experienced in their marriage, he shares, "I kind of resigned myself to, 'That's what it is and this is how it's going to be.'"

After finding Delight Your Marriage, "It gave me hope for the first time in a long time."

Minister Matt found the supportive community within DYM to be a key factor to helping guys to continue moving in the right direction. 

For those of you who are in ministry and feel somewhat isolated to get the help you need in your marriage, DYM is the ideal place to come!

Your marriages are likely under a higher level of enemy attack because of your position as a leader in your church or ministry.

We welcome you and offer a safe and godly environment to get the support and help that you need! We love you and want to pour into you and your marriage to release you to better serve in the critical work that you are doing!

Thank you pastors and church leaders for your work! Don't suffer and struggle in silence, don't settle for defeat in your marriage...FIGHT for your marriage, knowing that the battle is with the principalities and powers of the darkness and not a physical battle! DYM will help support you in the battle for your heart, your marriage, and your family!

One of the coolest things that I loved about what Pastor Matt shares on this podcast is that He felt God's encouragement in this pursuit to learn to love his wife well and grow in intimacy with her but He also challenged Pastor Matt that he and God were going to grow in intimacy at the same time!

God longs for our heart and devotion, just as we long for the heart and devotion of our spouse! This is an earnest pursuit for us here at DYM...the heart of God - as He has already pursued us!! Would you like to join us?

We WELCOME you! Schedule a free call with one of our advisors at

Feb 25, 2022

How would you rate intimacy in your marriage…any type of intimacy? 


Do you wonder why intimacy is such a difficult topic in marriage? Do you wish you could understand why husbands and wives see this topic so differently?


How do you know if you’re off target in how you relate to your spouse? 


Maybe you feel like you’re not the one with a problem, it’s your spouse…

“You don’t know what you don’t know!” 

Listen in as Pastor Luke shares how things that he thought he knew and had a handle on, had a whole new light shone on them in Masculinity Reclaimed. He also discovered that some things that he had once found confusing, now seem so clear!


Pastor Luke explains why he thinks Delight Your Marriage is effective, “It’s easy for women to understand how women feel. It’s easy for men to understand how men feel, but if you can find a man who understands women or women who understand men, I think they have a responsibility to help bridge that gap. Belah has it and she is living into that responsibility. She is bridging the gap for men and for women to understand each other and understand how they are different and understand sexuality. What a blessing!”


So, you’ve been hearing about this Masculinity Reclaimed course and wonder just how effective it is. Pastor Luke shares his observation of others in the course with him…


“Twelve weeks is not a lot of time but I think probably every guy was experiencing some change, if not like insane amounts of change over twelve weeks, from just following these simple principles consistently.”


Pastor Luke also says, “The cost was well worth it. I would pay it again…The value was there. The quality was there. The group time with Belah was there…It was worth every single penny. What would you pay to have your marriage filled with intimacy?...I would be really, REALLY surprised if you regretted it after the program.”


We’re here because God cares about marriages and He has equipped Belah and the team here at DYM to help marriages! He loves you and wants to heal and redeem your brokenness! All who are weak and heavy laden, come find rest at our Savior’s feet!  


We invite you to schedule a free call with one of our course advisors to see if we're a good fit for you.

Feb 18, 2022

"I wish I could have done this course before I got married." - Pastor Bennie

This is a statement that we commonly hear at DYM. Whether a marriage is good or bad, whether couples have been married many years or few, marriage after marriage has been profoundly impacted through DYM - praise God!

In this podcast, Pastor Bennie shares about his personal experience taking Masculinity Reclaimed - DYM's main coursework for husbands.

He shares how the course helped him to better understand and love his wife and helps to address heart issues - which is the root of the problem to begin with.

Pastor Bennie shares about the "massive" changes that he and other men in the course with him experienced while progressing through the course.

You know, I don't know where you are in your marriage right now, but I would want for every marriage out there the great results that SO many couples are experiencing here at DYM!

We invite you to consider if this may be the place for you to find breakthrough or even just a brand new level of great in your marriage. It has been that way for all of us on the DYM team, and we love sharing our new normal with everyone else...because you just can't help but share things that have totally changed your life!

You don't have to just take our word for it, Pastor Bennie and so many others have shared their stories, too! We would love for YOU to experience a better, richer marriage, too, so come on in and join us!! - I invite you to schedule a free call with our course advisor to investigate if DYM may be the right fit for you.

Feb 11, 2022

"She felt he was pushing her towards sex and she would pull away and it would make him angry".

After 37 years of marriage, God has done a work in their marriage. Even though they were best friends, this was something that was always this "friction" between them.

She felt like she was up against a wall all the time and being pushed caused her to have no libido.

She had never, ever spoken to ANYONE about sex, ever. And she said now she is able to speak about it. After 37 years of questions and pain, now she's feeling healing.

He thought he was expressing his heart and it was just pushing me farther from him sexually.

She says this freedom in intimacy "impacts everything".

I think this will give you so much hope and insights into what you can do as a husband, and how you can be encouraged as a wife.

God is still transforming hearts!



PS - If you'd like to find out if a program that Julie was discussing that she or her husband went through, join us on a Clarity Call at to speak to a Clarity Advisor (a $300 value, for free) to determine if we can help you like Julie.

Feb 4, 2022

What a fantastic interview with Gary Thomas!

If you're not familiar with him yet, I think you'll be glad that you are now!

Gary has a new book out: Married Sex -- to add to the other books that have been such a perspective shift for me and many I know. His heart is specifically about God's design for marriage as an opportunity to grow closer to Him.

I want to share one specific phrase, the tagline of his bestseller Sacred Marriage, "What If God Designed Marriage to Make Us Holy More Than to Make Us Happy?" That inspires me and encourages me away from secular values and norms, and provokes me to be more aligned with God's will and desires.

But know, dear listener, he believes that enjoyable and pleasurable sex is a great part of God's plan!

How? Well, we talk about tools and tips and understandings around sex and the differences in men and women that can give you a whole different view of what God intended sex to be. 

Gary helps people open their hearts to more. And because you can see so clearly his pursuit for the Lord, it helps to hear him say some things about sex that you might otherwise think are not "appropriate" for a holy person. But the truth is they are and so much more joy can be had in this realm.

Do pick up his book Married Sex and check out more of his work at


It was a true honor to get to speak to Gary in person as I have admired his work from afar. It really has been a huge blessing to me, my understanding of God as well as grace, joy and respect for my own husband. I'm excited for you to get to know him better!



PS - If you'd like to find out more about Delight Your Marriage accountability-based programs and live coaching, you can go to and click on Clarity Calls or other free resources.

Jan 28, 2022
Do you ever feel humbled by your mistakes?

Do you ever feel flat-out humiliated? 


Oh my, do I fall into that sometimes! 

I think the enemy feels glad about that -- and then the shame he heaps upon us while we're recognizing the mistake (and maybe the enormity of it.)


And that's when God's truth (as Kyle, DYM Mentor, reminded me of yesterday) is so helpful.

"Therefore, there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus" Romans 8:1


See, when we go out of our comfort zone and try to do God's work, we're going to trip. And that's normal. 

One reason I hope and pray that you have seen me trip is so that you can have more courage to get out there and do something that God has called you to do also. 

It takes courage, and we're going to trip. I'll raise my hand to that.

We're going to mess up. 

But the nice thing is God is present and He is helping us to get up and get better over and over again.

Note: Perfection isn't even a real possibility anyway -- who gets to decide what "perfect" even is? Who are we trying to impress, really? Which of the billions of humans' opinions are you going to listen to? And what if their opinion changes? 

But if you say, "I'm going to do my best. I'm going to do something bold". You're gonna mess up sometimes. And it's good! 


It feels terrible though. But that means you're still living. Just like a plant, if you're growing it means you're living. 

We have to own it and clean up the mess we made, but thank God you're not perfect and you're still growing. 


Also, the great thing about God, is that He may reveal your imperfections to those who admire you, for the reason that they need to see you as "not God".

They need to see God as God and you as a humble, imperfect servant who is just trying their best to make Him proud. 




Bravo to you. You're out there! You're doing it! 

We're not perfect. We're making a mess, but we're cleaning it up and trying to move forward a bit wiser and more compassionate next time. 


(Also, if you want to see someone "making a mess in public" check out our website right now:

We're in the middle of a refresh. And it's definitely in the "getting there" mode. 

Why didn't we put an "under construction" sign up and reveal once it's perfect? Well, then I would be taking away a lot of ways I serve you, plus how interesting is it to walk into someone's workshop and see what they're tinkering with as it happens? So, you're welcome to see how we're tinkering :)  


Wishing you a fantastic rest of your day, may this episode bless you and give you courage! 





PS -- If you'd like your marriage to go from ok even good to wonderful -- we'd love to help!


Jan 21, 2022

This is a resource to invite your wife to Delight Your Marriage, and to me, Belah Rose. 


I would love for you, husband, to listen first and see if you might use this as a warm introduction to my material. 


It's so easy to see words on a page and be repelled by it, but it's far better for us to get to know each other on a personal level and I'm hoping that's what this episode allows for. 


(For those who have already gone through MR1 -- or are the recent graduating class -- I especially made this for you!)


If you've done the work on yourself, I think it makes sense to pray and ask God for His timing and see if this might be a tool that He can use for a brief and positive introduction to the work. 

The work that is transforming families and marriages around the world -- by God's grace! 



PS -- If you'd like your marriage to have the passion (even if you're really great friends right now), then you need to chat with one of our Clarity Advisors.

Allow them to hear your story and see if a program could truly make the change you're seeking.

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