By the end of this episode, I hope you'll get this, men: Courage. Character. Restraint.
What I really want to share is that if you want your wife to follow you and be turned on by you, cowardice isn't sexy... to say the least.
It's true that the "righteous are as bold as a lion". If you want to grow in courage you must grow in your character.
When you lie to yourself or to others, you are undermining your confidence and courage.
You are the leader of your home. Whether you feel that way or not, what you do (or don't do) creates the culture.
You are the first man your children ever see as a role model.
You are the first husband your wife has ever had.
You are their standard.
If you "follow" your father, and don't realize you're a leader, you will fall into the same issues he had.
But if you realize that you're a lion, you are a leader. You have the opportunity to do everything differently.
It starts with looking at your character.
It starts with not lying.
You must work on integrating all the parts of yourself: your spirituality, sexuality, wealth, family life, etc, etc, etc.
When your character is your focus and goal to increase, you become more courageous. When you can be honest with the tiny, then you can make big decisions easily.
I give some embarrassing examples that I hope you can learn from (at my expense).
Please know I love you and am praying for you.
Blessings,
Belah
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PPS - Here is a quote from a recent graduate:
Before the Masculinity Reclaimed Program: “I often felt disrespected and controlled. To a degree I felt unloved because of the lack of physical intimacy.
I often felt I couldn’t be myself or express my opinion because of the disapproval I would feel when I did. There was anger and indifference growing in me. We were growing further and further apart… hopelessness was making me accept the fact that we would continue to become more and more estranged until one or both of us died.”
After MR: “I have a renewed hope that things can get better. I now have a clearer vision of my role as a husband and how things can and should be. I have grown in confidence by learning what is the path to get there.
I understand my wife so much better now and realize that contrary to what I thought before, she is not broken! Anxiousness about when sex will happen next is pretty much gone.
Our communication is so much better: we have not had an argument since the beginning of the program. I am sharing more of myself now – my wife will not die without knowing her husband of all these years!”