Amber can tell you straight up... God has changed her.
For so many reasons, she would have said her behavior was warranted.
(I know the feeling and have said the words myself!)
And God was kind to open her eyes to her pride.
The pride that was ripping her husband apart.
And yet, God got her attention.
He stretched forth His hand and showed her what she couldn't see on her own.
He used her husband's leadership to bring her to a place of recognition of her sin.
And then she chose the humble and wise way.
I must say I am SO proud of Amber. How she has grown. How she now lives out the joy that God restored to her marriage!
It's worth celebrating. I hope you'll listen and be encouraged by what God has done in her heart (first), (then) in her marriage, and in her family.
Love and gratefulness for our amazing Father,
PS - If you'd like to see how to transform your situation, we'd love to help. The first step is a free Clarity Call: delightyourmarriage.com/cc
Client testimonial... before the ladies program (the state of their marriage):
“Completely overwhelming! It was causing pain and sadness in every area of our lives.”
After the ladies program:
"Our love has grown beyond my imagination. My husband and I are tender and loving and supportive to each other like never before. My husband has truly softened over the last few months through my using the tools in this program. Our fighting has stopped! Arguing is not our way of life anymore. Our children are doing so amazing and I can see them feeling settled and safe. Our intimacy is God honoring and I desire my husband…which was never the case!
Our marriage will never be the same! I honestly rejoice every day that Jesus brought this podcast and program in my life. Thank you from the bottom of my heart!"
There can only be 1 answer to this question:
Yes, or No.
Well, who do you go to to answer questions like this?
Do you have a pastor?
A favorite author?
A porn counselor?
An SA therapist?
A previous user?
Your own experience?
Your own intuition?
Who has the authority in your life to answer this question?
Ahem... "the great Belah Rose?"
Just so we're clear, when I said, "Let there be light"... it stayed dark.
When your pastor said it... when your favorite author/researcher/friend/counselor/author/confidante said it... probably the same.
Maybe there was a window already open, so God's light actually allowed it to be light... but ultimately, they don't have power or authority anywhere, ANYWHERE close to God.
But is He the biggest authority to you?
Does what He says matter to you the MOST?
I invite you to pause. Ponder.
Are His words MOST important?
Let's say, your answer is yes.
But then, how do you know what God says... especially about an exclusively 21st-century issue, i.e. porn?
Well, actually it isn't a 21st-century issue.
And God speaks about it. Many times.
And He clearly answers this question.
I don't know if you want to hear it, but He does speak to it.
Before we get there.
Apathy is easier.
Skepticism is easier.
Laziness is easier.
But just because you don't care (apathy),
or believe (skepticism),
or want to (laziness),
...swim away from the impending waterfall,
doesn't mean it won't kill you when you inevitably get to it.
Do you care what the Bible says? Do you believe what the Bible says? Do you want to discover what the Bible says?
I had a conversation via email with a dear friend about a year ago. I would love for you to read it to learn why I think the Bible should be pursued, is trustworthy, and can be utterly wonderful for you: delightyourmarriage.com/bible
So, to answer this question...
"The great Belah Rose" fears God too much to not tell you:
yes, it is a salvation issue.
"Anyone who looks at a woman with lust has already committed adultery with her in his heart...
better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to be thrown into hell."
Jesus says it is. We're talking about hell. We're talking about lust. We're talking about salvation.
(In Matthew 5:28)
I hope one day this will be true of me...
"I never shrank back from telling you what you needed to hear... either publicly, or in your homes [or in your earbuds].
I have had one message...
the necessity of repenting from sin
and turning to God,
and of having faith in our Lord Jesus."
PS - Next steps:
Repent from your sin.
Turn to God [i.e. read your physical Bible to learn / discover / encounter who He actually is] and have faith in our Lord Jesus.
PPS - There IS hope AND help. Maybe we can help. Jesus most definitely can help! If you’d like to investigate whether or not we can help, we invite you to schedule a free, no obligation Clarity Call at delightyourmarriage.com/cc
Quote from a graduate of Masculinity Reclaimed:
Before MR: "My sex life was a mess before I found DYM. It's really hard to find anyone that will talk to you about sex in a godly way. The world is full of lies, DYM pulls the truth out of the Bible and gives you exactly what you need to get on a healthy trajectory for your marriage and sex life!”
After MR: “I think my biggest celebration is just having the weight of discontentment lifted. It is so frustrating and depressing to be constantly dissatisfied with your sex life. It truly is like carrying around a huge weight. To finally be free of that and realize that I could be satisfied and happy without doing anything but changing my heart posture was amazing. I no longer feel like the victim of a bad marriage, but rather the recipient of a blessed marriage!"
I don't have to tell you that the enemy is out for families. Because the best-case scenario is a mom and dad that love each other raising children that grow up to be the men and women to do God's will in the earth.
So, if the enemy can tear at the soul of the marriage. The most sacred part. The intimacy. Then the family crumbles.
Wayne is so courageous to share what God has done because he knows it can help someone, maybe like you to know you're not alone.
This is a story I've heard many times. Wayne made a big error. One that could have changed his family's future to one completely different with so much pain and heartache.
When he was found out, it was the hardest days of their lives. It was devastating.
A friend told him about Delight Your Marriage.
When he heard Mick's testimonial (Episode 363) he knew he had to do the program and he went ahead.
It wasn't easy for him. It took ownership. It took struggle. It took perseverance. It took time. It took patience.
It took prayer. It took other men rooting him on. Encouraging him. Praying for him.
He didn't give up.
And God healed their marriage.
God healed their connection.
God healed his wife's heart.
There is so much good in that home now. Their many kids feel more relaxed and able to be themselves in the home. Their friendship is stronger. He appreciates all the levels of connection he now enjoys with his wife.
She said, "if you told me this [is how it would be] a year ago, I wouldn't have believed it." He agrees "That's not who I was" but now it is.
God be praised.
I hope you are encouraged by another journey that God is healing families. It's not easy but it is SO worth it.
If you needed this to own your mess and turn your family's future around. It's time. Don't waste any more precious time and join our men's program to transform it all.
PS - Have a conversation with Dana at delightyourmarriage.com/cc to see how we can help you.
PPS - A different husband who graduates next week wrote:
"I feel very different. A kinder, more gentle, caring human being has emerged.
I feel more confident in myself and in my masculinity.
I can safely say that I have learned more in this course than any course I have done in the past, whether secular or religious.
More importantly, no course or teaching has effected such a radical change in my character and behavior as this one."
Maybe it's your turn: delightyourmarriage.com/cc
Driving down the road, crying out to God.
And, maybe, the strongest he's ever heard the Lord responded to him.
It wasn't rebuke. But an invitation.
He saw into the heart of God.
Real tears started rolling down his face.
I invite you to listen to Dan's story.
Maybe it's not unlike yours...
...have a marriage, for some decades.
...have gone through struggles and broken dreams.
...have a couple of children.
...desire to be who God called him to be.
...desire to have the connection with God he hoped was available.
A friend at church shared with him about the podcast.
He started listening to dozens of episodes... and eventually felt he needed to do a call.
He took the courage to have a Clarity Call with Dana.
Then found out his friend did the program and was on the podcast himself testifying of what God had done.
I hope you are encouraged that, just as God spoke to Dan, He wants that level of connection and intimacy with YOU.
I invite you to shut off distractions and go before Him...
...in joy, silence, praise, worship, prayer, bowed head, bowed knee, bowed heart... before our love, God, King and Savior, Jesus Christ.
Also, from a different wife who graduated today:
"What can a blind man who now sees say, except "Praise God! It's a miracle! My life has been forever changed and I will be eternally grateful!"
God did ALL of the work and He gets all of the credit. But He 100% did it through this program."
Sign up for a free Clarity Call: delightyourmarriage.com/cc