My goal today is to inspire a curious heart. 

Could God have really designed men and women differently?

Could your differences truly be HIS design?

Could it be that "in His own image, in the image of God He created them; male and female he created them.” Gen 1:27

Could your husband's member be God-designed?

Could it be that sex is God-designed?

Could there be a reason God's boundaries around this gift are all over the Bible? 

Could loving your husband well (loving your husband the way he receives love) bring God glory?

Love & Blessings,

Belah

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So, I think God gives us opportunities to change all the time.

Change the way we think, the way we are, the way we understand the world. 

And it makes me sad when so many of us choose to assume this is as good as it gets and we're not going to be able to do anything to make it better.

Nothing in the world has ever improved with that kind of thinking.

Ever.

To me, that's a very negative mindset called "wallowing."

I think it's childish, in fact. (I say that with conviction because I've been there far too often myself!)

I think God wants us to take our power back and stand on our own feet and decide to improve what we are discontent about.

Yes, there are sad and bad things going on in the world.

And as followers of Jesus, we DO something about it.

We link arms with a mission or organization doing the work that needs to be done (like the Good Samaritan picking up the beaten man and paying for him to get better at the inn---he didn't start his own inn---he paid someone else to do the work that needed to be done).

So, in your marriage, you need to do one or the other:

1 - Use discontentment to motivate you to change your marriage

We can help. (We are the "INN!" You don't have to make it up -- we know how to fix it by God's grace.) 

Join a program and use your discontentment to change the whole thing! Delightyourmarriage.com/cc

OR

2 - Choose to no longer be discontent, and instead, be grateful for what you have and live in God's purposes in other areas of your life.

You may be quite surprised that things get better as you choose a life of contentment and purpose in God's will. 

Ultimately, take responsibility for your heart and what you choose to meditate on.

Don't be a “Discontent Debbie" or a "Wallowing Walter!”

It's not cute.

And I think it has eternal consequences...

Be a wise gardener of your mind and heart, so that you can have a life and joy that brings honor to Jesus. 

Blessings,

Belah

PS - Would you like to improve your marriage? 

Are you willing to let the Lord grow in you more of His love, grace, and power in your most important human relationship? 

Would you like our help? 

If so, schedule a free Clarity call at delightyourmarriage.com/cc

To fan the flame of hope, a quote from one of our program graduates:

“DYM [Delight Your Marriage] has been a great blessing to our marriage!  

After several years of feeling “stuck” in patterns in our marriage that left both of us feeling alone, hurt, unheard, and without much hope of any real and lasting change, I have found the material, ministry culture, and most importantly, the faith at work through the team of DYM to be exactly what I needed to take real steps of faith in practical ways that mattered to my wife and our marriage.”

Hi, dear sisters.

My husband felt inspired to share some thoughts with you. 

Actually, I was trying to communicate something to wives that I just kept re-recording and re-recording and I just couldn't get it right. 

So I brought in the big guns. Yes... my husband is here to communicate what I couldn't. 

I invite you to see how to CATCH what may be most important for you to hear. 

May God work in your heart as you listen so that you will remember what He wants you to hear through this.

Love, 

Belah

PS - If you are ready to find out how healthy your marriage is, I invite you to find out through this free resource: Marital Health Assessment: delightyourmarriage.com/health

PPS - If you're ready to transform your marriage, join a free Clarity Call (it's such a blessing) at delightyourmarriage.com/cc

Recent Delight Your Marriage program graduate's testimonial:

"After listening to the podcasts for a couple of years, I had hope that this might be a source of real change.

But now that I have participated in MR [Masculinity Reclaimed], I can say that my hopes at the beginning have been greatly exceeded...

In my experience, DYM [Delight Your Marriage] is one of the most Christ-honoring and Spirit-empowered ministries that I have benefited from after following Jesus for 26 years.

DYM would be the first ministry I would recommend to transform a marriage in a real and lasting way."