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Delight Your Marriage

Husbands and wives were designed to be different. You want different things in marriage and intimacy on every level (emotional, spiritual, and physical). Whether you're a wife or a husband, whether you're suffering or pretty good... and you're looking for Bible-based insights and scriptural practical guidance on how to transform your marriage, you've found the right podcast! We have "transformation stories" that will inspire hope that putting into practice these principles, by God's grace, can truly change your intimacy completely. If you're looking to see how to transform your marriage sign up for a free Clarity Call, we can hear your story and work with you to determine if we are confident we can help you: https://www.delightyourmarriage.com/cc
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Apr 28, 2015

Hi there! Belah here. Today I have founder of Covenant Spice talking about her married life and how intimacy changed when she opened herself up to really enjoying it. She and her husband founded Covenant Spice, an online shop featuring intimacy products for married Christian couples. She shares about her wildly conservative upbringing and how it has required a journey through the Bible and discover that there’s a lot more to enjoy than she thought! Listen in as she talks about how it is perfectly okay for a married couple to use more interesting means and make sex exciting for you both!

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All the links, resources, and show notes available at: http://delightyourmarriage.com/25

 

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Apr 24, 2015

Hi there, Belah here. Today is a BONUS (Friday) episode: Part III of Annie Lobert, hookersforjesus.net, and she shares her best intimacy tips for husbands and wives! Tips for how you can turn on your wife tonight. And for the ladies: how you can understand your husband at a whole other level! The underlines the truth that there is hope for your marriage. And I deliver a challenge at the end that I hope you and your spouse pays attention to. I believe God wants to do some incredible things in your marriage and this world. Listen in!

 

Find all the show notes and resources at delightyourmarriage.com/24

 

Challenge links:

For men: Delightyourmarriage.com/dignity

For women: Delightyourmarriage.com/webinar

Apr 23, 2015

Hi there! Belah here. Today is Part II of Annie Lobert, hookersforjesus.net, talks about how one can leave the sex addictions whether it is or inappropriate fantasies, porn, and using call girls. Its so sad but a reality and it is important to understand and be ready to resist. God cares about every person struggling in this sin and He wants to give you hope and inspiration to fight against this significant struggle.

 

All the links, resources, and show notes available at: http://delightyourmarriage.com/23

 

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Apr 21, 2015

Hi there! Belah here. Today, I have Annie Lobert of hookersforjesus.net talking about her story from being coerced and abused in the sex industry. She has been through horrifying experiences, where she was beaten into submission by her then boyfriend who ended up controlling her as a pimp for years and how she was raped at gunpoint multiple times. Since her amazing transformation, she has now been married to an awesome man for 6 years and has 3 step-children, she shares hope in the midst of so much brokenness.


All the links, resources, and show notes available at: http://delightyourmarriage.com/22


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Apr 16, 2015

Hi there! Belah here. Today I have with me Dr. Joel Kahn of drjoelkahn.com and author of The Whole Heart Solution. Dr. Kahn is practicing medical doctor who specializes in cardiology and gives quick, but important keys to support your sexual health. He gives pointers on how to achieve a better lifestyle to support a great sex life, and how wives can support their husbands in this journey toward optimal health. Listen as he explains practical insights on making your health work in the bedroom!

 

All the links, resources, and show notes available at: delightyourmarriage.com/21


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Apr 14, 2015

Hi there! Belah here. It’s just me today, and I will be talking about the vulnerable issue in my life: my struggle with body image and how it has affected my life in general. Every day we are faced with the “standards of beauty.” We are bombarded with skinny women on the covers of glossy magazines, in ads---everywhere we look. It’s about time that we take a look at ourselves a different way; be proud of who we are and for what we are. The body is just a vessel; the soul is the real deal. You are more than your weight. Listen in as I talk about how I struggled with eating disorders, growing up with the teasing, going into a marriage with my insecurities, and how I slowly overcame all these with some steps that you, too, could use in your own lives.

 

All the links, resources, and show notes available at: delightyourmarriage.com/20


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Apr 9, 2015

Hi there! Belah here. Today I have Part II of my interview with Chris Taylor. Chris shares bravely about how serving her husband (at first just to fill his need) has become an incredible place of joy for her as well! Chris is a self-proclaimed feminist (as am I), and she says it’s important for a wife to serve him in the bedroom. She shares the hard work she’s put into improving their marriage, including how she used “stealth growth opportunities” on her husband every chance she got. Listen as she explains how it’s absolutely alright to let loose and be vulnerable; and that in those vulnerable moments, the most tremendous spiritual aspects of intimacy come into play.

 

All the links, resources, and show notes available at: delightyourmarriage.com/19

 

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Apr 7, 2015

Hi there! Belah here. Today I have Chris Taylor of forgivenwife.com shares the struggles that began with two decades of incredibly sparse intimacy. Sex was something she didn’t enjoy because of her guilt due to a promiscuous past. Listen to the pain that’s so evident as Chris shares how sex began to transform her marriage. Though it was a difficult road of humility and change in herself and in her marriage. Sex drew her closer to her husband and God.

 

All the shownotes and resources can be found at delightyourmarriage.com/18

 

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Apr 2, 2015

Hi there! Belah here. This is Part II of my talk with Bonny about her story. Bonny Logsdon Burns of oysterbed7.com made a choice to fight for her marriage. She grew and learned about what her husband needed her to be as a wife. Be a warrior in the bedroom and learn how to increase your sex drive too!

 

All the links, resources, and show notes available at:

http://delightyourmarriage.com/17  


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Mar 31, 2015

Hi there! Belah here. Today I have Bonny talking about her story. Bonny of oysterbed7.com  has been married for 20+ years. Her story is about God’s redeeming power of something that could have broke them. Bonny was raising 3 kiddos almost single-handedly when she learned of a secret that caused her so much pain.

 

All the links, resources, and show notes available at: delightyourmarriage.com/16

 

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Mar 26, 2015

Hi there! Belah here. Finances are the #1 cause for divorce, find out how this marriage survived even having the electricity cut off and not enough gas to drive to church. Today I have Valerie on the show to talk about her marital story. Like all of us, she experienced tough times financially. She shared how hanging tight to God was the best thing she could do for her marriage. Listen in!

 

Check out all the shownotes at delightyourmarriage.com/15.

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Mar 19, 2015

Hi there! Belah here. This is Part II of my interview with Ginny Hannan who shares the habit that she and her husband have developed to make their fights way easier. She also gives some great ideas about having fun in intimacy and just generally lightening up about life’s challenges. I give a little insight into how to choose joy even in the midst of challenges.

 

All the links, resources, and show notes available at:

http://delightyourmarriage.com/13

Mar 17, 2015

Hi there! Belah here. Today I have Ginny here, who shares a heart wrenching story of the challenges she faced when her adopted daughters came home from Colombia. She struggled with serious depression and considered ending her life, but God made a way out. She shares how we can fight depression before it takes hold. It will inspire and challenge you.

 

All the links, resources, and show notes available at:

http://delightyourmarriage.com/12

 

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Mar 12, 2015

Hi there! Belah here. Today my guest is Carrie from theintimatecouple.com. She gives the second half of her interview. Check out Part I "DYM Episode 10: Orgasm Difficulties Revealed".

Carrie talks about the secrets to success in her marriage as well as some steamy sex tips (that have already helped me!) Carrie is incredibly brave and shares the details that will certainly support your marriage.

 

Check out all the shownotes at delightyourmarriage.com/11

Mar 10, 2015

Hi, Belah here.

Today my guest is Carrie of Intimate Couple. She grew up without any education about sex. She didn't know what an orgasm was until she was married. She shares how she moved past these struggles and how to teach your kids the right way about sex. Maybe she wouldn't have had difficulty with orgasm had she been taught the right way.

 

http://delightyourmarriage.com/10

Mar 5, 2015

Hi there! Belah here. Today I have Joyce Penner talking about her story.

Joyce Penner, coauthor of The Gift of Sex (passionatecommitment.com) and her husband Cliff Penner, are internationally recognize sexual therapists. In this episode, she gives her 3 secrets to her marital success. Listen in to hear the vital differences to how a man and woman gets turned on.

 

All the links, resources, and show notes available at:

http://delightyourmarriage.com/9

Mar 3, 2015

Hi there! Belah here. Today I have Joyce Penner talking about her story.

 

Joyce Penner of passionatecommitment.com has been married for 51 years and has 3 married children 7 grand children and one on the way. Their ministry began in 1975 when asked to teach a class on sexuality. They grew up incredibly conservative upbringing and they’ve trusted God with their calling even in the midst of some significant challenges with her daughter’s health.

 

All the links, resources, and show notes available at:

delightyourmarriage.com/8

Feb 26, 2015

Hi there! Belah here. Today I have Jen Smith talking about her story, Part II.

 

She says one common product she had been using caused incredible pain during sex. She also shares about how the specific challenge they faced in marriage brought them closer to God. She gives three specific habits that saved her marriage. 

 

All the links, resources, and show notes available at: 

http://delightyourmarriage.com/7

Feb 24, 2015

Hi there! Belah here. Today I have Jen Smith talking about her story, Part I.

 

Jen Smith of unveiledwife.com has been married for 8 years and has 1 son and another baby on the way! Her passion is motivating every post is to encourage other women in their role as a wife, focusing on the foundational principles about marriage revealed throughout the Bible.

 

Jen talks about the incredible struggle in sexual intimacy starting from their wedding night. But what began as an awkward and embarrassing first meeting turned into a marriage-saving experience.

 

All the links, resources, and show notes available at:

http://delightyourmarriage.com/6

 

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Belah's book---Delight Your Husband: A Christian wife's manual to passion, confidence and oral sex---may be the tool God would use to bring light and joy to your marriage bed. 

If you're at a place of desire for change in intimacy in your marriage--men or women--consider signing up for a free Clarity Call ($500 value!) where you and Belah will dive deep into what's going on in your marriage and help you uncover what is blocking amazing intimacy! From couples that hadn't made love in years to couples who were in an affair--God has brought passion, healing and fun to these marriages!

She's currently offering this 40min Clarity Call opportunity to podcast listeners for free! Schedule here.

 

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Belah's book---Delight Your Husband: A Christian wife's manual to passion, confidence and oral sex---may be the tool God would use to bring light and joy to your marriage bed. 

If you're at a place of desire for change in intimacy in your marriage--men or women--consider signing up for a free Clarity Call ($500 value!) where you and Belah will dive deep into what's going on in your marriage and help you uncover what is blocking amazing intimacy! From couples that hadn't made love in years to couples who were in an affair--God has brought passion, healing and fun to these marriages!

She's currently offering this 40min Clarity Call opportunity to podcast listeners for free! Schedule here.

Feb 19, 2015

Hi there! Belah here. Today I have Jay Dee talking about his story. Part II

 

Jay Dee founded sexwithinmarriage.com/ to help Christian spouses in two ways:

1) to dispel the stigma often associated with talking about sex within the Christian context, and

2) to use that new freedom to discuss sex within marriage, facilitating positive change in Christian marriages in order to further glorify God. He’s been married 13 years, has 4 kids and 1 new baby almost here(!).

 

He shares the truth about how men feel about sex and even how long a husband can go without it. You’ll hear about the meaning men associate with lovemaking! So, we’re coming into the conversation where Jay is telling me about the role he played in turning his marriage around.

 

All the links, resources, and show notes available at:

http://delightyourmarriage.com/5

 

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Belah's book---Delight Your Husband: A Christian wife's manual to passion, confidence and oral sex---may be the tool God would use to bring light and joy to your marriage bed. 

If you're at a place of desire for change in intimacy in your marriage--men or women--consider signing up for a free Clarity Call ($500 value!) where you and Belah will dive deep into what's going on in your marriage and help you uncover what is blocking amazing intimacy! From couples that hadn't made love in years to couples who were in an affair--God has brought passion, healing and fun to these marriages!

She's currently offering this 40min Clarity Call opportunity to podcast listeners for free! Schedule here.

Feb 16, 2015

Hi there! Belah here. Today, I have Jay Dee talking about his story.

 

Jay Dee founded sexwithinmarriage.com/ to help Christian spouses in two ways:

1) to dispel the stigma often associated with talking about sex within the Christian context, and

2) to use that new freedom to discuss sex within marriage, facilitating positive change in Christian marriages in order to further glorify God. He’s been married 13 years, has 4 kids and 1 new baby almost here(!).

 

He shares the difficulties of his marriage, from years of sexlessness and pornography addiction to an incredible and passionate partnership with his wife!

 

All the links, resources, and show notes available at:

 

http://delightyourmarriage.com/4

 

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Belah's book---Delight Your Husband: A Christian wife's manual to passion, confidence and oral sex---may be the tool God would use to bring light and joy to your marriage bed. 

If you're at a place of desire for change in intimacy in your marriage--men or women--consider signing up for a free Clarity Call ($500 value!) where you and Belah will dive deep into what's going on in your marriage and help you uncover what is blocking amazing intimacy! From couples that hadn't made love in years to couples who were in an affair--God has brought passion, healing and fun to these marriages!

She's currently offering this 40min Clarity Call opportunity to podcast listeners for free! Schedule here.

Feb 16, 2015

Hi there! Belah here. Today I have J Parker talking about her story.

 

J Parker has been married for 22 years and has two teenage sons. Her mission is to encourage sex & marriage by God’s design was inspired by her personal story and God’s beautiful nudging.

 

She shares about the key things she has learned through her many years of marriage. J also gives tips on sexual intimacy. J reveals the issues she sees most often with women on her blog and what they can do to feel great about sex!

 

All the links, resources, and show notes available at:

http://delightyourmarriage.com/3

 

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Belah's book---Delight Your Husband: A Christian wife's manual to passion, confidence and oral sex---may be the tool God would use to bring light and joy to your marriage bed. 

If you're at a place of desire for change in intimacy in your marriage--men or women--consider signing up for a free Clarity Call ($500 value!) where you and Belah will dive deep into what's going on in your marriage and help you uncover what is blocking amazing intimacy! From couples that hadn't made love in years to couples who were in an affair--God has brought passion, healing and fun to these marriages!

She's currently offering this 40min Clarity Call opportunity to podcast listeners for free! Schedule here.

Feb 15, 2015

Hi there! Belah here. Today I have J Parker talking about her story.

 

J Parker of hotholyhumorous.com has been married for 22 years and has two teenage sons. Her mission is to encourage sex & marriage by God’s design was inspired by her personal story and God’s beautiful nudging.

 

She shares about the difficult season in her marriage wrought with pain and isolation. But then she shares how she was able to be proactive and make significant changes which became the incredible (and hot!) relationship that it is today!

 

All the links, resources, and show notes available at:

http://delightyourmarriage.com/2

 

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Belah's book---Delight Your Husband: A Christian wife's manual to passion, confidence and oral sex---may be the tool God would use to bring light and joy to your marriage bed. 

If you're at a place of desire for change in intimacy in your marriage--men or women--consider signing up for a free Clarity Call ($500 value!) where you and Belah will dive deep into what's going on in your marriage and help you uncover what is blocking amazing intimacy! From couples that hadn't made love in years to couples who were in an affair--God has brought passion, healing and fun to these marriages!

She's currently offering this 40min Clarity Call opportunity to podcast listeners for free! Schedule here.

Feb 15, 2015

Hi there! Belah here. Today it’s just me, sharing my story and what this podcast at Delight Your Marriage is all about!

 

I founded delightyourmarriage.com to help wives live in wholehearted intimacy with their spouses. What does that mean? I want you and your marriage to be amazing. Why? Because when you have an incredible marriage you can do so much more of what God wants for you and your life.

 

How do I know? I share of my ignorance of sex growing up and how I was rudely awakened to it’s realities as a young bride. Then how God taught me some significant lessons through the place of pain and what happened.

 

All the links, resources, and show notes available at:

http://delightyourmarriage.com/

 

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Belah's book---Delight Your Husband: A Christian wife's manual to passion, confidence and oral sex---may be the tool God would use to bring light and joy to your marriage bed. 

If you're at a place of desire for change in intimacy in your marriage--men or women--consider signing up for a free Clarity Call ($500 value!) where you and Belah will dive deep into what's going on in your marriage and help you uncover what is blocking amazing intimacy! From couples that hadn't made love in years to couples who were in an affair--God has brought passion, healing and fun to these marriages!

She's currently offering this 40min Clarity Call opportunity to podcast listeners for free! Schedule here.

 

 

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delight your marriage episode one.
Welcome to the delight your marriage podcast, the show where you hear from amazing and inspiring wives sharing their struggles, triumphs, and advice for this journey called marriage. Here's your host, belah Rose.
Hi, this is belah rose. And I'm so excited that you have joined me today. I am really thrilled that delight, your marriage is finally up, I have kind of been working on it as a heart project for a long time. And now you will hear are listening to the first episode. So I was so excited. Basically, this project is my own pursuit of living wholeheartedly in my marriage. And my desire is that you come along and have a wholehearted life experience in marriage as well. Because ultimately, don't we all want to get to our 80th birthday, holding our husband's hand and smiling thinking of all the amazing memories that we've had together? Well, that's my vision of what it looked like at my 80th birthday. So anyway, I want to give a little bit about the structure of the podcast and let you know what the plans are on how often it will happen. I also want to tell you a little bit about my story and my struggles and why I'm passionate about marriage. So here's the deal, the podcast will come out Tuesdays and Thursdays. And it will be an interview from an inspiring wife or an expert on emotional spiritual or sexual intimacy. Because each one of those facets make up the intimacy that we're talking about in marriage. So I'm excited to bring you their stories of some struggles in their marriages. And some really great times as well as what they've learned along the way. I asked each of them also for a tip about sexual intimacy. Because really, how can you learn enough about that area? So why am I interested in all of this, and why is sexual intimacy so important to my heart in my life is I grew up really ignorant of it. And I think that's often a lot of people's stories, I grew up a Christian, I had a great childhood, really, I'm very grateful for many, many things. There were some struggles in my childhood, as well. But to give you a little bit of a picture, I grew up kind of on a farm in a rural area. So lots of animals with horses and sheep and goats and chickens and whatever else. So there was lots of physical hard work all the time. And I think my parents felt like that was healthy for kids. And I think it is, you know, lots of things to do. But I think they thought things like sex would never come up, because we had so many other things to talk and think about, which, you know, I understand that they didn't want their kids to be exploring before they should and whatever else, but turned into getting to middle school not knowing a thing about sex and what everyone else is talking about. And I remember in middle school, there was a boy who was really popular and sitting next to me, was science class, I think. And he decided to tell me the gossip around the popular kids, I guess was that some boy had an erection in gym class. And, of course, I didn't know the slang term that he used. And I didn't know at all what any of that meant. And I was completely humiliated and turned completely red in the face. And I asked my friend who was very knowledgeable on the subject, and she kind of blew my mind with what a penis actually is in sex, and I just had no clue. So I came home completely frustrated with my mom, so angry yelled at her for not telling me anything about this whole topic. Well, unfortunately, my yelling didn't help the situation. And in fact, I pretty much got no further instructions on the matter at all. So when I got to college, I was still a virgin. And I met this guy who showed a lot of interest in me from the get go. He was very complimentary and flattered me quite a bit. He was much older than me. So it was just a very interesting thing. It was he ended up being my first boyfriend and then we pretty quickly after that got married, and it was a really, really tough marriage. I was completely unaware of. Most of what goes on in a marriage. I just really wasn't prepared to have sexual intimacy. I wasn't perfect. to have constructive and healthy arguments, I just couldn't. Really, there were just so many areas that I didn't understand, coming into marriage. And I mean, I wasn't the only one, I think my husband at the time was very.
Maybe he had some expectations that weren't fully understood by me. And there were just, there was a lot of issues. And sex especially was a huge issue for me, I just couldn't understand how it was a good thing and how, you know, there was a lot of physical pain involved. I mean, I just, I was kind of a mess, I didn't understand why my body didn't just kick into gear when the clothes came off is not what was happening in the movies. So yeah, didn't work out. But, you know, I worked really, really hard. I read, I don't know, dozens, at least books during that time, about sex about marriage. And I just, it was above my head there, there were just so many broken parts of our marriage. And so many areas. I mean, there wasn't mutual respect, there was just a lot. So the point is, we got divorced, I guess, two years into the marriage, and maybe two and a half. And after that, I just decided, You know what I'm done. I did what God told me to do. And I saved sex to marriage. And it was terrible, and I hated it. And it was never good for me. So after that, I use sex really, as a weapon. And I was really promiscuous for a couple of years, and just didn't value sex at all, I just felt like there was nothing of value here. It's really just a power game. And so now, I feel like I'm sexy and desired. So I can kind of use that to entice whomever I want to, and then, you know, and act like it didn't matter in the end. Now. As I'm sure many other women have discovered, I also discovered that my heart really hurt after, you know, sleeping with someone, that didn't matter to me, I woke up the next day, pretty, pretty empty. And also, I became attached to a couple of these guys. And I meant nothing to them. And it wasn't reciprocated, and it really, really hurt. So looking for another fling, I got this crush on this guy at work. And then I learned slowly that this guy really, really cared about me. And it was kind of shocking, because I haven't been cared about like that ever before. And he really valued me as a woman. And I remember one time we were sitting over breakfast, and I literally just felt warm tears streaming down my face as just the revelation of how much this man cared about me. Because it struck me because for years, I've been living in this understanding of, I'm only valued because of my sex. I'm only valued because I'm beautiful. And guys want to have sex with me. And yet, here's this person that is telling me that I'm valued for much, much more than that. Like, he would ask me almost consistently, this one question that I thought was so funny, it asked me, Are you okay? And, I mean, that has never been normal for me ever to even think about my emotions like that. I was always like, we're thinking about other people and other things and other situations. And we're having fear about this, and that, and that's kind of how I grew up. But never to really like, consider him. Am I okay. And that was just his personality. He was a huge blessing. And so anyway, we started dating, and then, about two years into our relationship, I was just so afraid, because it was so wonderful. We were having such an amazing time. But I started getting afraid, like, is this going to end? Is this the guy that I should marry? Am I going to make a huge mistake by marrying this guy? After here? I made this huge mistake before and I just got super nervous. And it was also around the time that we started going to church together. It was kind of amazing, because he had not believed in God at all. I, again was raised Christian, but then went away from it after my marriage ended. So I had asked him if we could start going and kind of slowly happened that he was willing to come with me. And we started getting involved in the community and people were really kind and he started enjoying it. And I really enjoyed the teachings and it was kind of amazing how we started to go there. And I remember my pastor had said something about well, he wanted me I'm older. team actually, and I knew I was having sex outside of marriage, I knew that was wrong in the Christian faith. And
when there was a leadership conference about basically, you know, as a leader, these are kind of the expectations. One of them is, you know, sex within marriage. And I just was honest about what we were doing. And he kind of gave us some encouragement that it is possible to stop and you guys should really get married if, if this is the level of intimacy you want to have with each other. Yeah, so I was I was kind of in this, like fearful game of is this the person that I'm gonna spend the rest of my life with? Or is this someone that, you know, was a fling and made me feel good about myself, and it was just an ego trip the whole time. So I went on kind of self exploration, very unhealthy self exploration. And I basically ended up hurting my boyfriend at the time, very deeply in that, just breaking up with him and kind of just getting Yeah, really hurting him. But thank God, I was able to realize that this is the person I want to spend the rest of my life with. And I basically can't breathe, thinking about us not being together. So I had had my wedding ring well, so it was my grandmother's ring. It wasn't her wedding ring, but she had some beautiful diamonds on it. And I gave it to him and asked him when he was ready, I would love to receive it back at some point. And he knew that I was serious at that point that that I wasn't going to run away. Again, it was a it was a definite thing. So a couple of weeks later, he actually had the diamonds put into a new setting very beautifully. And he proposed. And we had a great wedding, great party, and we had a baby shortly thereafter. And now we've had another one. And it's just been an incredible marriage, it is kind of blown my mind how wonderful it's been. Every day, I kind of wake up amazed that God has given me such an amazing husband and life. But after we got married, that's when we started getting really involved in our church. And I was able to repent of all my past sin all my past sexual sins, with my boyfriend at the time now my husband, and also the other things that I listed. So I felt a huge sense of relief after getting married really, like I wasn't expecting it. But it totally opened the door for me to become close with God close with friends. And here I am today. So as I said, I grew up without a great role model. In terms of my parents, they both divorced when I was, well, I was an adult, but it's still I mean, even as an adult, it's just not, it's not as great as you would love it to be so. So I didn't have great examples of marriage. So how am I supposed to learn to have a good marriage without examples, and, you know, having had a first experience with marriage is being so terrible. So really horrible. I've been scared really, that this marriage could in the same way if I'm not really careful. And I think that gives me a pretty unique perspective, because I have seen what it looks like on the other side, and have recognized that the mistakes you make, and the offhanded comments and the disrespectful remarks, and just the way you are with each other on a daily basis adds up and makes for a pretty horrible experience. And I recognize in my marriage now that, you know, I don't want to go down that road, I don't want all these little things to add up into a giant, giant barrier between us. And so that's something I really have seen the difference between a really difficult marriage and a really great marriage. And I see how God can use each. So the first one definitely taught me a lot. I mean, often when you're in the worst struggles of your life, you learn the most. So I learned that I need to be kind, I need to be patient and gracious. And you know, I just don't want it to get into that spot ever again. And then. Now being in an amazing marriage. I've learned that God wants us to have amazing marriages because he can do a whole lot more in us and through us. You know, when you're in a difficult spot in your marriage, it's all consuming. I mean,
you just can't think of anything else. You're crying all the time or angry all the time or stressed all the time. I mean, I cry a lot so that's my, that's my go to. But you know, it just, it's so different when you're in a good spot with your marriage, that you have this emotional and mental space that you wouldn't otherwise have, you've got this energy for life and the things that God wants to do, you just you want to go with God in those pursuits, because you're just so fulfilled in your marriage. It's just amazing how God set it up. So yeah, so that's really the where my passion has come from, and where I want those that listen to get to, I want you to get to a place of real fulfillment and joy in your marriage, because it's going to affect every other area of your life. We need to hear from women that have been successful, how have they made it 30 plus years, or even 789 years, successfully, and, you know, everyone's at different stages of marriage in marriage. So I wanted to hear from experts that have been able to do it for like I said, you know, 1020 3040 years, and learn from their mistakes and learn from their struggles and, and hear their testimony. And so, we have some amazing guests that have really sorted through their really challenging heart stuff. And, you know, there is vulnerable with you as I was just with you here a couple minutes ago, and they really want to help your marriage. And it's so great. Because I've been able to learn from them, I've been able to grow myself. And you know, it's just so cool to hear that you're not alone, that you're not alone in this difficulty. You're not alone, in the challenges that you face. But you can rely on God, and you can hear other stories, and you can be inspired by them. So please stick around, you know, check out the podcast, check out the blog, check out the comments section, you know, share what is on your heart there. So I'm also an author, I wrote a book called delight your husband, which is really about getting through all of your reservations as a Christian wife, and getting to the place where you can be creative and spice up the bedroom and really feel competent and confident in the place of sexual intimacy with your man. So that is delight your husband calm. And like I said, This podcast is delight your marriage.com Each of the shows is going to be about 45 minutes. This one's a little shorter, because I wanted to just give you an overview of what it's going to be like. But I asked the questions that I'm hoping that are on your heart, too, when you hear from someone and you hear their story. And you're like, Oh, I'd love to know about this. So I really try to come at it from the angle of what would you want to hear from these, again, experts, the people that have been able to do marriage and do it well, and really have the kind of life that each of us want in our marriage. I'm so happy that you decided to join me today. And yeah, I'm really looking forward to talking more with you and learning more about you. I hope that you'll share your story with me. I hope that you'll email me belah at delight your marriage.com and we'll be in touch soon. Blessings, love you and I'm praying for you and I'm praying for your marriage. Talk to you soon. Bye.
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